To ask if you would date a guy who...

[NCMD]

• Has visited a brothel in the past and paid for services?
• Does recreational drugs with friends every few months (weed, MDMA, mushrooms, coke)
• Has a cross dressing fetish?

Interested to hear others thoughts on the above points to help me move on from being dumped by this guy.

YABU - Yes. I'd date him.
YANBU - No. You've dodged a bullet.

What more would it have taken for you to get around to dumping him?!

🤣🤣🤣 me too

Suffice to say, that given the choice between him and the dead cockroach I found in my bed in Magaluf in 1988, you'd find me on the next Easyjet to Palma keeping my fingers crossed they still hadn't changed the sheets.

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No, no and no.

Indeed

'trash took itself out' applies here

Somebody on this thread @XenoBitch wouldn't rule a 'man' out for these flaws though, so that's interesting. There's a lid for every pot (head)

Brothel - if in past, ie uni days when drunk etc, and not regularly

Drugs - no

Cross dressing - probably amber flag, would have to be perfect in all other areas

I don't smoke pot. I tried it once, but I am not a smoker, so I choked to near death anyway.

Never in a month of Sundays.

Hard pass

I didn't mean you were the pot head! anyway, that's the least of this guy's failings.

I understand though @NCMD people are more 3 d than a list of their failings. I dated a guy once and I discovered he was into voyeurism. I walked out the door and said see you quite calmly! But never contacted him again. Eugh. He was also mean. There's only so much disappointment you can deliberately stick around for

The brothel and the cross dressing would be an absolute Fuck Off. The recreational drugs every now and then wouldn't bother me

Anyone hear something snap shut with a loud bang and the sound of slippered feet walking quickly away? Yeah that was me!!!
Can't even believe you have to ask OP! Definitely don't mourn that loss!

I would sooner date Donald Trump.

Omg gross.
Raise your bar

This ^

Fuck no. Those are glowing red flags, all of them.

Perfect!

How desperate could anyone be to date someone like that? A fucking brothal, drugs and cross dressing? I think the fuck not

Nope

Not a fucking chance!

The brothel (paid rape) and the crossdressing (probable fetish) scream MISOGYNIST to me. As said upthread, the rubbish took itself out.

Brothel - hard no
Recreational drugs - if I was in my late teens/early 20s, sure. As an actual adult, no.
Cross dressing fetish - also not for me

Thanks for all the replies so far. I know I should be thankful that he's done me a favour but right now I'm still in the upset at getting dumped stage. Before all the things on the list were revealed he was kind, caring and seemed like a genuinely lovely person.

Hahaha 😂