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Bloody Prize giving

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AllienOlliemum · 14/05/2024 16:47

I have 3 DC in the same school, it's a grammar school and tends to achieve very good results. Every year they do prize giving. There are two award categories, Excellence and Effort.
Last year I queried what exactly excellence is in this case and was told "The excellence awards are decided by each department as a whole and considering attainment, attitude, progress and effort" the second award category is simply for effort.
In the upper school (Y10-13) 3 students are selected for each subject and ranked 1st, 2nd and 3rd for excellence, and 3 students (if enough uptake of the subject) are given effort, not ranked). In Lower school (Y7-9) 5 students are selected for excellence, not ranked and 5 for effort not ranked.

Today the upper school prize giving awards list was sent out. The actual ceremony is at the end of June but I guess it's because some leavers will have to plan around it. My eldest DD is in Y11, sitting her GCSEs and for the 5th year running not a single award. She has fantastic predicted grades and we are frequently told how hardworking and diligent she is. As per usual though it's the same kids as always. In fact one girl has an award in every single subject she must have taken, 7 Excellence awards and 3 Effort! With 1st in 5 of those! She also seems to have won the award for an essay writing competition and the award given by the historical society!
My other two children (Y8 and Y9) have also never received an award to date but the lower school awards aren't announced until middle of June.
Last year I queried how it is possible one child wins all the awards and was told the departments select their own winners and can't know who the other departments have chosen.
There are also non academic awards such as Integrity, but typically it's always the same students who get these too.

AIBU to be massively pissed off with this bloody system which is centred around favouritism!
It's every good damn year!

OP posts:
ThinPurpleLine · 24/05/2024 21:45

You can always get your own awards for your hard-working youngsters to provide some encouragement. It deserves something, whether it is getting to school every day or being helpful in class.

Sports like football or cricket have many awards and even sports days with cups and medals.

5128gap · 24/05/2024 22:21

Your DD is old enough to be working hard for the real rewards that will bring. Access to her A level and uni courses she wants to do, then onto her career of choice. A school award might be a 'nice to have' but it really shouldn't be an incentive, as hard as you try, you can never legislate against someone else out performing you. So it's important to learn the only competition is with yourself and being satisfied with knowing you've done your personal best. Because in the adult world vanishingly few of us our award winning in our fields, and doing a good enough job has to be good enough.

M0therly · 05/06/2024 10:24

No advice but just wanted to know if it’s normal for schools to send a list out? My DD is in year 7 at a private school so just wondering the likely hood of a list coming out. (Of course I could ask the school or other parents but don’t want to sound keen!) 😂

Tiredalwaystired · 05/06/2024 15:46

That will totally vary depending on the school so you’re better off checking with other parents of older kids. Ours ONLY communicates with the families of those that have won so it’s off the radar for the majority of children.

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