No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

And in the first picture is a man in white trainers 😂

Presumably you know most of your guests well enough to know if they're sensible enough to follow a dress code. It would be perfectly reasonable to state 'formal dress' on the invitation and assume they would understand and comply - unless you have reason to doubt them.

😂 I thought he was a teenager - anyway, nobody's dressed for a picnic on the beach! Some weddings are picnics on beaches - OP's isn't though, it's a traditionally formal wedding and I don't blame her for not wanting her British guests to look like they came to the wrong event.

Is that guest in a long white dress?! 😲

Yeah, there were quite a few. I don't know if they have the same 'rule' in Spain?

Mind you, someone wore a long white dress to my very English wedding. She was definitely making a point!

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Right, and lovely but it's not been a monastery or religious for a long time. Let's not be disingenuous here, it's a posh wedding venue rather than a religious destination.

Exactly - and OP herself describes it as an EX-monastery in an earlier post.

I went to a same-sex wedding at a former abbey last year. Had it been a working abbey, I’m guessing that wouldn’t have been allowed 😏 If you don’t want anyone wearing shorts, that’s your call - but don’t try to pretend it’s about religious sensibilities.

A very rude point

@KateDelRick,I was tempted to pin a sign to her back, saying "It Should Have Been Me" 😏

I wouldn't say he's a teenager - he and the girls next to him (wearing beachy sandals!) look South American and they tend to have quite different dress codes to Europeans. While none of those pictures show men in shorts, formal or otherwise, I can see some people wearing things I'd consider deeply inappropriate - one of the women sitting down is wearing what looks like a rather brief crocheted top that doesn't offer her enough, shall we say, support? Scaffolding? I can live with men in formal shorts at a wedding but I do prefer to see women's breasts properly housed...

Such a weird take. I live in Africa, on the equator. It is hot. People here do not wear shorts to work, or weddings.

For all the “Well, I’ve been to 217 weddings in hot countries and have met every single Spanish/Italian/Greek man ever and NOT ONE of them would even dreeeeeeaaam of wearing shorts to a wedding” crowd: if it’s so blindingly obvious, surely OP doesn’t need to specify it on the invitation?

I imagine most men who were considering shorts would be thinking in terms of tailored/suit shorts. I think it’s wildly optimistic to think that specifying “no shorts” will make someone who’d happily wear Bermuda shorts turn up suited and booted. Casual dressers will still be casual even if their trousers go past the knee.

😂

This is LITERALLY all you can pick from that photo to try to 'prove a point?' 🙄

Everyone is pretty much in very formal outfits on that photo @Garlicked posted. And I doubt these are £7 Tesco value type 'trainers.' Probably high-end sports shoes.

People simply don't wear t-shirts and shorts to weddings, (not even in SPAIN! ) So stop pretending that's a thing.

EXACTLY!

Recent wedding with friends here. On the left is British, my friend and neighbour. On the right is Spanish and I don't know him but I had some questions! I think this is the male equivalent of a female guest wearing a long white dress to a wedding. Or to Kim Kardashian's crucifying corset dress the other night! It's not shorts but I don't consider it formal wedding appropriate either. It looks painful.

Oh dear, the guy on the right does not look good 😂

The responses on this are weird. Spanish men going to formal weddings in Spain wouldn’t wear shorts. It’s a formal wedding in Spain which isn’t THAT hot. Not a beach wedding in the Caribbean.

What’s the issue? Is it just that you personally don’t like the look?

Plus - are those braces? Wtf

OP, I’d just put something like

Dress code: our venue requires formal attire, women: formal dress, men: long trousers and shirt.

I think it's the very snug crotch 😁

I think you should say what the dress code is if you want to be specific rather than what is not allowed. Personally I can’t imagine that people would wear shorts and if you say no shorts would be a bit offended that you would think we would think that appropriate

Exactly this I'm assuming the women can wear dresses and show their legs. You can get smart shorts. My son wore some for his prom. Had a heatwave at the time.

Guests could have attended my wedding wearing a sack if they so wished. I invited people so they could celebrate our wedding and have a good time, and was just pleased that they came. I couldn't have cared less what they wore.

I never suggested T-shirts and shorts in a casual clothes way. As I have said, there's a big difference between beach shorts and tailored linen shorts, which definitely do get worn here at weddings. Why on Earth would I be 'pretending that's a thing'? I'm 50, not 15. I have posted photos of weddings I have been to here, I can't think why you would imagine that's not what I've done. What you're saying is the Spanish equivalent of the whole 'French women don't get fat' nonsense, and the idea that the average provincial French housewife swans around in Dior all day (I'm half French and I can assure you that's not the case). There are more formal and less formal weddings here, as there are everywhere. I've said more than once that at her own wedding the OP can have whatever dress code she likes but I think the ones trying to make a point are those who seem outraged at the idea that any man would ever wear a pair of smart, tailored shorts to a wedding in a very hot place... That the very idea is unthinkable. Which of these points is the ridiculous one? Unfortunately the problem seems to be that Brits abroad have gained a terrible reputation for dressing badly. It's an embarassing stereotype and while it may have been justly earned, it doesn't mean the OP has to worry about the English guests at her wedding letting the side down.