Neighbour made me feel awkward and uncomfortable

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I don't post often so I'm sorry if this is the wrong section. Basically I have a few guy mates also someone I'm dating. Neighbour basically come up to me and said a guy walked up your drive back down it and crossed the road got in his car and drove away. I thought this was nice thinking he is looking out for me. As this does sound like a odd thing to do. However he then started saying he didn't know what to think and started talking about brothels. I feel he is trying to say something about me. However now I feel awkward if i have a friend round as the bloke just sits in his van all day. I feel totally uncomfortable now and feel very awkward. I don't want any hassle. We haven't spoken before other then a quick hello. It also made me feel uncomfortable when he said a few times it's none of my f*ing business. This also made me feel uneasy. I feel later after this incident I had to go and explain myself to him. I just feel awkward and uncomfortable now in my own home. I'm due to see a mate on Tuesday and I'm dreading it because it's a guy and I'm worried sick now.

Ugh what a creep. You do not have to explain anything to this horrible man. Personally I would just go live my life and pretend he doesn’t exist. I literally wouldn’t acknowledge his existence. Do not give him any more chance to speak to you at all. He’s basically made an assumption that you are a sex worker because you have males coming to your house. He’s disgusting.

Letter from a solicitor reminding him about slander laws?

Why are you worried about what your neighbour thinks?

Yes. I can’t say I’d be too concerned about the opinions of a man who sits in his van all day. Surely when he made the comment about a brothel, you pulled him up on his assumptions then and there?

AtrociousCircumstance · Today 12:50
Letter from a solicitor reminding him about slander laws?

This. He’s likely spreading his poison. Don’t tolerate it.

It also made me feel uncomfortable when he said a few times it's none of my f*ing business

What wasn't your business?

Does he pay your rent? No. None of his beeswax then.
What's he gonna do? Report you to the police and have them raid the house and find you and your mates all watching BGT tucking into pizza (delivered by yet another man).
Just ignore

Urghhhh, he's a sad little man and has no right to make you feel uncomfortable.

There is a good chance the guy who walked up and down your drive may have been looking for another house.

He's being a nosy old fart, tell him to take a long walk off a short pier and to get his head out of the gutter.

This man is fixated on brothels, what does that say about him! ?
Just ignore him.

Wow, that'd infuriate me too

Worried sick about what your neighbour thinks of you having male friends over? 🤔And what do you think he thinks is going on? Your running a brothel from your home? Surely you laughed that ridiculous comment off when he mentioned it?

I don’t fully understand the post (didn’t you make any response or protest when he brought up a brothel, what did he mean when he repeatedly said ‘it’s none of my fucking business?), but you haven’t done anything wrong OP.

You should have laughed loudly in his face when he brought up a brothel and tell him he’s been watching too many crime shows, then shook your head at him in pity.

Sounds like wishful thinking on his part. What a creep. I’d give him the brush off if he comes near you again.

10 years ago my neighbour told DH I was "entertaining strange men" when he was at work. The strange men being 2 of my brothers, my step dad and a family friend. He was most suspicious because they were "coloured men". DH laughed in his face and told him to stop stalking and harassing his wife. I suggest you say this to that man.

I have never visited a brothel myself, but I believe the correct way to visit one is not to walk up to a house, walk away get into a car and drive off. Your neighbour is just a creep, some sad men get off on shoehorning inappropriate comments into a conversation . Don’t talk to him and don’t worry about what goes on in his grubby little thoughts.

I actually think there’s a sexually creepy undertone here. If he’s aggressively speaking to you and thinks you are a sex worker, you are in danger from
this man, IMO. He sounds angry and woman/hating and you are on his radar. Do you have a male
relative or scary male friend who can go and tell him he heard what he had implied and that he needs to fuck off and leave you alone?

What wasn’t any of your business op?

This is a bit much.

That’s the vibe I’m getting! Some men are fucking perverts

Neighbour is hoping he's got a brothel next door. Tell him to fuck off otherwise he'll be hearing from your solicitor.

Why is he sitting in his van all day? Do you mean on his driveway? Doesn't he go into his house or to work ever?

I just don't want him making assumptions ect. The brothel comment was just weird. He could of just said about the man on my drive. It's awkward now my mate feels also uncomfortable. I have anxiety as well I'm not good with people as it is so I guess the whole thing has made me feel awkward. I have a small child so I do care what he thinks because I don't want him contacting s s implying I'm a escort.

Is he sitting in his van watching you OP?

If he says anything else I’d consider the solicitor’s letter too.

Make sure you record anything else he says to you, keep your phone accessible.

Sorry I should of put in the post I explained to him that they are my male friends and because I'm currently decorating my house I said you will probably see them quite a bit. That's when he started to say none of f*ing business.

The vibe you’re getting from the very limited information we have all read?