No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Now that's a classless statement. Nice for you to know that all "the people who want to be there" don't have any financial constraints preventing them attending.
I do agree with the no shorts rule.

Let me fix that for you - "nothing wrong with shorts in a hot country when it is appropriate to wear them!

Shorts are never appropriate for a formal wedding.

Imagine hoping that guests don't come to a random poster's wedding - that's pathetic!

Feel sorry for snobs are they ever happy?

Nothing wrong with a smart pair of shorts.

What bloody right have people got to dictate what guests wear.

Is this a joke? People who do this aren't popular and people generally moan about them behind their backs.

“Summer elegance” is not a dress code, it’s just a couple of meaningless words. A dress code is formal dress, smart casual etc. Have a proper dress code and then you won’t need to specify no shorts because it will be obvious.

It's hilarious when people (bridezillas) go to great lengths to explain how generous they are being, covering all the food, drink and entertainment expenses...I mean, who else would be doing that? 😂 it's your party! The accomodation and transport costs that you've skimmed over are like 85% of the cost of the holiday. And it's not like they would be going there if it weren't to celebrate with you. Most of them would have chosen to holiday elsewhere or maybe not at all.

To be fair, the “Let me fix that for you” thing is a bit pathetic too.

Is it a real wedding, or is it a fakey ceremony with the "boring paperwork" done in the UK beforehand?

Perfect for a riparian picnic! 😂I think I'd rather just leave inappropriately-attired guests off the photos or have "summer elegance" Photoshopped on top of their Bermuda shorts, rather than write "NO SHORTS".

Clothing has been symbolic and event-dependent since pretty much the dawn of humankind. Pretending that it doesn't matter is disingenuous at best.

Why are people so uncomfortable in smart, tailored attire? Attire that was commonplace daily wear until 15 or 20 years ago.

"Smart casual" is just as made-up as "summer elegance," but it was made up a few years earlier.

Oh behave. People were not wearing suits in hot holiday resort destinations in 2004.

You could phrase it more towards what you'd like the men to wear rather than what they can't wear?

'No jackets or ties required for men, please no shorts for ceremony - Chinos fine!

I have been to weddings in South of France, Italy, Croatia, Portugal, Spain no one assumed shorts were appropriate, except the beach wedding clearly stated it was ok.

Calling instead of messaging and buying everything on the high street were commonplace 20 years ago too. We’re not going back to that either.

@MumOfHals ‘someone who is happy to jump in a £10 cab for a free dinner’.

How rude! Wherever a wedding is held, attending it is far more than that. You go to a wedding because you’ve had an invitation to do so and you want to share the couple’s day, but you certainly spend money to go to a wedding.

You've made your position clear. Your wedding is a high end event and you want your guests to look formal, so just put ‘elegant attire’ on the invitation.

I'm very happy thank you.
Of course people have every right to decide what guests should wear at an event they have arranged and paid for.
Loads of invitations for all types of events have a dress code stipulated on the invitation. If you were going to a formal ball it would state Black tie for example. Would you make a scene about that and turn up in jeans?
If you were invited to a Buckingham Palace garden party on a boiling hot day would you be insisting on wearing shorts?
Those events are no different to the OP having paid for what sounds like a wonderful wedding in a beautiful venue and wanting the guests to dress accordingly.

I'm going to a wedding this summer that has spelt out the dress code - I don't have an issue with this at all.

I'd just say something like: Dress Code: Formal Wedding Guest attire - no shorts please.

Absolutely this. Not a weird request at all.

People dress sloppily. .. and could use the reminder. Formal
does not include shorts. So there’s that! Congrats by the way.

if it’s super elegant, you’d write black tie or formal.

And the attire that was commonplace 20 years before that would have been totally out of place then... like women wearing a trouser suit or skirt above the ankle...

Fashions and acceptable attire constantly changes

"if im paying to go to spain for your wedding i'll wear what i like thanks."

is likely the thought of the men.

Honestly op. Just put long trousers to be wear under men's dress code. Yes some people will roll their eyes but will get over it .

😂 could be interpreted that way as well

Your wedding sounds beautiful! If anyone moans about not being able to wear shorts, I'll take their place 😂

OP. Just don't invite the shorts type of person. Keep it smaller. As for people saying you don't remember what people wore, I'm assuming they didn't have photos.

Many years ago (over 40) I went to an ex boyfriend's wedding. It was so casual, his mum wore her old cardi which I recognised. Talk about not bothering. Obviously a low key event but she just didn't bother. They are still married but I remember being quite shocked.

zip up polo tops, chino shorts, sand shoes and sunglasses.

I can imagine the exact sort and think that would look smart but then I'm not middle class or a snob

I believe these kinds of requests are usually made in patronising rhyme format, just to make them even more irritating.

How about:

With love we ask, and hearts so merry,
For attire a bit more dressy.

Jeans and tees we kindly nix,
For suits and dresses, formal chicks.
The weather's fine, no need for shorts,
Let's celebrate in grand cohorts!

(Optional last line for a beach wedding)
Though sand's between our toes, keep it classy,
Formal wear looks oh-so sassy!

(poem by AI)