No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

People will think you’re a bridezilla.

Unless it’s a beach ceremony, it’s pretty unlikely guys would wear shorts anyway.

I’m Spanish. Don’t think I’ve seen many weddings where men are in shorts

Absolutely ask for formal attire. It makes sure everybody looks smart.
Been to a couple of overseas weddings where the dress code was black tie...bear in mind tho that the guys will be taking jackets off once formalities are over.

Oh dear, I wore shorts to my own wedding in the UK 😂

Agree. Surely people at a social event can manage long trousers if workers who are hustling a lot harder can.

Completely agree with this.

Overseas weddings costs so much for guests and people feel obliged to go. It’s really inconsiderate imo.

However , think it’s fine to say formal wear/long trousers.

edit - saw you’ve Spanish citizenship so think you’re justified !!

A destination wedding and an over the top need for control. Learn to relax.

I agree with this, at least the woman can wear loose floaty dresses but the men have to boil to death.

Because you're all acclimated.

But yours wasn't a formal wedding.

I love dressing up for formal occasions, and so do a lot of people. It just makes the occasion feel more special (to me).

Many Italian and Spanish churches have dress codes even for tourists entering churches.

The man in the (quite horrible) pink shorts in the post by SmudgeButt · Today 17:49 wouldn't pass the dress code for St Mark's in Venice or the Vatican, just as a tourist, far less a wedding guest.

Just specify that it's formal attire or cocktail dress or whatever dress code you want. I got married in a similarly hot country and no-one wore shorts except for my 9 year old nephew! It didn't cross my mind to specify it though or that any adult men might turn up in shorts. Although my dad did refuse to wear his suit jacket 😂

I had the grooms party in shorts and it looked amazing. We had them made from suit trousers actually.

OP I would just write it as long trousers for men but consider whether your guest will actually enjoy the day. I would rather have happy smiley men in shorts than grumpy men in trousers

Shorts aren’t significantly cooler than trousers, especially trousers of the loose linen variety.

And people who wear shorts to weddings are also slagged off behind their backs.

Christ did you see the state of Gary in his shorts? It’s a bloody wonder he didn’t wear a football shirt too. Has nobody told Gary that you don’t wear shorts to weddings? Like you don’t wear a sarong to a funeral or a grass skirt to parents evening. Come on! Standards!!

Seriously - most men in Spain wear trousers unless they are going to the beach. What is wrong with everyone!

No one is forcing them to "take time out of their lives" they can stay at home if they object to being requested to wear long trousers only

Bloody hell its perfectly possible to be cool & comfortable in long trousers, even for pasty Brits in Spain!

Op you are 100% NOT unreasonable

Shorts are totally inappropriate wedding attire no matter which country the wedding takes place in

I have been to a wedding in Spain, in the summer and men didn’t wear shorts. No one looked uncomfortable. It was a Spanish/English wedding. I think the ceremony was at 5 and went on well past midnight. They do things later in the day there.

I'm honestly amazed at the responses on this thread. Maybe something about OP's phrasing has got people's backs up, but the basic premise is so reasonable.

• Weddings typically have a formal dress code unless otherwise specified
• Shorts are not formal
• Spanish weddings in particular are typically quite formal in dress, despite what British people may think about the temperature. Many of the guests will be local.
• It's perfectly normal to specify a dress code, not 'Bridezilla' behaviour, and often this would be specified by the venue anyway.

I think ’no shorts please’ is fine and a lot of people on here are just stirring.

Will women be refused entry if they're wearing shorts?

People are having to pay extra to attend your wedding because you've decided to have it abroad now you're dictating what they have to wear so they could be very hot and uncomfortable just because you don't want to see knees? I'd ignore you OP and wear what I wanted.

We went to an abroad wedding south of France mid summer. DP wore shorts. It was the hottest day of the year and everyone came up to tell him he had the right idea. Someone fainted. An 80yo. Granted the gentleman probably would have worn trousers anyway but I wouldn’t want to have dictated no shorts and be in that situation where half the party is absent tending to an unconscious person and worried they might have just killed off uncle bob during the wedding breakfast.