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Vegan wedding

319 replies

Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 14:05

Would it be asshole-ish of me to smuggle babybels in my handbag?

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

I did think of peperami but it's vile and stinky.

OP posts:
Hugosmaid · 05/05/2024 18:20

OP you’d most likely be able to get pork scratching from the bar at the reception 😁

SwingTheMonkey · 05/05/2024 18:24

If I had a big breakfast I could easily go until the wedding breakfast without eating anything but I’m well aware that others can’t. Different metabolisms and all that. If someone feels the need for a snack in between, there’s nothing wrong with that.

Fears · 05/05/2024 18:24

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 18:19

@bloodyplumbing

thats a bit different isn’t it

can you think why?

Its too much to expect them to actually think. 😂 They just sound pathetic. How embarrassing.

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 18:25

Hugosmaid · 05/05/2024 18:20

OP you’d most likely be able to get pork scratching from the bar at the reception 😁

Pork scratchings are the boyo 😁

CommentNow · 05/05/2024 18:26

Nobody cares.

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:26

@Fears and that's exactly why people find vegans so irritating and sanctimonious!

Well done for being so stereotypical, it's so refreshing.

Ohdear1991 · 05/05/2024 18:27

spookehtooth · 05/05/2024 15:14

These kinds of posts always confuse me! Every time I tried organizing meals at vegan restaurants it was bloody omnivores showing up 😂None of the fellow vegans in the social group could make them in the end, the very folk who I thought would like them most. Then I meet folk who insist they simply cannot go a meal, not even a day with no animals-based consumption.

Its totally irrational. Our history, and therefore our biology is much more tightly bound up with plants. Its only relatively recently that our diet isn't one with minimal meat and dairy. Lack of fridges for one, and also lack of drugs to allow animals to be farmed in such large numbers, tightly packed into smaller spaces than they need to live healthily. Maybe if we were evolved from cats or some other obligate carnivores ... but we're not!

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I can honestly say is absolutely untrue, our Homo Erectus ancestors increased their brain volume cc substantially through the consumption of meat, all apex predators are carnivorous/omnivorous, our Homo Sapien and Neanderthal European ancestors survived the Ice Age eating nothing much besides meat until around 9000B.C when agriculture was created (and the glaciers) had subsided. Also, as someone with a Biomedical science degree, I can say the human species is omnivorous in the same way that dogs are. We are mostly actually carnivorous as we are unable to produce the essential amino acids that are found solely in animal products. Where as plant eating animals can produce these themselves. Our teeth, gastrointestinal tract, metabolic enzymes, ability to survive purely on meat and the fact that the only single food group you can survive on is animal products is undisputed evidence we are not plant eaters or even close to being that way inclined. Not to mention Vitamin B12 is only found in animal products and without this you will die, fact. Humans have managed to fortify non-animal products such as bread and cereals with Vit B12, but of course this isn't an argument for human physiology as it's man made and we can only base true physiology in an environmental scenario where we didn't have technology/before modern technology.

Apologise for the rant but I see this all the time and I have no idea where this rubbish is being fed to people from.

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:27

@LuckySantangelo35 because you Otho k you're right and you're not?

Alwaysalwayscold · 05/05/2024 18:29

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 18:11

They need to suck it up!

no one needs to eat meat every single meal

No but they need to eat something. Especially at a wedding which is a very long day, potentially with alcohol.

SavingTheBestTillLast · 05/05/2024 18:29

If you think there’s not enough on the menu to fill you up for that one day
and if it’s a vegan wedding
why not bring vegan snacks….fruit for example

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 18:30

Ohdear1991 · 05/05/2024 18:27

I can honestly say is absolutely untrue, our Homo Erectus ancestors increased their brain volume cc substantially through the consumption of meat, all apex predators are carnivorous/omnivorous, our Homo Sapien and Neanderthal European ancestors survived the Ice Age eating nothing much besides meat until around 9000B.C when agriculture was created (and the glaciers) had subsided. Also, as someone with a Biomedical science degree, I can say the human species is omnivorous in the same way that dogs are. We are mostly actually carnivorous as we are unable to produce the essential amino acids that are found solely in animal products. Where as plant eating animals can produce these themselves. Our teeth, gastrointestinal tract, metabolic enzymes, ability to survive purely on meat and the fact that the only single food group you can survive on is animal products is undisputed evidence we are not plant eaters or even close to being that way inclined. Not to mention Vitamin B12 is only found in animal products and without this you will die, fact. Humans have managed to fortify non-animal products such as bread and cereals with Vit B12, but of course this isn't an argument for human physiology as it's man made and we can only base true physiology in an environmental scenario where we didn't have technology/before modern technology.

Apologise for the rant but I see this all the time and I have no idea where this rubbish is being fed to people from.

👏👏👏

Said it better than me.

Ohdear1991 · 05/05/2024 18:31

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You seem like a stable individual.

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:31

SavingTheBestTillLast · 05/05/2024 18:29

If you think there’s not enough on the menu to fill you up for that one day
and if it’s a vegan wedding
why not bring vegan snacks….fruit for example

Oh yeah a pear is soooo filling!

Kandalama · 05/05/2024 18:31

Alwaysalwayscold · 05/05/2024 18:29

No but they need to eat something. Especially at a wedding which is a very long day, potentially with alcohol.

Well yes,
But why does the item OP takes to the wedding have to be non vegan.
Whats wrong with a vegan snack.

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:34

@Kandalama they're shite and bland and I'm an adult and will eat what I like?

Vegans do not dictate to me and the wedding will not be spoilt by a babybel.

SwingTheMonkey · 05/05/2024 18:34

Kandalama · 05/05/2024 18:31

Well yes,
But why does the item OP takes to the wedding have to be non vegan.
Whats wrong with a vegan snack.

Why should they though? I’m sure they won’t be flaunting it in people’s faces?

It’s fine to take a non vegan snack if you’re discreet. The hosts are vegan and therefore serving a vegan meal. That doesn’t mean guests are required to be vegan themselves all day.

SavingTheBestTillLast · 05/05/2024 18:34

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:31

Oh yeah a pear is soooo filling!

Banana is more filling I suppose, especially if you bring ten OP 😄
Im sure there’s loads of other vegan snacks

Halzie · 05/05/2024 18:35

Fanchester · 05/05/2024 15:29

I don't think it's the babybel in itself that's an issue- it's the idea of deliberately taking something that the hosts would be upset about. Just seems so spiteful and petty. Why not take a banana or some nuts- it's hardly difficult.

If I felt upset about a babybel I'd reevaluate my life. Been vegetarian for 25 years and couldn't imagine being upset about a piece of cheese.

KreedKafer · 05/05/2024 18:35

Halzie · 05/05/2024 14:27

I think we are living in crazy times where people would get their back up so much about a babybel at a wedding.

I think we’re living in crazy times when people are so picky and spoilt that they can’t cope for a few hours without a specific food.

People talking about bringing ‘snacks’ to weddings in their handbags like they’re going on an outing with a toddler really need to grow up.

I love meat, fish and dairy. But I can also go without them for one day of my life because I’m a fucking adult.

Lillith111 · 05/05/2024 18:36

Would the people saying they’re inflicting their belief system on OP feel the same if they went to a Jewish wedding which was Kosher or a Hindu wedding that didn’t serve beef? Surely when you go to an event you respect the hosts belief system?

Fears · 05/05/2024 18:38

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:26

@Fears and that's exactly why people find vegans so irritating and sanctimonious!

Well done for being so stereotypical, it's so refreshing.

Sorry? This thread is clearly 💩

I’m not vegan btw.

MasterBeth · 05/05/2024 18:38

Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 14:05

Would it be asshole-ish of me to smuggle babybels in my handbag?

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

I did think of peperami but it's vile and stinky.

Secret Babybels would be fine, IMO.

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 18:38

SavingTheBestTillLast · 05/05/2024 18:34

Banana is more filling I suppose, especially if you bring ten OP 😄
Im sure there’s loads of other vegan snacks

I would have to take a block of cheese as a snack. 😅

Kandalama · 05/05/2024 18:39

SwingTheMonkey · 05/05/2024 18:34

Why should they though? I’m sure they won’t be flaunting it in people’s faces?

It’s fine to take a non vegan snack if you’re discreet. The hosts are vegan and therefore serving a vegan meal. That doesn’t mean guests are required to be vegan themselves all day.

I didn’t say they shouldn’t.
I wondered why the snack couldn’t just be vegan.
Happy for OP to give a reason ….allergies…..will drop dead if don’t eat meat/dairy every day…… feels put upon and doesn’t agree with vegan weddings…….is morally against vegans……???

OP is asking for opinions, we are giving her/him different opinions. Isn’t that point of the thread. No obvious right or wrong here.

MasterBeth · 05/05/2024 18:40

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:34

@Kandalama they're shite and bland and I'm an adult and will eat what I like?

Vegans do not dictate to me and the wedding will not be spoilt by a babybel.

The answer to "vegan snacks are bland" is not "Babybel".

The bland leading the bland.