AIBU to not see an issue/not consider it blackmail

[ARichtGoodDram]

I’ve been contacted by the parent of my DD’s friend (they’re both 11) ranting about my DD “blackmailing” their DD.

Their DD wants to go somewhere. My DD doesn’t fancy it, but has said she’ll go if her friend then goes with her to an event she wants to go to.

Both events are similar length of time and cost.

To me this is an entirely fair swap. However, the other parent is raging because DD can easily (in their opinion) ask another friend or one of her siblings to go with her whereas her friend can only ask her.

When I said I don’t see the issue in them both attending something they don’t massively fancy as a swap thing I’ve had a ranting message back and been blocked. This parent is normally very level headed so I’m just checking I’m not missing something

Sounds like your DD has a good handle on friendship and compromise. Legitimately what relationships are built on.

good job momma!

edit: other mom crazy, has her own issues whatever, not yours too deal with.

I also see it as children learning to compromise and support each other in things they are interested in. Was a nice thing until the other bat shit mother labelled it as 'blackmailing'.

Sounds like your DD's friend's Mother has a serious personality disorder. Really sad for your DD's friend to have her Mum's behaviour impact her ability to socialise with friends.

ynbu.
honestly the other mother is probably jumping to conclusions.
I can imagine a conversation between mother and daughter that goes something like “friend did you ask OP DD if she wants to go to X with you?”
friend “yeah but she said she’d only go if I went to Y with her”
“well do you want to go to Y?”
“not really but if I don’t then OP DD won’t go to X with me so I’ll have to won’t I?”
And then mums got upset over this and it has escalated from there. Neither you or your DD did anything wrong from the context given here.