No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Yabu!

OP is not BU.

I can't get over some of the comments here. Every country and culture has its own share of chavs, middle class, upper class or whatever societal group etc. The notion that ALL the people in any one nation dress the same way is just ridiculous. Spain, like any country, has proportions of people who habitually dress smartly, casually, like Abba on stage in their Eurovision stage or in animal costumes as furries. There was a comment about professional men never wearing shorts to work earlier. I work in a hospital and we had a meeting about new data protection laws today. The head of urology turned up in shorts and trainers. I took a picture to show the thread (I told him why and he laughed) but then decided that's ridiculous.

Facts coming from Spanish people who live in Spain, people who have been to weddings in Spain, Google, what more do you need?

It is ridiculous for you.
not for me and for others

following your reasoning, a head of urology turning up in shorts is not proof that professionals would turn up in shorts.

but basically your head of urology does not look very profesional to me if he turns up in shorts and trainers to a work meeting

can be a superb head of urology but does not seem to have a clear understanding of fashion / style / respect / decorum / etiquette, whatever the word you use

I feel the same anyway, I find some comments really ridiculous…

so obviously there are different point of views…

but…
IMHO anyone thinking it is ok to go to a wedding (or be in a professional environment) in shorts… “tiene que hacérselo mirar”, using a popular Spanish phrase

In the UK or Spain?

’Chavs’ as you wish to call them are mostly limited to the UK I think, in Europe, in my experience, you have poor people, the whole middle group and then a few Royalty/society people. From a wedding point of view the setting will change from local town hall to somewhere more lavish but even poor people would wear a suit. Basing this on France, Spain, and Portugal.

You can have been to ten weddings in Spain or Italy or Greece where nobody wore shorts. That does NOT make “No one in Spain would ever dream of wearing shorts to a wedding” fact. I’m surprised you need this explaining to you.

@MumOfHals

I would not say anything about what to wear but maybe because I do not think any of the guests at my wedding would have been wearing shorts (summer wedding, 50% of guests were British with some from other European countries and USA) and in fact nobody wore shorts / trainers / short sleeved shirts.

However it looks like you are afraid of what some guests might wear. Are you afraid a large population might wear shorts or just a few? Could you address this individually, informal conversation, letting them know they might feel out of place if they turn up informally dressed?

I guess it depends on the extent of the risk. I would not worry if a handful of them wear shorts (their problem if they look silly) but I can understand you are worried in case your wedding turns into a beach party looks-wise

In Spain - I am from Spain! And yes, we have 'chavs' here - every country has its own version of that subculture. You don't actually believe Spain is some marvellous, discrete little wonderland where every single member of the population is super stylish, formal and appropriate at all times?

Oh gosh, knobley knees is better than red hot sweaty uncomfortable people haha

You think I've got time to wade through 7 pages of a thread to see if you've already responded? Soz but no. I read the OP's comments and not yours.

Glad you admitted you were wrong though.

The only weddings I have been to in Spain have had a Church ceremony followed by a reception.
All the gentlemen wore long trousers.
Saying that they were Spanish and in what I call Spanish Spain not English Spain!
Congratulations and enjoy your wedding

I’m hoping all the men wear kilts instead.

You think I've got time to wade through 7 pages of a thread to see if you've already responded? Soz but no. I read the OP's comments and not yours.

Oooohh, I’m soooo important! Me! Meee! Meeeeeee!!!

Are you asking the ladies to wear below the knee dresses too if you don’t want to see knees? Completely unreasonable in my opinion to have a wedding in a hot country and then dictate what 50% of the guests can wear!

A lot of hotels/cruise ships etc all over the world state no shorts for evening dining (they anlso include footwear rules)! This includes hot countries, do you think that’s an unreasonable request too.

OP ignore the haters on here. Loads of people have dress codes for their wedding.

Why no shorts? You can get some really nice tailored suits with shorts… examples in photos.

Could you say tailored suits only, so you only get shorts like this? Or are you opposed to all shorts?

You can’t control what people wear especially in such warm weather. They can still be semi formal and wear chino style shorts and a white shirt.

personally if it were my wedding it wouldn’t bother me 🤷🏼‍♀️

I was at a wedding in England a few years back and it was 30 degrees on the day. The code was formal up until the speeches had been done, then the men all went off and changed into shorts. It was great too because they were all drenched in sweat by the time the speeches came around.

Each to their own but the grown up version of that looks ridiculous.

unreasonable and unfair on the men.

Why are you so horrible? I wasn’t ‘wrong’ but again you know best ( even though you don’t) do you speak to people in real life like this? Or just think you’re super cool behind a keyboard? !

if you want to hand out the insults, you have to do the reading otherwise you just end up looking like a spiteful idiot.

Weddings in Spain are typically very dressed up, stylish and formal. Your mistake is inviting people who may not understand this.