No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Looks like a lovely venue. Till 3am? I'm afraid I'm out of there by midnight. I'm sure the youngest set will keep going though. (I'm not even that old though).

Wow.

lol- will you have "door men" ?what about them sorta 3\4 overtight skinny kex with a smart but cash push up sleeve blazer--- "sorry mate-your wife looks lush but you arent welcome AS A PERSON cos of yer individual style...what if you invited ALL defiant males who plot together n show up n 70s ball tight short shorts-pick your fights. your wedding.not you entire bloody universe.insist on floor length table cloths for function/meal. upper torso photos is availble in editing.oh ma wee scottish god-whit aboot kilts.?

A British man wearing tailored shirts? A rarity I think. Italians do. Spaniards very possibly. The Brits? Trainers and football shorts or denim! British men in tailored linen shorts. - most don't have this amount of style.

British men in tailored linen shorts. - most don't have this amount of style.

I always wonder why people think it’s okay to slag off the British like this when they’d be horrified if people generalised about other nationalities in the same way.

I agree. And has that poster ever been to Savile Row? Or even Jermyn Street? A proper English collar looks much more tailored than an Italian one …

I haven’t read the whole thread, so am prepared to be flamed but I have asked DH who would absolutely not have a problem with a no shorts request. He said he wouldn’t like to have to wear a jacket, particularly if it was hot, but so long as he could wear chinos with a cool open neck shirt he’d be fine.

How classy to post people's photos on the internet to sneer at them

I think that you are being a bit U because I have seen some really smart summer suits with shorts. Can be done.

However, as it is unlikely that anyone will own or be prepared to purchase on of these I would suggest using the venue "Due to the religious nature of the venue, please be respectful in terms of clothing choices particularly no shorts or very revealing outfits. Thank you"

If you just say 'no shorts', guys who opt for the polo/shorts/trainers combo will just swap out the shorts for chinos and still be out of place.

Better to offer more guidance on what is, rather than is not, wanted. As a guest I appreciate a dress code, there's so much variance these days and most people want to get it right.

Had a google and the ettiquette for requesting semi formal (ie not black tie but smarter than smart casual) is bottom right of the invititation

Dress: Lounge Suit

This is from our dear late queens invitations so I think we can assume it is correct.

ETA that instead of editing my previous post I have quoted it, sorry about that!!

Some of you seem to think that people who live in warm countries live in shorts all the time? 🙄

Years ago dh was invited to a headhunter's drinks evening in central London - dress code: lounge suit - which worked perfectly for the men - didn't give much guidance for the women (I remember posting on here looking for guidance) ...we ended up blowing it off so I didn't get to see how the women presented themselves.

I have the feeling the OP is a little bit Bridezilla, and it depends how tolerant her guests are with that...my sister was a bit Bridezilla - the run-up to her wedding was awful - I have no fond memories of that day, we were all too terrified that something would go wrong, she has a totally false impression of how much her guests enjoyed the day - she put me off weddings for life. We eloped as a consequence!😂

I have experienced that exact point. Several years ago I spent the summer in the Mediterranean and a heat wave brought temps up to 40c. When it finally cooled back down to 32c I had to wear jeans and a light sweater. I was freezing when I got home and temps ranged 20-25c😂

Why are you so unpleasant about a reasonable request that people wear smart clothes?

Linen trousers will be fine. Why are you making such a silly fuss?

@Sharptonguedwoman -unpleasants a bit strong-i was simply making a point.sorry you missed it. smart IS areasonable request\expectation-i think veers toward unreasonable when dictate length of leg on show.big fuss bout nothing.im allowed to think whatever i choose.

Yes you are. of course.

Linen trousers look a mess quickly particularly once you sit down. Won’t look great on her photos.

Goodness me. There are some ridiculously defensive replies on this thread. It is not unreasonable to hope that guests will make a sartorial effort for a wedding.

After all, the bride and groom will have done so. Are a pair of lightweight trousers that much warmer than a pair of shorts?

Yes, I get that. Perhaps people who live in these climates all the time wear a linen mix because they don't look scruffy. I think shorts at a formal wedding would look awful though.

Can people stop pretending that "tailored short suits" are anything other than completely horrible. Anyone that could get away with them would look good wearing a napkin

Any adult male that wears shorts for anything other than the beach or sports belongs on a watchlist.

This thread has certainly grown some legs hasn’t it.

Realistically, more women look bad than good in dresses. It's the truth – either too skinny, too lumpy/pudgy or too odd-shaped in different areas. But I think generally having another outfit option (whether dresses for women or a nice linen tailored shorts suit for men) is a nice idea.

I think that rumpling is part of the appeal.