All men cheat

[laviniamarie]

I was having a coffee with a friend this morning she's literally just left and I can't get my head round what she's said, we were talking about our lives and husbands and shes let it slip her dh had an affair several years ago and she thinks he's at it again.

I never had any words of advice as my own dh would never do such a thing and I was quite shocked to hear her say that "every man would cheat given an opportunity" apparently she thinks that of he thinks he will never be caught he will do it.

What are your thoughts on this? To me it's utter bullshit, I have been married 6 years and my husbands whole world revolves around me and our children. He's a genuinely lovely human being and I don't think he would ever cheat but according to my friend he would if he thought he'd never be caught.

If you could tell who cheated them no-one would marry them and there'd be no cheating surely?

it's good that you've got faith in your partners but faith is only a belief

I'll continue to have confidence in my marriage. Your opinion of that is entirely inconsequential to me.

I’ll just leave these Oxford definitions here:

Confidence:
the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something.

Belief:
an acceptance that something exists or is true without proof.

Faith:
strong or unshakeable belief in something, esp without proof or evidence.

Come back when the dictionary changes or you develop psychic precognition – whichever happens first.

Well, exactly. Do I have complete faith in my husband? Yes. Do I KNOW he would never cheat? Of course not.

I used to work in an industry where people worked away a lot and there were often some social overnight trips / company outings as well. I was often the only woman so they tended to forget I was there.

Of 30 men I would say I knew relatively well over several years the majority cheated. The ones who I thought least likely to cheat seemed to be the most likely to use sex workers.

Many appeared to genuinely love their wives and families and if I hadn’t known I would have said they were decent, moral men.

I can honestly say there is only one who I would wager money against not doing so and I can’t even tell you exactly why I’m sure of him.

Of course, this is only a sample and the working away, industry, peer acceptance, does not mean it’s the norm but I do think many men, if not most, would.

I wonder why you care so much about this. So much that you're copying and pasting dictionary definitions! 😅 Anyway, that's for you to work through...

Because you seem to not understand either the English language or your capabilities as a mere human being to not be psychic – or both 🤣 No, nothing to work through. I’ve never been cheated on, cheated myself and have never suspected it either.

My mum used to say you can only ever be 100% certain about yourself.

now that’s not to say you can’t be 99% sure that your husband will never cheat and he probably would never cheat.

Again, I wonder why this has touched such a nerve for you. And again, that's for you to work through.

It hasn't touched a nerve.