No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

When my son lived in the middle east a tailor made him a customised linen suit. It was gorgeous.

Sorry @MumOfHals , I can't come to the wedding anymore. No doubt I'll catch up with you at a couple of the wakes for your guests that die of heat stroke. Enjoy your special day!

This might help. If you have a wedding website or an insert for the wedding invite [map, suggested hotels etc] then you can always say something along the lines of "Ceremony is at 5pm with cocktails and dinner [inside with air con/outside under the stars to follow. Average temperatures expected to be 25/35 degrees by 9pm. Please dress [semi] formally, surfaces uneven so would recommend suitable footwear for women, ties not required, trousers preferred for men"
https://trademarkvenues.com/dress-to-impress-a-complete-guide-to-wedding-dress-code-wording/

I'm not sure how a man in smart shorts differs from a woman in a knee length skirt. I'd be really hacked off if you told me how to dress.

Sorry but I’m laughing at the ‘Summer Elegance’ 🙈🙈

Bye!

I got married in a hot country in July. All the male adults wore trousers, but I wouldn't have cared if they hadn't as long as they wore smart shorts. Lots of the boys wore shorts.

Tell people no shorts prior to them booking so that they can at least decide whether or not they want to attend still. Or can buy linen trousers

I’m originally Spanish. I have been to dozens of weddings in Spain, winter weddings and summer weddings. I have never seen a man in shorts attending a wedding.
Do you really think weddings in Spain are less formal just because it is warm?
in fact most men wear full suits, even in the summer, and short sleeved shirts are not considered smart enough for a wedding.
Only exception would be a beach wedding, but even in this case in the two I attended men wore linen trousers, not shorts.

In hot countries it's not unusual for men to wear smart shorts and a jacket in a fairly formal environment, in fact they can buy suits which have shorts as an option.

It seems a perfectly reasonable request to me.

Why don’t you ask all your guests, when they RSVP, to send you photos of themselves in what they plan to wear to the wedding? You will need to ask for a few photos at different angles. Then you can plan your seating arrangements based on colour scheme, fabric choice and general attractiveness (uglier people towards the back, of course). You could give them all a number for the group photos so they know exactly where to stand. You can also then reply individually if there are any outfits you wish to veto. There could be a ratings system.

Don't be so ridiculous! Lightweight eg linen trousers would be just as cool as shorts! I imagine the venue will have aircon anyway.

I'd be surprised if any guests rocked up in shorts tbh but I don't blame you for not wanting them. They're not suitable for the occasion.

Surely knee length smart shorts would be OK?

I don’t think the OP thinks the Spanish wear shorts to weddings, I think she’s worried about the English dressing differently to how they would for an English wedding because they’re “on holiday”.

Why don't you lighten up?

Well firstly because generally speaking the English aren't used to the heat in the same way that Spanish man in Spain would be (I still remember arriving in Toulouse in July one year and finding the locals in jumpers and in some cases coats because they considered it 'cold'. I was sweating in shorts and a t-shirt).

And secondly, it is sort of irrelevant all the posters talking about what the locals in Spain etc. wear to weddings. Because these will not be Spanish people coming to the wedding, so knowing what they usually wear to weddings isn't helpful (admittedly we are assuming this, since the OP hasn't specifically said people are travelling from the UK)

I know. I just do not understand why anyone would think it is ok to go to a wedding wearing shorts just because it is a warmer climate. As if wearing a shorter length meant they feel cooler. No. The key is in the fabric, not in the length.

oof.. sweaty wedding.

Does it really matter. Its a wedding, it's supposed to be fun, dont you want your guests to be comfortable and not smelling of sweat. I wouldn't be hanging around long if I had to wear trousers in Spain in the summer.

A pleated wool kilt & heavy leather sporran is not really heatwave attire though!
(yet alone the long wool socks & formal shoes that usually accompany it)

It would never have occurred to me that anyone would wear shorts to a wedding.

What about women's knobbly knees in dresses?? of all the Bridezillas, you are by far the oddest.

Yes, I need to lighten up because I’m the one bothered about what other people wear…..

People are absolutely mental about weddings on this website. Some of the most bizarre replies.

I generally think that a wedding invite doesn’t need a dress code if the wedding is a standard UK one as people know what to expect, but I’d find a dress code helpful for a foreign wedding. Normal people will find “dress code: lounge suits/formal” a helpful steer, not a horrible imposition. @TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams has good suggestions!

No one is going to “boil to death” in trousers. Spanish men manage fine.