No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

The reason we opted to get married in this country was because I wouldn’t cope with a dress in the heat so I do think it’s reasonable to expect people to wear trousers - not everyone is good in heat (me = sweaty mess and I’d take nobbly knees over sweaty foreheads any day of the week)

But if it is something you’re set on then just be straight up, no shorts at the ceremony please

People on here can be absolutely awful sometimes.

It’s not rude at all. Don’t use caps though! Have a lovely wedding!

My sister married in a church in Spain
People were asked to observe Church rules of shoulders and knees covered
Several women went against the rule but the men all managed to source linen trousers to wear

Some folks then changed for the reception which was not a formal location and put on shorts at this point, others felt comfortable enough in linen to stay as they were

You could ask for body parts to be covered with it being a formal location if your not comfortable saying no shorts but it leaves it open to interpretation

If I'd paid to go to someone's wedding to then be told what to wear, I'd be declining

That's just silly. Talk about biting your nose off to spite your face. The guests aren't being told what to wear; they are being asked not to wear one single garment which leaves them with plenty of freedom to choose their attire.

It's our version of chav. The young man in the picture actually isn't a chav in the traditional sense of the word, he's from a good and well known family locally but that style of genital strangling trousers seems to be what the young men are all wearing. It's hideous in my opinion but that doesn't matter. To me the problem is displaying the goods so prominently for a formal occasion.

Compromise "Smart tailored shorts".

How odd - it's quite usual to have a dress code at a wedding. For example I went to one where the dress code was 'vintage winter glamour' or something like that. Which was more challenging than no shorts!

Why?

I agree @Runnerinthenight.
Just a polite request to not wear shorts isn't the same as being told to wear a certain colour.

Honestly, some of the responses on here. You would think we had some 10 year olds on this thread.

Would a kilt be suitable formal attire?? Because you’d still possibly see knees. But saying that thrrr may well be plenty of women’s knees on show.

I’ve been to weddings abroad and nothing was mentioned and all men did wear suits if I recall. They do often stipulate at hotels though that long trousers must be worn to dinner so if it’s that type of hotel they hopefully pack them anyway.

What a childish thing to say

No you won’t see the French/Italians/Spanish/ or any other European wearing shorts for a wedding. It’s the Brits who stand out, who drink too much, with beer stomachs and inappropriate t shirts and kids with poor table manners and need reminders of what is appropriate attire in a foreign country

The venue looks lovely, although not particularly formal - more a chilled out relaxed vibe.

I can't imagine many people will turn up in shorts, although my own preference would be for smart chinos over a load of wrinkled linen suits, which you'll most likely see a lot of if you specify no shorts.

There's nothing wrong with asking for long trousers.

Summer Elegance for me conjures up an image of a double page M&S ad showing clothes and home wear. I'd definitely have a private giggle at the nonsense if I received an invite with it on.

I had a formal wedding with the groomsmen and my Dad in morning dress with top hats...

My DB then asked if he could also wear morning dress as he owned it for some reason... Then my grandfather, then my uncle...

So we offered to hire FIL morning dress when we realised he'd be the only member of the main wedding party not wearing it. He refused. He wore a grey suit and looks like a photobomber in the wedding photos.

Whatever you request, I'm sad to say that some idiot will turn up in shorts or jeans. Just let them look foolish rather than letting it spoil your day. Luckily we have Photoshop now...

Oh, and matching? You want your guests to match? What about people coming alone, or families with an odd number - will you pair them up?

There are so many lovely smart short suits out there it’s not like they’re going to turn up in cycling shorts!

My children (all boys under the age of 12) always wear shorts to weddings, even to winter weddings in England. It would be odd to see boys in long trousers at a formal event I think. Have you thought about children going to your wedding? Or are you having a no-children wedding as well as no-shorts? what about kilts, would they be an acceptable alternative to shorts for the men? Personally smart shorts wouldn't bother me at all in a hot country but I think if you just put a polite “(long trousers please)” on the invitation, your guests will understand.

It would be odd to see boys in long trousers at a formal event I think.

I think it would be odd not to see them in long trousers. Small boys have worn them at every wedding I’ve been to.

All depends on what he's wearing on his feet...

I agree, there seem to be a lot of really pathetic so-called adults on here who have no idea what is appropriate dress for certain occasions and only think about themselves. Thank god there's nobody so ridiculous and embarrassing in my family and friendship groups.
If you can't bear to wear appropriate clothing for a few hours then instead of shrieking about how you should be entitled to wear what you like blah blah, just decline the invitation.
I highly suspect that all these idiot moaners don't move in circles where they know how to dress for the occasion or have ever had an invitation with a dress code eg black tie, lounge suit etc, so they can be left to go to weddings in shorts or polo shirts and the rest of us can carry on dressing appropriately.

Sorry but you'll have to put it on the invitation in clear and plain English : shorts and other beachclothes not accepted, please arrive in full city-or evening attire. At my wedding the message on the invite was "evening dress" and still a few people arrived in beachware (in Belgium).

That's strange, because according to previous posters only British men would ever wear shorts! 🙄

Googled Summer Elegance, as I wanted to see what was thrown up.

Not a knee (knobbly or otherwise) in sight