I think he’s expecting sex on the first date

Brandyb · 09/05/2024 23:38

If you're not ready to have sex with him this is the time to be clear about that.
But to be honest he sounds like a dick?

Trolleysaregoodforemployment · 09/05/2024 23:39

CherryBlossom97 · 09/05/2024 23:36

What might not even be a proper date now I’m thinking about it. I’ve been speaking to this guy for a few weeks. I’ve known him a while but not seen him for probably about 10 years.. he has turned recent conversations quite sexual and now he’s saying things like ‘This needs to happen sooner rather than later’ and now he says he’s free any day next week if I am with wink emojis so I think he’s now got an expectation. What would you do?

End the conversation. If he doesn't have the patience to get to know you he is not worth the effort. you deserve better.

Midnightponderer · 09/05/2024 23:39

Ick.

YoureALizardHarry11 · 09/05/2024 23:40

let him know that that’s not what you’re looking for and if he is then he needs to look elsewhere as you don’t do sex on the first date. If it’s not what you want then don’t let him get the idea as that will be a very awkward meet. I’d probably call it off.

Jamazon1 · 09/05/2024 23:42

Sounds like he’s on a different page to you. How do you feel about seeing him? Are you thrilled, or just curious whether there’s mileage in a relationship? Doesn’t sound like that’s his primary consideration, but maybe if you’ve known each other in the past he’s been craving you (least likely option imo)
if you’re feeling disquieted enough to ask the question here, it sounds like his moves are making you anxious not excited to see him.

Cocopogo · 09/05/2024 23:43

Yuk! Its clear he’s not interested in getting to know you. He’s probably not even single. I’d just tell him you’re not interested and block and delete and not give it another thought.

Catsmere · 09/05/2024 23:43

I'd have nothing more to do with him.

GodspeedJune · 09/05/2024 23:44

I definitely wouldn’t meet up with him. How gross.

Ohnodontwantthiscrush · 09/05/2024 23:45

"listen all this sex talk is going to put me off before we even meet. Fyi casual sex is not my scene at all so if that's what you're expecting we should mot bother meeting."

Cocopogo · 09/05/2024 23:45

Don’t do what others have suggested I.e let him know you’re not interested in sex and see as he’ll just cover it whilst patiently waiting to get his leg over. He’s just not interested sorry but he needs binning

ThaTrìCaitAgam · 09/05/2024 23:49

Eeeewww..!

I bet that if you turn him down, he’ll say you’re ugly anyway. Seen this kind of behavior too many times.

Didimum · 09/05/2024 23:51

Instant turn off. I’d ditch. What an entitled prick.

FirstFallopians · 09/05/2024 23:51

I’d play stupid, keep asking him what he means by all the winky faces and make him say it outright, the presumptuous bastard.

That would give me the massive ick. Not from him thinking I was some kind of goer, just the pure cringe factor from his messages.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/05/2024 23:53

Fucking hell, raise your standards. He sounds like a pathetic 18 year old.

SurelySmartie · 09/05/2024 23:53

What would you do?

Not have sex with him.

GrumpyOldCrone · 09/05/2024 23:56

If you want to have sex with him, go for it. However, bear in mind that you might never hear from him again afterwards, because it doesn’t sound like he’s particularly interested in you as a person.

BronteH · 10/05/2024 02:26

🤢🤢 ghost him

strangewomenlyinginponds · 10/05/2024 02:27

CherryBlossom97 · 09/05/2024 23:36

What might not even be a proper date now I’m thinking about it. I’ve been speaking to this guy for a few weeks. I’ve known him a while but not seen him for probably about 10 years.. he has turned recent conversations quite sexual and now he’s saying things like ‘This needs to happen sooner rather than later’ and now he says he’s free any day next week if I am with wink emojis so I think he’s now got an expectation. What would you do?

I wouldn't date him.

ineedtostopbeingdramaticfirst · 10/05/2024 05:14

It sounds like he wants sex not a relationship

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 10/05/2024 05:21

It sounds like you will only be a notch on his bed in his opinion if he has his way and am sure he has changed a lot in 10 years and is not the man you knew if he is talking to you like this. Fine if you want sex too, nothing wrong with that but if you are looking for more than that then do not keep in contact with him as you will never hear from him again and will feel like crap. It is almost like he is grooming you into quick sex and there will be no date. Yuk would turn me right off to be honest. How many more is he behaving like this with. But if you want fun then go for it but him being so obvious would be a right turn off for me.

rwalker · 10/05/2024 05:38

Nothing wrong with being upfront
tbh I think life would be a lot easier if everyone was

just tell him you get the impression he’s expecting a shag and your not up for that

Codlingmoths · 10/05/2024 05:39

What do you do?? You say dude, maybe I’m misinterpreting your comments here but I don’t have sex with men I haven’t even been on a single date with. Nor on the first date. At least. If that’s not for you then nor am I.

WhoopDereItIzz · 10/05/2024 06:26

Eww.

Being kind: could be clumsy flirting. I guess it’s better to date someone attracted to you than not 🤣

If you still want to go on the date just go and don’t have sex. If it’s put you off the date, just cancel.

Do what you want, don’t feel pressured.

Eddielizzard · 10/05/2024 06:37

I wouldn't answer that. This would put me off

CosmosQueen · 10/05/2024 06:39

Yuck 🤢
I’d cancel the date knowing that he’s just after sex.