What is wrong with some women!

[Alltheshoes74]

Went out for a few cocktails with my husband Saturday evening, we were sat at the bar having a lovely time. I went to the loo and got chatting to some girls in there. Later in the evening they passed us and said hi and stopped for a chat. One was local and one was not - the local girl was mid 30's, single mum. We are older - she could be my husbands daughter! I didn't notice anything odd then as we left it turns out she asked my husband for his number!! What on earth! I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all. Am still horrified that someone would do that - even when i was young and single I'd never dream of doing that.

That sounds like an urban myth.

I think I would be amused and maybe a little pleased that he's mine.

I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all

His ego is bursting because a woman young enough to be his daughter apparently asked him for his number? If this happened and he was amazed at the brazen behaviour after he'd said 'No' to this woman, why is he so pleased about it?

On any other day, posters would be talking about 'creepy men' in the context of your husband's bloated ego but... this is MN, home of the hatred for any woman who might be an OW, even if they are not.

Where are you going that you see all these affairs starting and are actually witnessing young women instigating them with middle aged men? Genuinely curious because I was once a young woman, and I now know lots and lots of young women, socialise and work with them, get out and about all over the place, but have genuinely never witnessed a young woman starting an affair by pursuing a middle aged man. Not saying it never happens but I'm curious as to how you have personally repeatedly seen it happen. Do you mix in circles where the older men are very rich?

Exactly- it's not like it's unheard of for men to be sleazy 🙄

I had a similar experience when on a night out with my exDH. We were sitting together in a booth at a bar and there was a woman doing her best to catch his eye and dance provocatively near our table. It made me cringe. I’d never try and flirt with a man sitting with his wife. He was too busy looking at the band playing to notice but I remember thinking she had some bloody cheek. Some women are just callous bitches.

Some women are predatory....nowadays anything goes complete lack of morals!

It is weird after they were friendly and chatting to you in the toilets...wonder what her game was/motive to do that?!

Some women are just that brazen and straight forward especially after a few drinks

But if your husband told you she asked him, surely there was some context to the conversation they were having ie a reason for keeping in touch? What were they talking about? Or was it a general chit chat and she was prob thought he's a nice/funny/whatever guy I'll ask him for his number type of thing?

Please re read my post. I don’t just “think”this I have experienced and witnessed it. Of course men pursue young women. I remember a man trying to get me into bed so took hold of my hand and turned my engagement ring around so that the diamond was out of sight. There are a lot of skanky men AND women out there.

The men don’t do it in front of each other though. Presumably because it could result in a punch up.

That seems like a weird leap

That's bloody terrible 😞

I had this with my ex. Really astounding how brazen people can be.

It's less shocking when men do it, we've much lower standards and its pretty common. My best friend left a function early a few weeks ago because some sex pest who's wife was with him, kept winking at her and trying to give her his number when his wife was in the bathroom.
She said it just ruined the vibe of the party for her.

When I was out on a date once some woman on a hen do asked me was he my partner, I explained it was our second date, she said, "so it's fair game?", and proceeded to dance around him and at one point (this I promise is the truth, not a lie, mere exaggeration, just fact) took out one of her breasts and licked her nipple whilst winking at him.
She then tried to start a fight with me.
Unfortunately for her, it was in the pub I worked at and her and her hens were thrown out. I felt bad for the woman who's hen it was, but she was just gross.

The bloke wasn't exactly Brad pitt, just a quiet night and he was one of the few men in there. Wish they'd got together tbh, would have saved me a few months of his bullshit.

I don't think scummy behaviour is specific to sex, both are equally capable of shit behaviour.

I swear there are more and more made up threads on the increase.
Didn’t happen.

I (man) have been hit on by very attractive women young enough to be my daughter, and I am not a great catch.
The bulk of young women would obviously barely notice I exist. It is a small minority of women who are into much older men.

Yes@RosaMoline I will be filing this one in my folder marked ‘Things that didn’t really happen’ 😂

This site is mental
must be him at fault somehow.

im a bloke. I’ve had women ask if I’m single, then say “take my number anyway” when I say I’m not. It’s not like it happens every week but it’s not vanishingly rare either.

How old is your husband, op?

I fancied an older (much more senior) colleague at work before– I was about 27, he was prob about 40. I liked his personality – he was a good egg, funny, sociable – he was successful (nowt to do with money, maybe more to do with status, respect for him professionally, the self-assurance and energy that comes with it), and nice eyes, not the same looks wise as guys my own age, but I found him attractive.

Perhaps not quite as big a gap as OP is talking about.

I didn’t start an affair with him! And wouldn’t pursue someone married. But was interested when he got divorced a bit after.

Also dated someone about 37 when I was 19 – just because he was fit and I fancied him (didn’t see him as suitable relationship material with the gap – obvious inadequacy on his part to be not dating someone closer to his age).

Most of my boyfriends have been about 5 years older (ie pretty much the same age).

100% agree - sorry, OP - random woman owes you nothing.

I went to a ticketed New Year’s Eve party with DH a few years ago. There was a woman sat next to him that he happened to have dated briefly in his teens. She was leaning her head on his shoulder and saying “I wonder what would have happened if we’d stayed together, I wonder what our kids would have looked like!” Fortunately I’m not the jealous type and just found it a bit tragic.

Sometimes it’s not funny though 🤔. My DH is a very handsome half Italian man (fuck knows what he’s doing with me 🙃). We were in a pub one night and the barmaid (who was his mum’s neighbour and had talked to his mum about how attractive DH is) glared at me all night and then when I went to the bar she turned her back on me and walked away. It was a very uncomfortable night for me!

Brutally OP, the only people who have an obligation to respect the marriage vows you and DH made to each other are you and DH

Nothing to do with the rest of us. We can merrily request numbers all night long if we want to. It won't matter a bit so long as you and DH stay true to each other

Social mores try to cultivate deference to a visible partner or wedding band, but don't really succeed, because society at large hasn't made you any promises, and has no responsibility for your marriage

Whilst this may be true, who the fck would want a man who cheats so easily on his partner with a stranger?- like, really, you think thats such a prize example of a real man?

Bloody hell some people's standards are lower than the floor.

WTAF.

I reckon she was touting for business OP.