No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

yes put lounge suits (these can be linen I think) so guests are cool and comfortable and implies no
shorts

There's been a lot of them on this thread!

How inhospitable and controlling - 'I don't want to see' is hilarious. If the venue is very formal they may have a dress code, so if they do and it mentions shorts then forward that to your guests. Otherwise back off and be grateful people are giving up their time to attend an event that really only means a lot to you / your immediate family. Wtf is 'summer elegance' anyway? Is it something you made up? It is no known dress code. If you're that uptight, use a widely recognised term.

Write no shorts, otherwise people will wear shorts

And you're a narrow minded snob

It all sounds so weird and awkward telling people what to wear - are these people, not your nearest and dearest? Mind you if you are this particular about instructions best to say - in case someone's outfit ruins your day. God I hate weddings!

No.
so you only wear mini mini dresses in summer?
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Honestly, my summer wedding here was too hot for trousers. I’d never request it for a destination wedding given the money involved in attending, even if I would deep down prefer a formal dress code.

Men who are used to wearing suits to weddings, suddenly finding they are able to wear smart shorts sounds like recipe for terrible photos!

It's like when we have a heatwave and the men that work in Canary Wharf are seen in their shirts and tie, ill fitting shorts, blue hairy legs, socks and smart shoes.

In Spain, people nearly always dress very formally to weddings (well Spanish people do)

So you think they are acceptable in a church for a Christening but not in a church for a wedding ? Strange thinking.

Exactly- I like informal weddings- and shorts would be fine, jeans and t-shirts too. Whatever.

But this is NOT, MY wedding, it is OP's wedding and she and DP make their choice and ask people to respect them. Simple and fair enough.

I only wear shorts in summer, yes, unless it's colder or I'm actually forced to by circumstances (e.g. the conference example in my post that you're replying to). I'm not willingly wearing long trousers in 20-something weather of my own free unencumbered volition.

I'm not sure what you're saying 'No.' and laughing about in response to my post. Not very polite behaviour. If you're genuinely arguing that the same person wearing a sleeveless linen shirt, a short-sleeve linen shirt and a long-sleeved linen shirt is having the same experience and equally warm/cool, then say that. I think that's very much not the case.

Summer casual for men throws images like this up

Looks smart enough to me

I think you are going to risk alienating people unnecessarily. Giving a general dress code is one thing, getting specific like this just smacks of bridezilla / micromanagement.
The chances are, no one will be wearing shorts if you state the formal dress / summer elegance thing. I'd think twice about risking coming off as so controlling - you are already asking a lot of your guests to fly out to Spain.

Just state formal dress code. If your friends don't understand what that means, you're peacocking to the wrong crowd.

Long trousers required will do it

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Sorry but I would not be attending your wedding, if you can't enjoy your day and appreciate the effort people have put themselves out with time and money to be there for you without worrying about what they are wearing then I truly hope nobody goes and the groom opens his eyes and doesn't turn up either, he can use the tickets as a dodged a bullet party and have a nice holiday in Spain with his mates in whatever shorts they choose.
You can stand alone at the alter in your trousers if you want.

I come from a hot country, not too different from Spain, and I have never seen anyone attend a wedding in shorts (although I'm sure they would have liked to in 35-40 degrees!). And I have been to many weddings.
I think specifying 'formal attire' would be more than sufficient.

"Full length trousers for the ceremony please" should do it. Anyway wearing shorts shows disrespect especially in Spain where weddings are usually quite formal with suit shirt and tie.

They can change into the shorts for the drinking and eating bit of the celebration. Men know what's right attire wise for weddings, and if they don't they are selfish idiots.

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You don't want to see male nobbly knees in shorts but are fine with females who might wear a short dress? Right.

If I was paying a fortune to fly around the world for a wedding, I would not be pandering to a silly request.

Can you write something like "Full length trousers please, I'm sure your legs are all lovely but please save your shorts for the beach"

I attending a (fabulous!) wedding in Italy in July last year and just had a look at the photos. I couldn't see any adult men in shorts - all were in (lightweight) trousers and smart shirts, though no jackets because it was monstrously hot. Everyone looked great.

I think saying "long trousers, please gentlemen" or similar is not over the top at all.

My mind is blown by the suggestion that it is rude or untoward to have a dress code at a wedding. I agree "lounge suits" or "smart casual" should do the trick.