No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Funny you should say this as I always think dresses can be a mistake -ironically often just when women are trying their hardest to look good.

I do think floaty maxi dresses are generally quite forgiving and always confer a feminine vibe if not a perfect silhouette.

Are people honestly so wet and self absorbed that they can't make the effort to not rock up in shorts to a formal venue for a wedding , for what ? A few hours ?
Incredibly pathetic and NO ! Having 'bothered ' to travel does not exempt showing a little respect to the occasion and the venue. It just shows a rather grim attitude to wanting to put your self first on all occasions. Sometimes you have to show a bit of class and behave appropriately for the duration of the ceremony and formal part of the reception.

Then go and change and for the informal party later.

I remember feeling a little miffed that one of my friends turned up in striped jeans at my wedding. I thought "I've made an effort, why couldn't you?"

However, I was pleased to see him and got over myself pretty quickly.

DH has worn shorts to a few weddings as have other guests - he looks great in them! They were lovely weddings. The one last year in Myrtle Beach in South Carolina was gorgeous

Some people just don't like shorts on men, that's fair enough, but I'd be interested to know if they have the same objections to a smart shorts suit on a woman, the kind Kate MIddleton has worn for example? It's good enough for a royal engagement but not for a wedding?

It all sounds quite sexist to me. Women's legs being acceptable but not men's. Should be the same rule for both.

Women's fashion and dress standards have been different from men's for millennia. It's not sexist.

Can people stop pretending that "tailored short suits" are anything other than completely horrible.

Can you stop pretending that anyone who disagrees with you must be lying?

Of course it’s sexist.

No 😛

And to be completely honest I accept that there are some blokes that would happily dress like 13 year olds and there are other people sufficiently lacking in taste that would applaud it

Smart shorts, have a word

People have been sexist for millennia. Unless it is a clothing difference because of different body parts, shapes, or functions then it's just sexism. Tailored shorts on men or women are the same.

*stupid autocorrect doesn't approve of the word sexist

I fail to see how this question has any relevance to the bride’s preference of no shorts

I've been at weddings in Spain and Greece where one or two male guests have worn tailored short suits and they have looked as smart and formal as others in lounge suits. Good quality linen can look smart if the tailoring's right.

Some places even advertise short suits as wedding attire - eg in seersucker - not saying I like it, but as in the pic, from here: https://tinyurl.com/57a57cau

Most men in Spain (and all Spanish men I know) own a “lana fría” formal suit (cool wool, <= 120 threads I think, the fabric is cool despite being wool) for summer so even a linen suit is not considered formal enough for a wedding. Zara and Massino Dutti offer them relatively cheap, with the mid-price option being something like Emidio Tucci at El Corte Inglés and if you want to pay more you can choose something more upmarket or a tailor. Some guys also wear light cotton twill suits during the summer.

The guy in a burgundy suit upthread looks like what is called in Spain a “cani”, so not a good example of what a random Spaniard would be wearing at a wedding.

IMHO women overdress for attending a wedding in Spain, there’s no need of ball gowns or long party dresses but this has been the norm for the last 20 years or so. Thank god men cannot overdress in this sense and are kind of “restricted” to a suit.

Personally I think this is a horrible look. Suit jackets do not marry well with shorts.

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. no shorts or trainers please.

Though are you insisting the ladies cover their knees too?

That looks horrible

deffo not BU, i would hate if someone turned up to my wedding dressed like that. Maybe you can put formal attire only/black tie event on the invite?

I’m afraid I switch off when anyone says “Have a word”.

Although it’s not quite as bad as when OP said her fiancé wears chino shorts “On the regular” 🤮

You can't break out the puke emoji and simultaneously advocate that adult males wear a short suit, sorry.

Just did 😝

As long as it is just for the main ceremony and pictures.
After that shorts should be allowed

Anyone else Google the meaning of the word cani?

I don’t think overheating because you’re forced to wear trousers in a hot country makes you a chav 🙈

is there a temperature threshold ie shorts allowed if it hits 40c?