No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

The trouble is, she's getting married in Malaga, people are going to think it's one of the costas, probably a bar or whatever and wear shorts and sandals.

Appropriate dress is not only for weddings.

I find it very funny that people appear to think that Spanish professionals wear shorts or t-shirts in the summer just because it’s hot. Or that people in Spain do not have the need for shorts because they are acclimatised! This is baffling, I have worked in Spain at 40 degrees fully clothed and with men in suits. Light and breathable fabrics, good hygiene, etc. It is hot but you cannot go to a Notary, bank or any professional environment wearing shorts!

I worked in Spain in banking for a few years after graduation. I was sent to a branch in a city with plenty of tourists and also Non-residents and there was a sign on the door (in English) asking customers to be clothed and forbidding Speedos and bare torsos. It is not a case of just withdrawing money (plenty of ATMs, no need to come inside), we are talking about customers with appointments for mortgage applications and opening bank accounts. And I can still remember one day I went to a Notary to complete a mortgage on behalf of the bank and my “customers” were not allowed access because they were wearing football shorts and a sleeveless top (male) and beach cover up (female) not even covering anything.

I dont think you can dictate what people wear. Its not their job.

This is just the works we live in unfortunately. The world is a much more casual one these days

Maybe it will change in time? Who knows

You sound a bit Bridezilla

I think a lot of posters are being a tad unkind to you OP. Presumably you are not asking your male guests to wear wool suits. So by asking for long trousers, any man with half a brain will consider linen, which can be quite cool. They need not be expensive. Maybe you can consider, as others have suggested, that there is no dress code in the evening. Personally I would think wearing shorts at the wedding ceremony, is disrespectful.

Yep

She isn't dictating, just politely requesting.

Why? Sounds perfectly reasonable to me.

And me. But then it’s beyond me why anyone would think shorts were an appropriate form of dress at a wedding.

Same here. There are a lot of immature posters on here.

My children (all boys under the age of 12) always wear shorts to weddings

As it should be 👌

This is the biggest load of judgemental old shite I’ve ever read.

Yeah bad form. There's nothing wrong with your request OP but it sounds like you've got a little carried away bridezilla style. I hope it all goes to plan like the picture in your head for your own sake and your blokes.

You haven't said what time of year you're having your wedding. If it's at a hot time, let your guests change if they want after the ceremony. You may find you won't want to be strapped into a wedding dress for the duration either if it's hot.

That's all depending on the venue also, some places are pretty strict.

Wtf! First World problem...

Recently went to a wedding in Thailand many blokes in smart shorts, designer shirts and waistcoats, they looked the biz.

I honestly don't get it. We went to a wedding in Spain last summer and it was no shorts and formal dress. It was 38° and all the men were miserable. They honestly complained all day long and my DH said it ruined the day for him.

I come from a Mediterranean country and it’s an absolute no to wear shorts to a wedding no matter what the weather is.

formal event = formal attire, you dress to the nines.

OP I’m with you.

@MumOfHals I am totally with you OP. I was looking at some pictures of a wedding in Australia recently where some of the guys wore shorts & flip flops. Looked awful! I think it’s fine to specify smart attire/ no shorts

Let them wear shorts if it's hot!
Micromanaging your friends ain't cool

I’m amazed at how many people think hot weather wedding = beach attire, unless it is literally on the beach. What do you all think locals wear to weddings in hot countries? I’ve been to weddings in South Africa, mid summer, middle of the day, 45° heat and absolutely no one wore shorts, let alone trainers. Suits and ties worn with respect for the occasion!

Well duh, they're used to the weather. I'm from a country hotter than South Africa, and yes we wear trousers, BUT if I were to invite a bunch of Brits I'd rather they looked smart and comfortable than a sweaty (plus smelly... Oh god the smell in Britain in summer...) mess.

If you invited people from hot countries over to the UK in winter/autumn/spring/even summer, expect very little style – many will look like jacket potatoes that exploded in the microwave due to the weird amount of layers.

Thanks!

Here come the Brit’s abroad brigade! Next time you are on holiday in Europe, head into town have a look around and see who else is wearing shorts, usually just the British tourists, it’s a massive give away.

Spanish weddings are very formal events, perhaps more so than weddings in the UK . The OP is probably just trying to avoid the shame and embarrassment of having British guests turn up in shorts, it would be shocking for the Spanish families and very disrespectful. The Brits have a bad enough reputation in Spain as it is, reading some of these posts I can see why. Have some respect people!

I’d put ‘Dress code: formal attire’. If you put ‘no shorts’ you may get a few deciding to wear casual summer skirts/dresses instead.

Well, they are, but the British and French people there certainly weren’t used to the weather and no one rocked up in shorts unless you count the under fives. As someone upthread said, OP isn’t requesting wool suits, just… no shorts. Jacket potatoes though 😂 I know exactly what you mean

I had a friend who put - "no shorts" on her invite and one male guest still wore them.. agree that it's in really bad taste for a wedding .. it just looked scruffy ..

Dress code: Summer Elegance for the ladies and formal attire for the men. (long trousers please)