No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Yes! Those will certainly be very unusual wedding pictures!

Jesus get a grip

Far from being rude, dress codes are polite and helpful to guests. Nobody wants to turn up to an event over or under dressed. Its embarrassing either way. Giving clear guidance is incredibly helpful (e.g. black tie, cocktail) as not all weddings are equally formal and many people choose a more casual event these days.

What about kilts?

I think it is fine to write no shorts. But is there a reason to belive the guests will show up in shorts unless otherwise stated? I'm not sure average epersk would think it is appropriate even if it was hot or otherwise stated.

Spanish wedding, in Spain. Spanish people, barely any British or other foreigners. I didn't have to look hard in my FB photos.

I agree with this. ^ I don't know anyone - no matter how hot the weather - who would wear SHORTS to someone's wedding. So tacky.

Bet these same individuals wear sandals and socks with said shorts too!😖

This looks quite an informal party of a wedding. Really not how people tend to go to Spanish weddings

@SharpLily There is no evidence that the photo you posted is taken at a wedding.

I'm not sure she does have to write it down. She's decided her guests will wear shorts unless she says not 🤷‍♂️

Yeah exactly. No way was that photo taken at the actual wedding ceremony.

Just an example at a friends wedding in Ibiza recently, the Spanish relatives were somewhat appalled. He wasn't the only Brit in shorts and trainers 🤪

😂 Why would I be lying? It was a lovely day.

Exactly! The woman is wearing a jump
suit.

ive seen many Spanish weddings and the men normally wear light linen suits and look fantastic as do the women.

@MumOfHals politely starting “long trousers please” is totally fine. The fact that your wedding is abroad is neither here nor there. People either want to come or they don’t. Any one with an ounce of sense knows tailored shorts aren’t ok but fine to highlight to the witless.

Also a Spanish wedding. Much more formal. My point is that there is no one, single traditional Spanish wedding anymore than there is the same British/French/whatever wedding. First communions here also have a reputation for being ceremonial and formal and I make an effort accordingly when I go, only to see others turning up in shellsuits and similar... 😩

Summer elegance for the ladies and
for the gentlemen, long trousers are kindly requested (no shorts).

What? Jumpsuits are incredibly popular here and come in varieties from baggy and casual through to smart casual, formal and full on head to toe sequins! They get worn to weddings all the time. Those are my friends and that was at another friend's wedding - I know because I was there (thinking about it I was also in a jumpsuit, navy blue).

I have been to three weddings abroad Greece, Spain and Australia. They were all in the middle of summer and almost all the men wore dress shorts and sandals/shoes. Not one person wore trainers but it was so hot I could not think of anything worse than being in a full suit!
Unless you are planning to have the whole event in an air conditioned room I think you are very unreasonable, also remember just because you say no shorts doesn't mean anyone will listen to you, they will probably think you are joking!

Nah, no WAY was that the wedding attire. As another poster said, it's clearly a chilled out afterparty later in the day. No-one would dress like that for a wedding ceremony.

That man in his t-shirt and shorts looks horrific. (In your pic at 9.00pm) Imagine dressing like that for a wedding. How embarrassing! 😬

Why are you asking about this when you have made your mind up. Personally I agree with you and would never wear shorts to a wedding. My wife's niece wants a really casual wedding. I will be wearing at least a jacket and smart trousers, maybe a suit. It's a important event joining a couple for life. It should be marked by dressing appropriately.

Blank peoples faces out before posting their pictures online and slating the way they dress.

The ceremony is at the town hall. Only two witnesses can attend. (My own was the same). The bride, groom and witnesses meet up with the guests at an events centre/restaurant afterwards. That part goes on all day - it's not considered an afterparty because it's the only event. This tends to be the case when the ceremony is not held as a big event in a church, which seems to be less and less these days.

I think the guy in the trainers needs to know tbh - but his own wife would be hard pressed to ID him from that image I think.

To be honest that explains a lot. It’s quite an informal wedding rather than a formal one. Many of my friends got married this way and then did a bigger party where people where dresses formal.

my sister got married in jeans and only the parents attended.

dont think @MumOfHals is talking about a type of wedding similar to your friends or my sisters.