No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

You don't want people to just be there though do you? You want people to be there who are prepared to sweat

@Nuttyputty weddings in Spain tend to be very formal I don't get your point sorry.

How about specifying what they can wear: smart casual jackets and trousers. No ties required.

Then the issue of shorts doesn’t arise.

You don't get that Spain is hot? I've been to 12 weddings in Spain and my father owns a hotel where they host weddings. They are a complete mix of formal and casual. And shorts do not have to equal informal.

Part of me thinks that even in a hot country, surely a wedding is not the time to bang out some shorts, as a sign of respect? Then there's telling people what they can't wear, also overbearing.

I would definitely put a clear dress code on the invitations. Formal attire, dresses or long trousers, then you're not being gender specific.

😂 People turn up to church in Spain looking like they've just come off a shift at the brothel. It's horrific. Some people seem to be deeply underestimating the heat here, too. Not a problem in May or October if this wedding is midsummer? Long trousers would be horrific.

Instead of NO SHORTS put 'shorts must be tailored and go down to the ankle'.

I would definitely put a clear dress code on the invitations. Formal attire, dresses or long trousers, then you're not being gender specific.

My husband wore shorts to my wedding 😄😉

That’s the way I’d approach it: smart casual trousers.

The weather is on your side to ensure you aren’t likely to get jeans.

Don’t put jackets! They will all pass out!

Not everyone is as contrary as a three year old. In fact you might be the only adult who is ..,

I'd just have 'smart dress' as the dress code and people will get the idea, if it's a fancy venue then I can't imagine anyone will be in a Hawaiian shirt and shorts. Just be aware that people may feel hot and uncomfortable, and plan for this also. I don't think this is an unreasonable request, but I have to admit my DH would argue it as a reason not to go to a summer wedding abroad, he'd also point out that it'll be considered fine to wear a knee length dress which is a bit of a double standard.

I think it’s fine if it’s a church wedding, as other have said, more casual on a beach would be different.

Exactly be grateful the they are coming it's just a wedding.
Whats it got to do with them anyway if two people want to get married, just go ahead.
Got to be a joke no smart shorts in a hot Country.
Who do ppl think they are?

I’m getting married in Spain too 40c in the summer altough the ceremony is in the shade and the party has AC . I honestly hope nobody shown up in shirts or badly dressed . It’s a wedding not a pub crawl . Common sense dictates that unless other way specified people wear wedding clothes that in men are suits . Anyone claiming shirts is appropriate must be joking .

Just put “please wear formal attire” to clarify that you aren’t doing “beach”.

If it's a wedding abroad do you have a 'fact sheet/ extra sheet' included along with your invite.

We have had invites with an extra page or a website with the other info e.g. how to get there, where to park, where to stay you could include a little paragraph there 'The dress code at our wedding will be cocktail/formal attire, long trousers required'

I would have hated men to come in shirts to my wedding but I think if you are having trousers ( perfectly reasonable ) in that heat you have to let them carry a jacket not wear it.

Also it won’t be chic if they are all sweating.

Haha @Calliopespa My MIL tries to control everything everyone does.. she’s marginally successful with her family, but never with me 😂 Plenty of adults would refuse to conform to someone else’s whims

Women wearing shorter dresses will have their knees on show though?

And worn with a matching jacket.

I do wonder why people get their knickers in a twist about an invitation to an abroad wedding. Surely you just say no if you don’t want to or can’t? Or are you so arrogant that you think the lack of your presence will ruin the wedding and therefore you’ll attend despite the terrible anguish it will cause you.