No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Oh I see you were addressing other commenters - yes in that case agreed!!

Just back from a wedding in Barbados. They said Attire: Semi Formal Island Chic - we kindly request no shorts.
And no one wore shorts. Easy peasy!

We've been invited to a wedding in the middle of June and I admit to smiling when I saw that the couple had stipulated that if it's warm, to make sure you are dressed comfortably so that you can enjoy their day with them. The last few weddings we have been to have been quite informal thinking about it and you know what, they were fabulous and relaxed.
I find all the posts regarding formality very old fashioned and narrow minded really.

Would you like to wear a tuxedo in Spain during the summer

Yes, it’s all the men’s fault. Peak MN.

People are travelling abroad for your wedding. Let them be comfortable in their clothing.

I don't see what's so wild about enforcing a dress code at your own event

If you do not want them to wear shorts just write NO SHORTS

No point beating about the bush

Anyone who thinks shorts are acceptable for a wedding are out and out chavs. Just put in small print on the invite: formal attire, long trousers.

Be prepared to see those knobbly knees in dresses and skirts instead.

every year about now there is an article about the brave young men who were told they can’t wear shorts at school so wear skirts instead.

Not in the slightest. The number of men over 17 who look good in shorts is a vanishingly small number.

What do you think Spanish men wear to Spanish weddings? They wear trousers.

Your could do a twee little poem like the ones where you ask for cash instead of gifts (Mumsnet loves those so this will go down a treat)

DEAR MEN
Although in Spain it can be hot
And some might feel it matters not
For our big day we ask you please
Spare us from your knobbly knees

I agree with this-particularly as not everyone has a suit of any description let alone a linen one

lol read the thread .. this point has been discussed many times!!!

the OP hasn’t been back though, can only assume she wanted everyone to agree she can dictate everything to everyone when it comes to ‘her’ wedding!

This is incredible!

I think it's a bit unfair for men not to be able to wear smart shorts while women can stand around with their knobbly knees out.

However you do it, you should definitely make your dress code super clear on the invite. We had half our guests in floor-length dresses and suits and the other half in jeans and dungarees (we loved it and didn't specify either way).

So you're happy to see women's knees in dresses but not men's? They are attending your wedding in Spain and you want them to suffer in the hot weather? How unreasonable.

I can’t stand it when posters put the silly comment;

“Well don’t you sound delightful”

It just makes you seem spiteful. You are spiteful

Gosh. Whatever happened to simply being delighted, and frankly grateful, that people are prepared to spend a significant amount of time and cash to celebrate with you, because you've decided to have a fucking destination wedding.

Nobody wore shorts to mine. However, quite a few of the men changed into them once they were out of the church. It was very warm for the UK. 34 degrees. I only stayed in my wedding dress for as long as it took to take a few photos.

As if wearing a shorter length meant they feel cooler. No. The key is in the fabric, not in the length.

Shorter length does make you feel cooler. The same fabric in shorter length is more comfortable.

I wore linen trousers to a conference in a Mediterranean country in late June (30-odd degrees). I don't think there's a cooler summer material. I can tell you that pushing them up slightly so I got even a few centimetres of skin bare between the trousers and my socks made a huge difference as I was outside waiting for a bus, and that when after the conference, I could wear shorts again, it was an even greater difference still.

I can't see how this is even in dispute. Surely you can see how less fabric coverage = less hot? A short sleeve or sleeveless top makes you feel cooler than a long sleeve top in the same light fabric. Same for legs.

@malmi I love this 🤣🤣🤣

DH has been in shorts since middle of March, we went to a wedding at the weekend, 6pm start, roughly all the men under 50 were in shorts. It was 32C.

She doesn't want men wearing shorts - that's hardly "dictating everything to everyone" is it?!!