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To think Anok Yai is one of the most beautiful women on earth?

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MarzipanGenius · 07/05/2024 13:21

I don’t generally care about the Met Gala, but my jaw dropped when I saw this photo.

Can you imagine walking around looking like this?!

To think Anok Yai is one of the most beautiful women on earth?
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Bridgetta · 08/05/2024 09:51

CommentNow · 08/05/2024 08:42

Weve had the body positivity movement and seen some changes but young and pretty is still the catwalk currency. Youth and beauty is seen as aspirational. I'd prefer to see a range of stunning women on the catwalk. Eva Longoria, Meryl Streep.

But it doesn't sell. Women aren't supposed to be comfortable with aging. That's why products for mass consumption are marketed in terms of "youthful glow", "reduce wrinkles" etc. We are all supposed to want to look 20 at 60.

As I get older the more I see the nuanced beauty of confidence, kind eyes etc. I love that you can tell what side someone sleeps on by the wrinkles on their face.

I get that the catwalk is just a show like the theatre, but I think it wild benefit from more diversity across the board. Different is interesting. Not one kind of different that sets people apart (beauty).

Disagree. This line of thinking is fine for catalogues, where you are expected to see people that look similar to yourself (so you can understand how the garment may look on you).

But on the catwalk with conceptual clothing? Should be restricted to the young and beautiful. This is what people want to see unless they have a political axe to grind. I don’t necessarily need to see myself reflected there …

hotpotlover · 08/05/2024 09:58

She is undoubtedly a very beautiful woman. I've just checked her Instagram.

I find it sad that people are arguing on this thread.

It's really not that serious and everyone is beautiful in their own way.

FeltCarrot · 08/05/2024 09:59

I would also agree that MM is extremely beautiful, but her thin legs freak me out a bit! 😂

MarzipanGenius · 08/05/2024 10:08

Iaskedyouthrice · 08/05/2024 02:53

I agree OP. Absolutely stunning. I wish I looked as 'plain' as her with no make up on!
I find it interesting that posters have managed to be arseholes on an innocuous thread about a beautiful woman. A beautiful black woman no less.

I find it interesting that posters have managed to be arseholes on an innocuous thread about a beautiful woman. A beautiful black woman no less.

Yup!

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MarzipanGenius · 08/05/2024 10:18

margymary · 08/05/2024 07:04

My money is on Halle Berry, Jodie Cormer, Elle Mcpherson ,Isabella Rosellini and Audrey Hepburn.

I remember seeing Isabella Rossellini on Letterman when I was very small and thinking she was the most charming and beautiful woman I’d ever seen. I thought she was a princess. 🤣

I had a similar reaction the first time I saw Iman.

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pistonsaremachines · 08/05/2024 10:19

CommentNow · 08/05/2024 08:42

Weve had the body positivity movement and seen some changes but young and pretty is still the catwalk currency. Youth and beauty is seen as aspirational. I'd prefer to see a range of stunning women on the catwalk. Eva Longoria, Meryl Streep.

But it doesn't sell. Women aren't supposed to be comfortable with aging. That's why products for mass consumption are marketed in terms of "youthful glow", "reduce wrinkles" etc. We are all supposed to want to look 20 at 60.

As I get older the more I see the nuanced beauty of confidence, kind eyes etc. I love that you can tell what side someone sleeps on by the wrinkles on their face.

I get that the catwalk is just a show like the theatre, but I think it wild benefit from more diversity across the board. Different is interesting. Not one kind of different that sets people apart (beauty).

The vast majority of people would never be able to afford designer wear so personally I couldn't give a fig about diversity there. Also, they're meant to be selling the clothes, there's no room for nuanced beauty. Even supermodel sizes are so restrictive because the model has to fit the clothes, not the other way around.

Film and TV has more of an impact. Also advertising.

Chirawehaha · 08/05/2024 10:43

Willyoujustbequiet · 08/05/2024 08:32

Don't misquote me.

I was not one of the other posters who called her plain. I also did not say she was not attractive in anyway, I said I didn't find her attractive at all and went on to explain that I don't find many people attractive. Talk about selective!

I haven't taken issue with anyone else's choices but those who haven't agreed about Anok have been piled on. AiBU isn't an echo chamber.

I also did not say she was not attractive in anyway, I said I didn't find her attractive at all

Well, that’s completely different, then. 😂

You’ve also left out the bit where you can’t think of any beautiful people who aren’t white women. Talk about selective!

Not a single person is getting piled on for not agreeing about Anok. You’ve had your very racial clear bias pointed out and are now casting about wildly to find a way in which you’ve been victimised. Thing is, we can all see the exchange, so your revisionist version isn’t going to fly.

EasternStandard · 08/05/2024 10:50

I had not heard of her so looked up her IG

It’s a striking image but I think the op saying the most beautiful is not always going to be agreed with

I find many women fit the description of very beautiful and follow some other black models on IG (as well as not black and some men too) and they are amazing

Halfheadhighlights · 08/05/2024 10:58

Willyoujustbequiet · 07/05/2024 23:40

Margot Robbie. I think she's mesmerising.

And I really wish I didn't but Kendall Jenner and Megan Fox.

Agree with Margot Robbie

Willyoujustbequiet · 08/05/2024 11:16

Chirawehaha · 08/05/2024 10:43

I also did not say she was not attractive in anyway, I said I didn't find her attractive at all

Well, that’s completely different, then. 😂

You’ve also left out the bit where you can’t think of any beautiful people who aren’t white women. Talk about selective!

Not a single person is getting piled on for not agreeing about Anok. You’ve had your very racial clear bias pointed out and are now casting about wildly to find a way in which you’ve been victimised. Thing is, we can all see the exchange, so your revisionist version isn’t going to fly.

Another one being selective lol.

Yes someone being attractive and me finding them personally attractive is completely different. Or do you not agree with the concept of personal preference?

Putting pressure on anyone to accept something they don't want to is coercion. It ultimately impacts on freedom of consent.

Never once did I say I didn't find black women unattractive. I'm mixed race for crying out loud. I simply named 3 - at the moment - who I think I find beautiful and explained that I don't find people in general attractive. That is my absolute right.

Others said they disagree too and they were derided. What is wrong with people that they cannot accept a different opinion?

People can be attractive but I absolutely do not have to find them attractive myself. Would you question why a gay man didn't find a women personally attractive?

3 people in a snapshot does not a racial bias make. It's both embarrassing and hilarious that anyone would try and pull that one.

Yes I'm very glad people can see the whole exchange because it's prompted reactions and given me reassurance that I'm not the only one finding a few of these replies batshit.

Chirawehaha · 08/05/2024 12:06

Willyoujustbequiet · 08/05/2024 11:16

Another one being selective lol.

Yes someone being attractive and me finding them personally attractive is completely different. Or do you not agree with the concept of personal preference?

Putting pressure on anyone to accept something they don't want to is coercion. It ultimately impacts on freedom of consent.

Never once did I say I didn't find black women unattractive. I'm mixed race for crying out loud. I simply named 3 - at the moment - who I think I find beautiful and explained that I don't find people in general attractive. That is my absolute right.

Others said they disagree too and they were derided. What is wrong with people that they cannot accept a different opinion?

People can be attractive but I absolutely do not have to find them attractive myself. Would you question why a gay man didn't find a women personally attractive?

3 people in a snapshot does not a racial bias make. It's both embarrassing and hilarious that anyone would try and pull that one.

Yes I'm very glad people can see the whole exchange because it's prompted reactions and given me reassurance that I'm not the only one finding a few of these replies batshit.

Again, nobody is putting pressure on you to find Anok beautiful. You’re entitled to your opinion.

People are questioning why you cannot think of a single POC who you find beautiful. That’s what you’re being queried on. It’s certainly your ‘absolute right’. It is also clearly very biased. Which multiple people have pointed out, but you seem incapable of self reflection.

kalokagathos · 08/05/2024 13:31

Wow! Gorgeous indeed!

Mama2many73 · 08/05/2024 13:52

Whothefuckdoesthat · 07/05/2024 15:42

It wasn’t a dress, which I think makes it even more stunning. Imagine having the legs to carry that off!

I had no idea who she is, she ĥas beautiful eyes but dontvyjonk she is the most beautiful.
I thought it was gonna be a dress but i really don't like that outfit . You say imagine having the legs to carry the outfit off but I look and feel uncomfortable, and in my eyes she doesn't look comfortable
I agree that Zendaya is stunning but also agree that Meghan and Kaley are too

PoochiesPinkEars · 08/05/2024 13:56

I'd never heard of her but yes she's a complete beauty, her look is quite sharp in the met gala photo, other images of her make her look quite different... I suppose that's the role of a model to be able to portray many looks.
Love this one

To think Anok Yai is one of the most beautiful women on earth?
tiredandabitfat · 08/05/2024 14:10

So interesting to read all the differing opinions.

I think a lot of the time it has to do with people coveting what they don't have.

For example, I look a little bit like a chubbier, plainer Kelly Brook.

Therefore, when she was at her peak and regularly topping the sexiest woman alive lists, I just didn't see it. I preferred very slim, slight, small chested blondes with delicate features.

(Ps- now that I'm older and even chubbier and plainer, I would love to once again bear a resemblance to Kelly brook, and I now do see how attractive she was)

AstonUniversityPotholeDepartment · 08/05/2024 14:20

I've found out that this year's Met Gala theme was a Garden of Time, so I'm disappointed Yai didn't use that as a pretext to dress up like a fairy princess, or a mysterious elf queen. Grin

The crystal costume (is it a body stocking?) would have been great for a watery theme. She looks like a mermaid given legs.

Batteredcodmushypeasandafalafal · 08/05/2024 14:25

I just don't get some of the outfits any of these beautiful women wear. I'm all for bodily expression but nudity has a time and a place. Plus the lady who wore a towel? Why? As for beautiful, there are so many women who are stunning, but the ones who get the most coverage are still the slimmest ones. I think a lot of places are moving with the times, but there still seems to be a thing of bodily beauty being slim.

Willyoujustbequiet · 08/05/2024 14:28

Chirawehaha · 08/05/2024 12:06

Again, nobody is putting pressure on you to find Anok beautiful. You’re entitled to your opinion.

People are questioning why you cannot think of a single POC who you find beautiful. That’s what you’re being queried on. It’s certainly your ‘absolute right’. It is also clearly very biased. Which multiple people have pointed out, but you seem incapable of self reflection.

But some have been.

It's only 3 at one particular time in my life. 3 is not bias and its disingenuous to suggest it is. I didnt name any others because as I explained I hardly find anyone attractive. Others agreed. Why is not finding people personally attractive not acceptable? Would saying I was asexual not be valid?

What if I wanted a threesome on a one night stand and it happened to be 3 white people? Apparently that makes me racist going off this thread.

I used to love Naomi Campbell growing up but now I dislike her personality. But I shouldn't have to mention that or to justify my opinion just because those current 3 happen to be white. Then be told that my own ethnicity has no impact. I beg to bloody differ.

I highly doubt I would have been questioned like this if I had picked 3 women of colour so the double standard is staggering. Some of the replies on this this thread are beyond bonkers at best. At worst they are quite insidious.

For the record I've googled her and nope. She isn't beautiful in my eyes. Her face and eyes are too angular. That's just my opinion and its equally valid as anyone else's.

mactire · 08/05/2024 14:34

Batteredcodmushypeasandafalafal · 08/05/2024 14:25

I just don't get some of the outfits any of these beautiful women wear. I'm all for bodily expression but nudity has a time and a place. Plus the lady who wore a towel? Why? As for beautiful, there are so many women who are stunning, but the ones who get the most coverage are still the slimmest ones. I think a lot of places are moving with the times, but there still seems to be a thing of bodily beauty being slim.

Gets reposted, that’s all there is to it. I think most of them change after they get up the steps as well. I know the one in the sand dress had it cut into a mini dress that she could walk around in

MarzipanGenius · 08/05/2024 15:11

Willyoujustbequiet · 08/05/2024 14:28

But some have been.

It's only 3 at one particular time in my life. 3 is not bias and its disingenuous to suggest it is. I didnt name any others because as I explained I hardly find anyone attractive. Others agreed. Why is not finding people personally attractive not acceptable? Would saying I was asexual not be valid?

What if I wanted a threesome on a one night stand and it happened to be 3 white people? Apparently that makes me racist going off this thread.

I used to love Naomi Campbell growing up but now I dislike her personality. But I shouldn't have to mention that or to justify my opinion just because those current 3 happen to be white. Then be told that my own ethnicity has no impact. I beg to bloody differ.

I highly doubt I would have been questioned like this if I had picked 3 women of colour so the double standard is staggering. Some of the replies on this this thread are beyond bonkers at best. At worst they are quite insidious.

For the record I've googled her and nope. She isn't beautiful in my eyes. Her face and eyes are too angular. That's just my opinion and its equally valid as anyone else's.

For someone who has signalled their departure multiple times, doesn’t want to engage with me and wishes to be left alone, you’re posting on my thread a truly remarkable amount.

It’s very funny to see you desperately trying (and failing) to gaslight a whole thread. You go, girl!

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MarzipanGenius · 08/05/2024 15:16

Batteredcodmushypeasandafalafal · 08/05/2024 14:25

I just don't get some of the outfits any of these beautiful women wear. I'm all for bodily expression but nudity has a time and a place. Plus the lady who wore a towel? Why? As for beautiful, there are so many women who are stunning, but the ones who get the most coverage are still the slimmest ones. I think a lot of places are moving with the times, but there still seems to be a thing of bodily beauty being slim.

The outfits are meant to be wearable works of art, as opposed to pretty (or, indeed, flattering) clothing. It probably helps to view them in that light.

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Chirawehaha · 08/05/2024 15:23

Willyoujustbequiet · 08/05/2024 14:28

But some have been.

It's only 3 at one particular time in my life. 3 is not bias and its disingenuous to suggest it is. I didnt name any others because as I explained I hardly find anyone attractive. Others agreed. Why is not finding people personally attractive not acceptable? Would saying I was asexual not be valid?

What if I wanted a threesome on a one night stand and it happened to be 3 white people? Apparently that makes me racist going off this thread.

I used to love Naomi Campbell growing up but now I dislike her personality. But I shouldn't have to mention that or to justify my opinion just because those current 3 happen to be white. Then be told that my own ethnicity has no impact. I beg to bloody differ.

I highly doubt I would have been questioned like this if I had picked 3 women of colour so the double standard is staggering. Some of the replies on this this thread are beyond bonkers at best. At worst they are quite insidious.

For the record I've googled her and nope. She isn't beautiful in my eyes. Her face and eyes are too angular. That's just my opinion and its equally valid as anyone else's.

I’m just going to copy and paste.

You’ve had your very racial clear bias pointed out and are now casting about wildly to find a way in which you’ve been victimised. Thing is, we can all see the exchange, so your revisionist version isn’t going to fly.

Again, nobody is putting pressure on you to find Anok beautiful. You’re entitled to your opinion.

People are questioning why you cannot think of a single POC who you find beautiful. That’s what you’re being queried on. It’s certainly your ‘absolute right’. It is also clearly very biased. Which multiple people have pointed out, but you seem incapable of self reflection.

slore · 08/05/2024 15:25

LateAF · 08/05/2024 07:50

But that’s different- no one expected or asked that poster to gush over the model. The issue the poster was called out on stemmed from her comment that the model was not attractive in any way. Which combined with the poster’s inability to name one beautiful non-white celebrity, suggests a Euro centric ideal of beauty.

The model may not be everyone’s preference but in no way is she average or plain. It’s not about a need to gush over celebrities but admitting to an underlying (and very common) whitewashed view of beauty standards.

And why are you saying this to me? I was only responding to the person who, like me, doesn't become attracted to celebrities. It was somewhat off-topic.

To be quite honest, the way OP eagerly jumped on and shamed @Willyoujustbequiet suggests she started this thread just to virtue-signal about thinking a black woman is the most beautiful. She was looking for the opportunity to be sanctimonious.

As are you, quite frankly. No one needs yet another a lecture about "European beauty standards" claptrap.

slore · 08/05/2024 15:31

Batteredcodmushypeasandafalafal · 08/05/2024 14:25

I just don't get some of the outfits any of these beautiful women wear. I'm all for bodily expression but nudity has a time and a place. Plus the lady who wore a towel? Why? As for beautiful, there are so many women who are stunning, but the ones who get the most coverage are still the slimmest ones. I think a lot of places are moving with the times, but there still seems to be a thing of bodily beauty being slim.

They want to stand out and be different. A standard but beautiful dress won't get as many column inches.

I knew Alok being very slim would spark resentful comments. Rita Ora got a ton of attention for her outfit and she's curvy. Very slim people are constantly and openly bashed, so it's nice that there is an industry where this body type fits in and is accepted.

MarzipanGenius · 08/05/2024 15:45

slore · 08/05/2024 15:25

And why are you saying this to me? I was only responding to the person who, like me, doesn't become attracted to celebrities. It was somewhat off-topic.

To be quite honest, the way OP eagerly jumped on and shamed @Willyoujustbequiet suggests she started this thread just to virtue-signal about thinking a black woman is the most beautiful. She was looking for the opportunity to be sanctimonious.

As are you, quite frankly. No one needs yet another a lecture about "European beauty standards" claptrap.

Indeed. Black women finding other Black women attractive are sanctimoniously ‘virtue signaling’ and Eurocentric beauty standards are claptrap. We made them up for shits and giggles.

I’m not surprised you agree with Willyoujystbequiet.

Oooh, the dogwhistles are out.

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