No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

@IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle I do go to ascot, so why are you mentioning that

Don't

I've never seen a man in shorts in wedding. Linen suits (and Panama hats) are design for suit the warm formal men attire.
If you think there is going to be confusion just mention trouser in the dress code.

Believe me, nobody goes to a wedding for a 'free' dinner.

This can't be real surely?! No knobbly knees at a wedding!🤣🤣🤣

It is not classy and not tasteful to make up a dress code with the tacky name of 'summer elegance', nor to be so controlling and ungrateful to your guests. The definition of politeness is putting other people at their ease, so if you must just say dress is formal. It means something different in Spain anyway.

Well, surely it depends on what time of year!

OP is part Spanish, it would be unfair to British men to let them walk into a situation where they may appear rurud in the eyes of the host country.
I'd put "dress: formal/smart" and field any calls by saying no of course its not black tie just a suit or linen trousers or whatever is fine.

I've been to weddings in hot countries - it's always formal attire, normally linen suits, Not shorts,...

The only people Ive seen turn up in shorts are British people who seem to think hot weather = kit off. I'd put something on the invitation to say long trousers for men. It's your wedding, you want people to look smart and suitable for the occasion so just say it - it's not an unreasonable request.

@Youcannotbeseriousreally op has Spanish citizenship, so it's more than one of those random foreign weddings.

We went to a wedding in the Canaries which was black tie, over 40 degrees, and survived!

A dress code is guidance. It’s rude to ban attire you don’t approve of.

Every time (often!!) my MIL reminds me that a restaurant for a family dinner is “elegant and chic”, I make a concerted effort to look scruffy 😂 If she didn’t write that, I’d actually dress up. I enjoy the rebellion of doing the opposite 😆 You guests might not come to your wedding or purposefully wear shorts just to be obtuse!!

'Please respect the venue and the local culture by....' I would suggest.

100% behind you, saddened that it is even necessary to have to ask people to dress appropriately. Says a lot about the lack of style in the UK.

Not really, I don't want to see nobbly knees. It's not a pub garden or a christening, it's a wedding- you wouldn't wear them in England wedding in a church?

Will you be asking the women not to wear a dress or skirt that above knee length then, by that logic?

If the dress code is formal, then trust your guests to turn up in suitable attire, but if they don't, then you're hardly going to be outshone anyway.

I read a survey once that found most people couldn't describe the wedding dresses from most of the weddings they'd attended over the years beyond "white". I think this is someone people should really bear in mind while planning their weddings - small details aren't worth stressing over. Most people won't even remember what your dress looked like, never mind the colour of the seat coverings!

I do roll my eyes at threads complaining that one bride has copied another's colour scheme or whatever. And the replies reassuring the OP that everyone will know who copied whom. No one's going to notice! How many people are going to attend a wedding and think, "Heavens to Betsy, the bridesmaids at our mutual friend's wedding wore blue dresses and carried yellow bouquets as well, this bride must have copied her! The scandal! The horror!"

@IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle

Is there more than one Vatican?

Because this could say you're wrong...

@Bjorkdidit "Nothing wrong with tailored shorts in hot weather"
On a beach. Lots wrong in a bi-cultural situation where others have gone the extra mile to be traditional.

Would your DP wear shorts to a formal funeral?

I have to admit I'm very hatey of them, not sure why...

It's your wedding, you can request whatever you want as long as you are happy for people to decline for these sort of reasons. You do sound like hard work.

Incidentally, what month of the year will this be? I live in Spain and would be obliged to refuse any invitation requiring me to wear long trousers for at least four months of the year.

Well if the temperature's over 40 degrees I hope my husband would be sensible enough to wear (smart) shorts to a funeral.

It sure why, it does seem very odd!

@SharpLily " I live in Spain and would be obliged to refuse any invitation requiring me to wear long trousers for at least four months of the year"
4 Months?!?! That's a helluva long wedding

@SharpLily DH did a wedding in the Canaries, in full black tie as is the custom there. It was hot but only for a bit.

May suggest you Google 'mens shorts suits'?

You will not be disappointed.

It's fine most of the year but certainly not in summer in my part of Spain.

Lol its not a pub garden or christening. Its a wedding. In SPAIN. are you also going to request the women only wear long dress' then?

A colleague recently attempted to un-invite half of her husbands to be family as they’re from Bermuda and would therefore wear shorts. I do think its a shame to value clothes more than the person in them.