No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Just put no shorts. No-one will be offended. We went to a wedding abroad last year and it said no shorts on the invite. Few grumbles from the men in advance but actually no-one noticed once they were there as actually like yours it was evening and mainly shaded and they were having too much fun.

Please remember, dress to impress, save the shorts for the after party

Would men wear shorts to a wedding? Even in a hot country? Seems a bit too casual for a wedding?

Somehow Spanish people manage to attend weddings in Spain wearing long trousers.
There are such things as linen suits! I've seen Italians wear them at weddings.

This. In person it was quite obscene. You know how men sometimes talk to your breasts rather than your face? It was a bit like that but quite entertaining for the rest of us. He wasn't the only one who looked like his eyes should be watering either.

😂

Well actually at certain times of the year and in the bottom half of the country it IS that hot. Danger to life heat warnings are regularly issued.

I’ve been to a lovely wedding in Spain. A lot of posters here clearly haven’t. There was no way the Spanish men were wearing shorts (nor did they need to be told!) the women were in beautiful long and very smart dresses (Before maxis were really a thing). So it’s not so unreasonable. Wearing shorts as soon as the sun comes out is a very British thing and not always appropriate overseas. Go for it OP. I agree with the suggestion of long trousers for men (rather than banning shorts).

Yes, but they are also acclimatized to the temps. It does take a while and some longer than others. Even in linen, for example, it could still be very uncomfortable (and the wrinkling will look awful!). ☺️

We’ve been to weddings in several Mediterranean countries including Spain. DH and DS wore linen shorts and shirts as did other guests. They looked great on the photos.

We’re not British so nothing to with nationality.

Are you also going to specify no football colours?

Really ? Where they proper big weddings ? I’ve been to a lot of wedding in a few Mediterranean countries ( Portugal , Spain , Greece , Cyprus and Italy ) and I’m yet to see any men wear shorts . It might be ok for very young boys but even then I mean under 10s

This. I’ve been to weddings in hot countries in Europe and never has anyone worn shorts, they are not appropriate attire for a wedding imo.

Op, I think it’s a good idea to specify long trousers or no shorts as, going by this thread, some people seem to think it’s suitable attire for a wedding.

And the thigh-hugging leggings. And the ankle flash. And the colour. And let’s just mention the crotch once more - because it deserves it.

Just goes to show OP: you can specify dress code but you can still get malicious obedience that will make your stomach lurch when they walk into the venue.

It would have looked like a potato gathering if they had . 🥔 🥔

I think the acclimatisation point is a good one. I often notice locals in hot climates seem to be able to wear more clothes. I think it’s reasonable to specify trousers but you need some leeway round fabric and removing jackets and ties etc. Having guests passed out won’t be chic..

Just something like formal dress for ladies and long trousers for the gentlemen

Got married on one of the hottest days of the year (UK) last year and told people to wear whatever they felt comfortable in, guests comfort was way more important to me than formality tbh. Most were in trousers but not formal suits even DH wasn't full suit just waistcoat and shirt until about 7pm when he changed into... Baggy Jean shorts the horror!! Far from chavs but we're pretty grubby hippies so meh.

However a polite 'formal attire, no shorts please' on the invite would cover your bases.

I've lived in 3 hot countries and no one ever wore shorts to any of the weddings. In a Catholic country it would be pretty disrespectful.

With the substantial expense of travel and accommodation, whether or not my food is paid for is irrelevant. Food is cheaper. Anyone who travels for what you your event is doing a big favour to you and I hope you appreciate the cost and time they are giving you. The honour is yours to have them come to a destination wedding at all.

I doubt most people would think of wear shorts to a wedding. I agree with those who say putting long trousers as the dress code is a better approach. If it's going to be scorching weather though, it's a bit unfair.

Your venue look stunning. It’s not unreasonable to request formal attire at a wedding. Shorts & trainers at wedding it’s a bit TOWIE. Have a super day and congratulations @MumOfHals

Well you know what they say - you’ve been to one wedding in Spain, you’ve been to them all. (Or should that be Juan’s wedding?)

Tbf these weren't the shorts I was (and probably a lot of others were) thinking of. I was imagining tailored dress shorts, loafers, light blazer etc. Which is no better or no worse than trousers imo, especially if half your guests are going to look sweaty and disgusting in your photos from wearing trousers (I'm from a hot country myself but British men and women often look quite sloppy and dishevelled in hot weather).