No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

I think that’s different. We all have lovely knees😇

I live in an extremely hot climate. As in multiple people die of heat stroke every year. I have never seen anyone in shorts at a wedding. I say definitely put on there no shorts but I am sorry you have to say it.

Off course , I’m assuming they will use it during the ceremony and not after . A shirt and a waste coat is probably ok too .

We don’t know that she has to say it though. There’s nothing to say that any of her guests are planning to wear shorts; it’s just an assumption the OP has made on the basis that she thinks at least some of her invited guests are ‘chavs’.
My SIL got married in Spain last year and none of the British guests turned uO in shorts, despite no one being told they couldn’t.

Why not just knock it off with the controlling side of things and relax.

Dress Codes stink and are only designed to try and control people.

It's maybe just cultural.

I still say it's rude to not read the room if you are visiting a foreign country and going to a dual nationality wedding not in your own country.

British arrogance probably related to our colonial past?

Some Brits do really hate the heat, makes them panic.

if the venue is formal, has the OP checked what their dress code is?

What month is the wedding? That would make a difference for me. If it’s peak summer and 35/40 degrees then you are definitely unreasonable asking people to wear trousers.

I think dress codes are the opposite of what I would call a ‘classy’ wedding. It’s all very ‘Hyacinth Bouquet’ (lower middle class relentless aspirations of climbing up the social classes). If you really think your guests are going to turn up in shorts and tracksuits, then why are you inviting them?

It would never cross my mind that my guests would wear shorts/vests/hoodies to my wedding, regardless of climate. If you’re that worried about the ‘look’ of your wedding over having a wonderful celebratory time with friends, do some separate photos with some hired models afterwards.

Why is everyone assuming the OPs guests are going to turn up in shorts??

Some people need controlling. They can’t do it themselves.

Your dress code is fine. If you mean “no shorts” then say “no shorts” although I can hardly believe that anyone would turn up at a wedding wearing shorts!

I went to a wedding abroad and it was 36 degrees on the day. All the men wore long trousers but after the ceremony and photos, no-one cared what anyone did. Lots of men rolled up their trousers and were paddling in the sea and by midnight everyone was absolutely smashed and a few were in the pool!

It’s fine to say no shorts for the ceremony.

Just put ‘please wear long trousers for the ceremony’ or ‘no shorts during the ceremony please’.

As long as they can wear shorts afterwards I don’t see the problem, the ceremony isn’t long, they will be fine.

That pink striped suit is lovely @ChiefEverythingOfficer. Quite fancy that for myself. I do have good knees so could probably carry it off well except at OP’s wedding

I am really surprised at the number of.posters who have never.had a wedding invitation with a dress code. I dont.think that.I have ever.received.one without some sort of "guidance".

In the last 5 years I have been to over 20 weddings. Not one has stipulated a dress code. These have all been in Europe. I don’t recall anyone making a fashion faux pas.

The only wedding that had a dress code was about 10yrs ago in America and it was a black/white theme.

Dress Codes stink and are only designed to try and control people.

It depends on the dress code. Guidance, such as smart casual or formal is fine. Being told what colour to wear isn't IMO.

Now that I would absolutely hate!

the ceremony is in the shade

😂

OK

@KateDelRick

Yes, it was very OTT!! All done for the aesthetics (like I imagine the OP’s wedding will be!). I didn’t really mind as I have a LOT of black dresses, so didn’t have to get anything new!!

I’m Spanish and never in my life I’ve seen anyone wearing shorts in a wedding, most venues are quite formal. What do people think Spain is? OP I completely agree with you and I’m shocked you have to write it down

No shirts but with ac sounds great! 👍

To be fair it's probably more for the British contingent!

How about… dress code: suits and sparkles.