No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

There’s nothing classy about you posting photos from your ‘friend’s’ wedding and judging her guests.

I’m quite partial to a nice, tanned, male leg in tailored shorts. I also love kilts. I guess I’m a ‘knee’ woman. 😁

We actively encouraged it at ours (massive church wedding). It was forecast to be hot and our focus was on each other and celebrating with our lovely friends and family, and it was the perfect day. The first day of our marriage wasn’t sullied or somehow tarnished because Dave had his knees out. We didn’t even notice.

I think your priorities are going to make the whole thing much more stressful for you than it needs to be, but just write ‘formal dress’ on the invitation if it bothers you that much.

Are you sure you want half the guests to hate you?!

I think she already hates them anyway.

As a pp said, the best thing you can put is Formal Dress on the invites.

She definitely thinks they’re all ‘chavs’ who don’t know how to dress.

Not sure why you are getting such a hard time OP
As if Spanish, Italian or Greek people never wear formal/business wear?

In Italy (and all the other countries) it would be shameful and disrespectful to rock up in anything other than best clothes.

Sure your guests would have something to say if their meals were served by staff wearing Trunks and mini dresses 😂
YANBU...

Not if the kilt is fitted properly. The kilt sits on the knee. If the intended wearer was to kneel, the kilt should sit skimming the floor. It's too short if you can see knees.

I don’t know why the OP is assuming her guests are going to show up in shorts though? I can’t figure out why she thinks her family and friends don’t know how to dress appropriately. My SIL got married in Spain last year, she didn’t specify a dress code and there was no one in shorts. She said in an earlier post that ‘chavs’ don’t know how to dress for weddings and show up in shorts, so I’m just confused as to why she seems to have invited a load of people that she considers to be ‘chavs’!

I got married in Jamaica.

It didn't cross my mind to tell people what to wear.

I think it's a bit much to be honest unless you've paid for everyone to go.

The OP did not say this. Her family are Spanish, she’s just concerned about the 20% of British guests insulting the Spanish hosts and lowering the tone, it’s not like the UK has a great reputation in Spain now is it.

Assuming the 20% British people are people she’s actually invited though, why does she have no faith in their ability to dress for an occasion? I didn’t feel the need to specify a dress code for my British wedding guests (I am half Spanish), but I knew they would address appropriately 🤷🏻‍♀️. And they did.
I lived in Spain for 20 years and didn’t notice British people having a ‘bad reputation’, incidentally. Suppose it depends where you live. In Madrid we didn’t have any particular negative feeling towards British people.

Yabu

This is the post I was referring to by the way… seems to suggest she thinks her guests are ‘chavs’ who will wear shorts if she doesn’t tell them not to.

Not unreasonable at all. Most resorts have a “full length trouser” rule for dinner anyway. Just state formal attire (lounge suits and long pants) on the invite and let everyone know they’re welcome to change after the photos.

why does she have no faith in their ability to dress for an occasion?

Because she knows them?

OP, you are definitely NBU! I think I would frame it positively on the invites, "formal wear, long trousers". For the people who were going to wear that anyway, it won't make any difference, for those who had assumed shorts would be fine, it'll hopefully change their minds. With a formal venue and late ceremony and meal, it would be really odd to have people in shorts.

Well that’s my point really. She indicated that people who think it’s appropriate to wear shorts to a wedding are ‘chavs’. So she obviously thinks some of her invited guests are ‘chavs’. Not a nice opinion to have of your invited guests!

Madrid is super stylish and lovely, I was thinking more of the coastal resorts where shorts rule, men take their tops off and walk down the street, eugh!! All inclusive drink as much as you can, those sort of British people have sullied the reputation of the British.

,it’s agree with you, that looks awful and I also wouldn’t want that on my forever wedding pictures. The wife of my DH’s colleague wore a t shirt/skirt combo at our wedding. She’s in a lot of the pictures and she does look very casual compared to everyone else. Some men were in linen type suits as I recall, hottest day for years!

Maybe she's not worried about the guests she knows but maybe she's got some plus ones she thinks might be somewhat chavvy.

Yeah I don't personally use the word chav but at the same time some people might describe some of my friends that way and they mostly wouldn't be offended. Maybe OP is a chav and just wants everyone to cosplay at not being a chav for a day?

But you're not having a wedding in England, in a church. If you're asking the men to be hot and uncomfortable I take it the ladies will be required to have ankle length dresses?

A pair of lightweight cotton trousers are no warmer than a pair of shorts.