No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

If you want to dictate my attire, don't invite me!

Controlling snobbery is sooooo boring!

Good lord, why does it matter. This shouldn’t be about the ambiance or insta photos it should be about your guests being comfortable and happy! The reason why you don’t get shorts in England is because the inside of a church in August is still bloody freezing. If you wanted an English feel, you should be getting married in Hampshire.

I think it’s fine to say smart because there’s probably a dress code but specifying no shorts is completely OTT, especially if the weather is likely to be very hot. Also if you have an issue with men’s knees 🙄what are you planning on doing about kilts? Even some non-obviously Scottish people wear them? Are they on the naughty list too?

Why is it ok for womens 'knobbly knees' to attend your wedding but not men's? Honestly. Tailored short chino types are nice and it's going to be boiling

I don't know anyone who'd even dream of wearing shorts to a wedding - except perhaps a beach one - but if that's the kind of thing your loved ones do I doubt any requests will make much different frankly

Probably best just to hope they stick to tailored stuff and don't show up in shiny nylon ...

That's one in the eye for all the those who've given off to you for having a destination wedding...!

It's far more boring reading people whinging on about snobbery!!

I get we are all different but I really can’t imagine why someone wearing shorts to your wedding would upset you. If someone is going to this level of micromanaging I would question if things are ok. Happier people would be less hung up on this type of thing and kinder people would be keen for guests not to be uncomfortable. Putting formal attire on the invite is enough and the guests should be able to interpret that as this wish.

What a silly post. It's nothing to do with snobbery. There are events which have dress codes - weddings, Ascot,black tie events. A major part of it is dressing up.

We just attended a wedding in SE Asia - 32 degrees. All the men regardless of where they were from - UK, Australia or local were in long trousers. Mostly light coloured and fabrics but no shorts! Everyone seemed comfortable

I agree with you OP. DH went to a wedding in Greece during the summer, he never considered wearing shorts for the day of the ceremony. Light colours, linen suit, etc plenty of options even when it is warm.
You would BU to insist on a formal dress code for the entire 4 day stay though.

If knees, knobbly or otherwise, are showing with a kilt, then it's too short.

I agree that long trousers are a better way of putting it. It's no different than being in a 5+ star resort and the restaurants having a dress code. People manage it across Africa etc. I don't know why British people think that more exposed flesh means that you are cooler.

Okay.

When it comes to weddings, we all know there any many hills to die on.

Trust me, this is not it.

Your guests are spending a lot of money to come your wedding, more importantly they are spending their most precious commodity. Their time.

Don’t be the person to dictate this. A gracious hostess is primarily concerned with her guests comfort. Not what they look like. If your guests are comfortable, they will enjoy your wedding so much more.

If you ban shorts, it is all anyone will ever remember your wedding for, and in 6yrs time you’ll be back on here moaning about a wedding in Greece where shorts aren’t allowed and does this include your DC.

Have standards fallen so far that you need to specify "no shorts" at a wedding? I'm obviously very out of touch, but it would never have occurred to me that anyone would. I mean, it would seem a bit insulting to turn up for a ceremony marking such an important life event in an outfit that wouldn't be accepted on a player in a professional golf competition!

Certainly nobody wore shorts at the wedding I went to on an island in the Med a couple of years ago. It was in a church, which I suppose is a "formal venue" of sorts. and certainly not one where shorts would have been appropriate.

I would state either "lounge suits" or "long trousers".

Why on earth would the men have to be so desperate to wear shorts? It would look all wrong!

Non Scottish men carry kilts to Spain to wear?

We are talking about trousers here - not a full on ski suit. Waiters, office workers, shop workers etc manage long shifts in Spain wearing trousers, so I really cannot see the issue! I would not want people wearing shorts to the ceremony. Afterwards - no problem.

Does the venue have a dress code? It might help to frame it as a venue requirement.

YaNBU at all. Perhaps a beach wedding would be different.

I would expect the men to wear smart linen type suits if it’s warm, which has been the usual attire for the last two weddings I’ve been to in southern Europe (one was UK couple getting married abroad and the other was a couple travelling to her home country for the wedding). Completely agree that polos and shorts aren’t acceptable for a formal wedding. Good luck OP and hope you have a lovely day!

I had a winter wedding in Scotland so shorts wasn’t a thought but men and boys still wore kilts with knees so cold they were purple to match my purple bridesmaids dresses 😂 (for outside photos in the snow 😝)

Does anyone who is suggesting a kilt have the slightest idea of the weight of the material a kilt is made of?

If keeping cool is the issue a linen suit beats a kilt hands down

@MumOfHals just write "chinos" for men

Youve already decided you don't want shorts so just put it on the invite. If your guests feel strongly about it they can choose not to go.

I went to a wedding in Southern Europe, pretty much all the men were in shorts (trouser/chino types) and white shirts, including grooms men. One guy wore a suit, he was sweating buckets!
If its the height of summer then YABU....shorts can look smart.