To think most women on here hate men

[Tanyahawkes]

Sorry for the rant but I’m noticing a pattern on mn, any post involving a man and a disagreement results in multiple calls of he’s a narcissist, he’s abusing, he’s controlling, leave the bastard!

I’ll admit that a list of posts do involve behaviour that is not nice from dh and dp. So many posts also can be interpreted in many ways too, I just feel like a large number of women jump to the worst conclusion first about a strangers partner, having only one side of a story told in a short version.

for anyone misunderstanding me, if a post says the partner is hurting physically, calling names, cheating, putting the op down, then yes I agree, ltb (so long as the post is true) it’s when a post says “great relationship, today partner upset me and we couldn’t see eye to eye” and everyone calls the poor guy a narcissist etc

I don't hate them but I do think women are better than men. I have a son who I love more than life itself, my dad was an amazing man, I have male colleagues/friends etc who I respect but women are better.

Well it’s usually a male mindset that women weaponise sex as well so you’ve not helped your case.

🤣 no I’m actually a woman

This.

If you have experienced abuse, you can often see patterns. It is also not uncommon for a thread to start out one way and then take a nose dive as the OP reveals more detail. It's not that I hate men, more that I am extremely wary of them and doubt their motivation.

Yea I hardly think women calling out bad behaviour is stooping to men's level.

Men threaten women with rape or murder frequently on social media yet you think women saying "you don't have to stay in your marriage if you aren't happy" is stooping to that level.

You can think that if you like. I can think you're chatting shit.

Wow. You obviously have a phd in psychology clearly, I mean you are sure you have me well and truly pegged. Funny how I’m not actually calling any other posters on here stupid, neither am I saying anyone thinks they are “well hard” yet the snide comments keep coming my way from you, yet according to a lot of people on this particular post, women love to support each other on here. Can people not have a difference of opinion in a healthy way, I have my views, I posted them, some people who claim to hate abuse seem to think it’s ok to be abusive to get their point across, you do you, I’ll do me, we don’t need to be bitches to each other though do we?

Yes, it's pattern recognition.

OP, have you also noticed just how many posts are "but he's a wonderful husband/father" while describing s man who is neither? Or the number of NAMALT comments?

When you look at the behaviour of men as a class, it's astonishing more women don't "hate" them. But that's socialisation for you.

Can you please explain what namalt stands for, I cannot figure that one out.
as for people stating partner is wonderful and then backtracking later to admit abusive behaviour, yes of course I’ve seen that, if I check the post I linked and there is new information that’s clear abuse or even evidence of a pattern then I’ll hold my hands up and say I was so wrong about that post.

im not saying I’m right and everyone who says different is wrong, its in aibu to get a wider opinion, and whilst I appreciate everyone’s views, it seems very few appreciate mine being different, even going as far as being rude and verging on abusive to me, a fellow woman, for having a different view, if I was a man saying any woman was wrong for her opinion I would be called a cunt

I have a number of good men in my life and I certainly don’t hate all men but I have come to accept that a worrying number of ‘nice’ men aren’t actually very nice at all.

I’ve seen a ‘nice’ man criticise his wife for making him the same sandwich two days in a row. The same wife who also works ft. I’ve seen a number of ‘nice’ men over the years circling intoxicated women just waiting for an opportunity to take advantage. I’ve was publicly and openly groped and witnessed a number of ‘nice’ men physically turn away so they didn’t have to confront what they know happened, and then when a lone woman spoke up to support me they maintained that we must have misread the act that they all saw with their own eyes.

I often wonder why so many women are desperate to defend men who wouldn’t piss on them if they were on fire.

Clearly you are missing my point along with most others, you aren’t reading and processing what I’m saying for how it’s meant, all people are seeing is “love men, forgive all sins” no not at all, call out all actual abuse, but do we have to be so quick to shout abuse when you don’t know for sure that it is

👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

So to be clear:

A poster calling you stupid and asking you if you are hard = verging on abusive and a bitch

A man shouting and screaming at his wife for hours, threatening to leave but not actually going and giving his wife the silent treatment = not abusive

So basically women being a bit mean are abusive but men actually shouting and screaming and using a tactic which is actually classed as abusive isnt abusive?

Gosh, "hate men", because women show solidarity with other females? And believe me, many, many more women would LTB for whatever reason if they had money and support to do so, just like many men do when they feel their family situation is too taxing.

100% of rapes are committed by men because the crime of rape requires a penis.
It is legally impossible for a woman to 'rape' somebody in the UK, even if she forces them to have sex while inebriated or impaired.

Interesting. “Females”.

Also practically abusive bitches...

Like we haven't heard that before

Along with "equality has gone to far"...🤔

Don’t forget her partner’s “crazy ex withholding sex”

I think we can safely cry, BINGO!

Maybe I could have said “women” but realistically I’ve had god knows how many people jump on me a female, using the word females, I don’t see that word as derogatory, it’s not an insult, it’s not a slang word that’s insulting. If this is such a big deal and triggers so many women I’ll say I’m sorry if I have offended anyone by the use of the word, I did not intend any offence at all

You have a tin ear for tone and a poor knowledge of the connotation field of ‘females’ used as a noun, if so. But it’s hardly surprising, given the content of your posts.

No, we just call them out on their shit.

NAMALT meant Not All Men Are Like That. It's practically a trope that someone will jump in to say that when the obvious statistics about male violence, or women having learned to be wary of men, is mentioned. Similar to Not My Nigel, though I haven't seen that one here - Nigel in this case standing for NIcest Guy that Ever Lived, meaning the speaker's husband/boyfriend/son.

Really, what's the point of your thread? You haven't provided any examples, you've admitted posts saying LTB have a point, and you've been through shit from abusive men. Why does it bother you that women here can have a poor opinion of men as a class? What does it matter if we do? As PP said, it's not like women "hating" men means we're out raping and murdering them, unlike men who hate women. Men are the single greatest threat to women's lives and safety.

BTW there has never been anything remotely like equality (or rather, equity, or better yet liberation) for women in recorded history, and right now we're in the middle of a huge pushback against what gains we made in the last half century or so.

Interesting how those who use "females" rarely refer to men as "males."

Oh no not bingo, nobody on this post has told another poster to ltb, honestly, solidarity in this website is actually on point, you all found a way to belittle a stranger online for their view, and then claim not to be being abusive, I believe that is called gaslighting, is that not the word of the month, no doubt I’m a walking red flag 🚩 too, maybe I’m the one being abusive, I mean we gotta twist it all like an abusive bloke.

get real, I had an opinion, I articulated that I actually do not know for sure the poster I was referring to is not in an abusive relationship, I’ve also articulated that all abusers are scumbags, I’ve shared snippets of abuse, it’s been twisted around and made out to be false, that’s victim blaming aswell, but guess what, I’m going to keep my belief that maybe some of you are just reacting in a human way from own experiences, maybe some of you are not as rude as you seem overall. Maybe people can get along even with a difference of opinion without resorting to being nasty to each other

Men, males, blokes, there are lots of words I use regarding the opposite sex, again I see no wrong but if this offensive I apologise again

Have you any idea how long it's been "men" and "females"? It goes back centuries and was just one small part of men expressing their utter disdain for our sex.