All men cheat

[laviniamarie]

I was having a coffee with a friend this morning she's literally just left and I can't get my head round what she's said, we were talking about our lives and husbands and shes let it slip her dh had an affair several years ago and she thinks he's at it again.

I never had any words of advice as my own dh would never do such a thing and I was quite shocked to hear her say that "every man would cheat given an opportunity" apparently she thinks that of he thinks he will never be caught he will do it.

What are your thoughts on this? To me it's utter bullshit, I have been married 6 years and my husbands whole world revolves around me and our children. He's a genuinely lovely human being and I don't think he would ever cheat but according to my friend he would if he thought he'd never be caught.

I don't think she's miles off. Of course it's not all. These threads are always full of statistical unlikelihood

The friend stayed after her husband cheated and thinks he’s doing it again. She knows he’s shit and has demonstrated she’ll tolerate it.

I was married to my wife for over 45 years, never cheated.

Had many opportunities across the earlier years but never, ever acted ion them.

My loyalty was always to my wife.

No. I imagine chalking this up to an inevitable outcome might be the only comforting thought to be had though if your own dh were a cheating arsehole.

I was quite shocked to hear her say that "every man would cheat given an opportunity" apparently she thinks that of he thinks he will never be caught he will do it.

I think it helps her deal with her husband having an affair to believe that every man would do it.

Same here.

In my experience about 60% of men cheat, many not physically but by having emotional affairs.
Many of the lovely guys I know who help at the Saturday football club, adore their wives, would help anyone do cheat.
Something strange happens to many men in their late 40’s and it often involves a 23 year old from work.

This!

It’s more true than not.

Nope. I trust my dh 100%. He’s had women try it on and he’s politely but firmly refused

And often when the partner finds out they are in utter shock as they had thought that they were with someone who wouldn't ever cheat. I think it is the utter disbelief and shock they feel which feeds into the inference that all men must cheat.

Total bullshit.
And no, I'm not in denial.
I've been with DH for 20 years and know him inside out and he would not cheat. And he does get the opportunity as he works away from home.

Not my man.. not ever!

Absolutely not this. My DH would never cheat.. anymore than I would cheat on him.

No all men will not cheat.

But it’s not possible to know who will and who won’t. I thought mine wouldn’t and he did.

And I had been with mine for 25 years

So it seems few mumsnetters’ DH’s would cheat except on the relationship board where every other post is from a surprised woman whose DH has.

They slept with other women?

No idea if my husband would cheat or not but as I haven't organised I would be extremely surprised

🤣🤣

I was talking about this with a friend and we both said we can never imagine our partners/husbands cheating. My sil husband cheated on her which none of us saw coming but all you can do is have faith in your husband as I do in mine and carry on.

It says that not ALL men will cheat, perhaps you're one of the lucky ones 🤷‍♀️

The majority don't cheat.

People who say this have bad experiences with men. My ex was a prick but my now DH just wouldn’t and I know that otherwise we wouldn’t be together.