I think he’s expecting sex on the first date

[CherryBlossom97]

What might not even be a proper date now I’m thinking about it. I’ve been speaking to this guy for a few weeks. I’ve known him a while but not seen him for probably about 10 years.. he has turned recent conversations quite sexual and now he’s saying things like ‘This needs to happen sooner rather than later’ and now he says he’s free any day next week if I am with wink emojis so I think he’s now got an expectation. What would you do?

I'd bin him off. If he's starting with the sexual stuff even when you're just talking normally, that's a red flag.
There's nothing wrong with having sex on a first date so long as you both want to. But l have a gut feeling he wouldn't take no for an answer, or get nasty about it.
Purely my take on it, but he sounds pushy and totally inappropriate. I certainly wouldn't meet him.

Grim. I'd bet he's a lousy selfish shag too. Entitled prick

If you want to have a long loving relationship with this man, do not sleep with him during the first night.

Don’t say that, it gives him the opportunity to say what you want to hear and have no intentions to form a relationship anyway.

OP he hasn’t asked you out on a date, he’s just saying rather telling you that he wants to have sex with you ASAP. He’s not interested in any kind of connection that isn’t purely physical.

just bin him off, you’re not on the same page, he’ll mess with your head, picking you up and dropping you when he fancies a shag.

😁😁

this

Exactly what I was thinking

It’s fair enough. He’s being upfront about what he wants and it gives you the opportunity to say no thanks. Let him find someone for a shag while you go and find someone else to have a romantic relationship with.

@RomeoRivers you only feel used and abused if they don't call, if that is your framing around sex, that it should always lead to a wider respect for you as a person and to as a relationship.

I still think my categories work. Have nice sex, then he doesn't call, that's a bummer because you had hoped to see him more, but he doesn't feel the same.

Good and fun sex is worth the short lived feeling of disappointment afterwards, and it amounts to the same thing- he's not for you. But you've got a shag out of it.

I don’t have sex for the sake of sex, I have a vibrator if I want a good time.

For me, sex is an intimate thing that I only give out to those who are worthy. My body is not a thing to be used and cast aside.

That is my personal framing around sex.

Eurgh

Fair enough @RomeoRivers x

If you fancy him and feel horny, then meet him for sex. But just know it's bound to only ever be that. If you want someone to hook up with occasionally then it might be fun. If that's not what your into then just don't meet him. I think I'd be a little put off by it being so up front about being purely physical. But each to their own.

He's just wanting sex so I would say to him your not interested