No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

This is just getting silly. Spain is hardly half way round the world, and there are very cheap flights available if you book a bit in advance.

It's not your wedding, not mine either. Go or don't go- up to you. But respect the couple's wishes, AS IT IS THEIR WEDDING

My husband wore shorts to OUR wedding, he's a grown man who chooses his own clothes, he looked gorgeous too.

'Summer elegance' sounds so pretentious - like something Mrs Bucket would say😂

Unless you're a citizen of Spain, or been resident for more than two years it's not a legal wedding anyway so requiring a dress code and people spending £££'s to basically attend a party is a bit cheeky.

don’t put it in capitals. Just write, Please, no shorts.

It's your wedding, your rules—though I can't imagine why anyone would think it was okay to wear shorts to a wedding. Is it so hard for your guests to make an effort for you and honour the importance of the occasion? There's no reason why the male guests can't wear lightweight suits or trousers for the ceremony and reception. What's so hard about wearing linen/cotton mix long trousers? Most high-street stores have a range and are actively promoting them for summer.

Is this a change since Brexit? We got married in Italy. It was all legal, but we had to be in the country for 5 days, I think, before the ceremony.

I think people are being slightly unreasonable.

I've invited people abroad to my wedding, yes there is an expense of travel / accommodation, however I've hired an entire venue and from the minute they check in, to the minute they check out they are not lifting a finger to purchase any food or drink, as we have covered the entire 4 day stay for them.

I've seen pictures recently of a wedding abroad of people I know, where the bride looks STUNNING, the groom is impeccable in his suit and 3 or 4 of his guests are in zip up polo tops, chino shorts, sand shoes and sunglasses.

It looks a bit classless next to something so classy if I'm honest with you.

My husband to be wears chino shorts on the regular, so I'm a bit numb to them being 'dressy' for a wedding in a very tasteful venue.

It's personal preference. I don't want my guests to be uncomfortable; we are getting married at sunset, dinner is under the stars, fairy lit in a beautiful ex-monastery.

THANK YOU

Are you inviting many people you consider to be ‘chavs’ to your wedding?

It’s not England. It’s a hot country.

smart shorts is fine. YABU.

Shorts thing idc about but you lost me at abroad wedding 😬

Love it when these people say they are paying for everything else, its like WELL DUH as it should be as the ones deciding to marry in some other country like isn't that what honeymoons are for. I always decline these things😂

Decline then. Ive travelled abroad for many friends weddings, if they want to be at my wedding they will. I'm super chuffed to just have the people who actually want to be there at my wedding, rather than someone who's only happy to jump in a £10 cab for a free dinner.

@MumOfHals I got married in Spain (I am from there and my grandma wouldn't have been able to come to the UK, she was 95) and on the email invites I put as dress code : format suit for men cocktail dress for women.
I never thought people would show up in shorts (our venue wouldn't have allowed it), however in some weddings I have gone to in the UK I have seen people with shorts and polo shirts.

And NO socks and sandals, flat caps, pipes, rolled up trousers, knotted hankie hats .. .

But who you also fear will dress like chavs given the chance?

Schrodinger's guests.

Exactly this.
And there a lot of them on this thread. And I don't care if saying it sounds snobby, I'd take being called a snob a million times over being thought of as a chav.
I expect the people saying shorts are fine and it doesn't matter what guests wear to a wedding are the same ones on a thread a few months ago saying a black tracksuit was perfectly acceptable as wedding attire for a teenager - talk about chav central.
Also it's knobbly knees with a k, so many of the shorts lovers on here can't spell either.

If it's in a monastery, then you need to respect dress code.
It's not a beach in Benidorm.
I bet most Spanish men wouldn't wear shorts in a monastery!

Plus, if it's at sunset there may be mosquitoes around, so long trousers are a double-must.

Just put No shorts please, in upper-case letters if you have to. Show them you mean it,

Fine to state a dress code. Plenty of hotels and restaurants say this. Does feel like a bit of a double standard for women though, and some folk may do it anyway.

Summer elegance I love the sound of that !

Why are so many people inviting people they consider to be ‘chavs’ to their weddings?

Are you for real? people in Spain or Portugal get married in suits and a suit is expected from the guests as it should be

The groom and his attendants need to invest in these!

Yabu and if you issue that invitation I hope people don't come

Nothing wrong with shorts in a warm country.

Stop being so stuffy and controlling. Be grateful people want to vote and let them wear what makes them comfortable.

Also it's knobbly knees with a k, so many of the shorts lovers on here can't spell either.

Most people are just quoting the OP's use of 'nobbly knees' to be fair