To ask if you would date a guy who...

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• Has visited a brothel in the past and paid for services?
• Does recreational drugs with friends every few months (weed, MDMA, mushrooms, coke)
• Has a cross dressing fetish?

Interested to hear others thoughts on the above points to help me move on from being dumped by this guy.

YABU - Yes. I'd date him.
YANBU - No. You've dodged a bullet.

No throw that one back

Maybe OP is the guy?

Absolutely no chance

Christ, mine just clamped shut in sympathy.

Those behaviours do no appeal to me personally.

The key word here is 'date', as in go out a few times, maybe shag, but I think a man like that does not have conventional relationships so any expectations on your part, beyond a few interesting times, would be disappointing for you.

Did he think that the two of you were 'dating'?

It might have been exciting but I would not be expecting anything really.

Jesus Christ. Raise your bar!! Work on yourself before you get with anyone else.

You deserve more!

If you wouldn't want your mum/friend/daughter dating a guy like this, why do you think it's okay for you!

No, no, no.

Do you usually have low standards?

The first one would be a definite deal breaker.
Second is fine, normal to me tbh.
Third, not sure. It would depend how deeply into it they were I guess. Ideally I'd rather they didn't do that, put it that way.

Sadly not a journalist - this has genuinely happened to me this week and shows how tragic OLD has been for me.

Appreciate all the replies. I am indeed asking myself what is wrong with me.

To clarify - I was told about the drugs early on but not the full extent. The brothel was also minimised as being years ago and a drunken mistake. The crossdressing was only revealed 2 days prior to him ending it. Never got a real genuine reason for it ending either.

Absolutely not (finished with serious xx partner because of this)

No now but when I was younger yes but my age it’s just a bit sad

Absolutely not

No, no and no!

Well if he ended it he’s saved you the bother. He probably realised that you were FAAAAR too good for him.

And if you were still finding things outs about him even just before you split that suggests (to me, at any rate) that there were probably many more dodgy doings that he hadn’t yet told you about.

In answer to your question though, NO.

Would not touch him with a shitty stick

Absolutely no fucking way

Urgh. NO.

Has visited a brothel in the past and paid for services?
• Does recreational drugs with friends every few months (weed, MDMA, mushrooms, coke)
• Has a cross dressing fetish?

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No, I don't date losers.

No, no, yes.

Yeah. Chuck us his number if you don't want it

Seriously, absolutely not. Paying for sex and using illegal drugs are against my principles (coke mainly due to supply and cardiac issues but I also don't want some drugged up bore). My line is moderate booze, I know the problems with it, and that's that.

I would also be turned off by a cross dresser. No judgement if he is open with partners about exactly what this means for him, do what you like but not for me, thanks.

Drugs every now and again, pre children, wouldn't bother me.
The other two - massive no.

A druggie AND a rapist.

Fo you really need to ask OP?

The only acceptable thing for me on that list is the cross dressing. i'm not in to it, but it's harmless.
Drugs, hell no, but the paying for sex, that makes me feel physically sick, i couldn't associate with him in any way.

I don't really care about the cross dressing, the other two would be deal breakers.

Are all three the same fella? I’m all for having hobbies and personal interests, but that’s quite intense.

Sounds like an absolute Prince among men. Marry him immediately.

No.

Just that really.

Hell no