To ask if you would date a guy who...

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• Has visited a brothel in the past and paid for services?
• Does recreational drugs with friends every few months (weed, MDMA, mushrooms, coke)
• Has a cross dressing fetish?

Interested to hear others thoughts on the above points to help me move on from being dumped by this guy.

YABU - Yes. I'd date him.
YANBU - No. You've dodged a bullet.

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Stimulant drugs taken in quantity and over a sustained period can invoke strange ideas and behaviour.
Probably best to step away op.

Thanks. It seems like what I got told was only the tip of the iceberg and things would have only gotten worse in time.

I find it surprising that some people are equivocal about the brothel visits of all three and hard no for the others.

All three are red flags to me to some degree but the brothel is by far the worst.

Someone who very occasionally took recreational drugs I would not necessarily rule completely out of hand although it would concern me that it was being minimised.

Cross dressing would be a turn off but not a moral failing. But visiting a brothel? Hell to the no.

I would never date anyone who had ever been in a brothel.

I don't understand the appeal of a group of guys purposely visiting somewhere to pay someone for sex. Surely there's better places to visit on holiday with your mates. Thankfully the test I did after the breakup has came back clear.

Very glad to hear that, OP!