No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

You choose to get married in Spain! A hot country! Of course the men should be allowed to wear shorts!; ladies can wear a dress or skirt with bare legs!!

I've seen some batshit comments on MN, but this thread has some crackers! Men who live in hot countries cope with long trousers every day. They wouldn't dream of attending a wedding or other formal function in shorts.

😂😂😂

Also meant to add - my grandfather always told us to "dress as a sign of respect for the people you'd be meeting" -and it's always stuck with me.. if you are attending a wedding - you respect the bride and groom and dress appropriately- the same for the work place you are in.. you dress accordingly..

I have never seen shorts at a wedding, Uk or overseas, and I used to live in Spain. Shorts have no place at a wedding, even dress shorts, they are not formal wedding wear.

Do you think that the natives of hot countries don’t wear formal wear ie long trousers?

OP is NBU

Only in France, where they are mandatory, apparently (tho' not necessarily for weddings)

I don't understand, why would any man think of wearing shorts to a wedding? (Totally misses point)

DH has worn shorts to weddings in several hot weather countries. As did other guests. They looked great - smart, relaxed and gorgeous!

Totally reasonable request - how about something more along the lines of ‘full length trousers only’ then you don’t have to put ‘no’ in it and sound ‘school marmy’.

DH only has casual shorts. He wouldn't buy a pair of smart shorts to just wear once. He has cotton trousers that don't make him feel any hotter than a pair of shorts does.

So you keep telling us but it’s subjective, isn’t it? I wouldn’t want shorts at my wedding and OP doesn’t either.

the comments in here are wild! Totally with you OP. Regardless of the country, I’d never ever expect to see men in shorts at a wedding!!! Actual Spanish people get married in suits - it’s totally normal.

I personally would write ‘lounge suits’ as you’ll get an array of suits, linen suits, etc.

A Google search for "stylish Mediterranean men" shows exactly two pairs of shorts on the first page. They're being worn by Jude Law and Matt Damon in The Talented Mr Ripley so they're hardly representative of current attire in the region. If every Spanish and Italian man can cope with the heat while wearing a light layer of fabric over their legs, then so can your wedding guests.

Plus, if it’s so swelteringly hot that someone can’t possibly put on a pair of linen trousers for a few hours, why on earth would they want to wear a long sleeved shirt and jacket?

Honestly OP I don’t think you’ll get a true reflection by asking on here. Everyone on MN seems to hate weddings and resents having to make any form of effort what so ever to attend. Back in the real world, everyone i know actually likes a wedding & happily makes an effort with their outfit etc.

I don’t think you are unreasonable at all to have a dress code & request no shorts. Agree with PP who suggested phrasing it as please wear long trousers rather than don’t wear shorts.

Every wedding I’ve been to has had a dress code ranging from summer garden party to black tie to morning suits & hats. No one has ever kicked up a fuss - it’s very normal to have a dress code for formal events.

In the real world no one is that ridiculously self absorbed. On wedding-hating MN it’s a free for all where telling someone they are a Bridezilla (for the 104th time) is somehow seen as witty and original 🙄.

Well again, the timing is relevant here but despite being asked various times the OP hasn't answered. Those saying the Spanish only wear long trousers to weddings might also want to remember that those type of weddings simply don't tend to take place here at the hottest time of year. August is the great shutdown and half the country isn't even working. July also doesn't tend to be busy for Spanish weddings. May is popular, albeit complicated by communions, and so is September. June also a good option. British people come over here and have their weddings in high summer though and they tend to be very red-faced and sweaty affairs. At other times of year probably no-one would want or need to wear shorts. My comments have been based upon the question of when, which hasn't been answered.

When I was young and skinny the summer heat here wasn't a problem. Now I'm menopausal and not skinny I understand what everyone else was moaning about. The idea of having any fabric even touching my legs or arms during the infiernos of July and August now is a flat no. Wearing my hair down or even with flattering face framing layers around my face is also not an option for those months.

Yes, those in more formal professions will still wear long trousers to their air conditioned office, to which they arrive in their air conditioned car. That's not the same as spending an afternoon in a sunny garden of an events venue in 40+ degrees and, more importantly, up to 80% humidity. It's just not the same at all.

I'm half Spanish and no one in Spain would ever wear shorts to a formal wedding - always a full suit (including suit jacket and tie) or chinos and a LONG sleeve shirt. Deviating would be a very British (or foreign) thing to do if anything.

Women would also wear full length dresses if an evening wedding and @ little shorter for a daytime one (but never really a very short dress either - think midi).

I would say - Dress code for the wedding is formal. Women in ...(add whatever you'd like here) And men in full suits or full length chinos and shirts (or whatever you want them to wear)

I would specify what you want rather than what isn't allowed.

Good luck.

Goodness, do Spaniards never wear trousers or something? Do men who work in corporate environments in the UK never wear trousers? Do women never wear trousers in hot environments?

How ignorant.

Not as ignorant as you! , you’ve clearly not read the thread and think you’re making a really valid and unique point! ( I’ve already answered this and you’d know this if you’d bothered to read before wading in)

For everyone just banging on about the heat and wearing shorts…..what don’t you understand? This is a formal wedding, in a monastry, in the evening, all European guests will be in suits, this is standard. The OP does not want to be ashamed of Brits turning up in shorts, it would not go down well and is disrespectful to the Spanish hosts. Have some respect people, shorts are for tourists.

Wearing shorts to a wedding is super disrespectful.

You don’t understand?

It’s an ex-monastery, and you can’t possibly say what the Spanish guests will be wearing.

So many opinions on this thread are being presented as facts, with nothing to back it up.