They have enough money I don’t need to pay them back?

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Has anyone come across people with this attitude before? I fear it’s really common.

A friend told me her boyfriend didn’t pay his friend back for tickets he bought as he was rich and didn’t need it.

A colleague took our deposits for a lunch (outside of work) she didn’t book it and paid us all back apart from one person - who was definitely earning a good £20-30K more.

Such a shit attitude and I’m having it done to me now.

Never come across this.

Ask for the money back publicly, I would shame them.

I haven't never seen this happen but agree it's not acceptable

Never seen this happen and we are high earners.

My brother every time he “borrows” money from his FIL. He was absolutely incandescent when FIL stopped handing out money because his FIL is rich, dosnt need it, it’s only x amount and it’s eventually going to be my SILs money anyway…

I think that is just unbelievable.

Although people and money never cease to surprise me.

I've had it the other way...I'm the lowest paid member of my team and I had to wait 3 days for certain people to pay me what they owed after I'd booked something. I would never, ever make someone wait for money back, especially not a colleague!

Apart from the obvious dishonesty, it's very short-sighted. Nobody would ever lend to you or sub you or do you a favour ever again. In fact, they'd probably dump you as a friend.

Yes, I’ve known people like this, they weren’t nice people in other ways either. They thought the works owed them something.

*world

That's quite shocking tbh!

I've not experienced it explicitly with cash, slightly similar I guess but BIL and his partner will never pay for anything when we're out with them - not a coffee, meal, parking etc as in BILs view we earn more as a couple so it's up to us to pay. grinds my gears!

Yep. All.The.Time 🤬🤬🤬

This is why you should never, ever lend anyone money. Ever.

Haven’t come across this but I’m not rich or well off so maybe that’s why.

It’s not right though and shouldn’t matter, they should of course pay it back.

Yep, my close family are like this.

It stems from their "chip on the shoulder" mentality about how other people are doing compared to them.

No, how embarrassing. I hate knowing I owe people and could never do this. The second payday comes the first thing I do is pay whoever I owe if I’ve borrowed anything/paid for anything

I'm treated like this by my family 🙄 I'm 1/5 sisters.... for years they have taken the p...

I don't lend anything now...

We recently went on a family holiday and tradition is that we all play bingo x I won the jackpot... the comments i received from them.... trust the wealthiest sister to win... amongst others...

I wouldn't say that I'm wealthy... I've just worked really hard on my education and professional development which has increased my annual salary.

It's a horrible situation when people take the pee... because there is little you can actually do.

Never come across this.

I’d be really interested to hear the perspective of those who have voted YABU. I cannot fathom how someone would justify this attitude.

I agree.

In total this year I lent out close to £500 from five different people. Only two have paid me back. It’s shit and my lesson has been learnt.

Some people are very weird about money. I've definitely known people to take this attitude. I had an ex who asked me to look after his very expensive camera on a night out in my handbag (back before camera phones), I said I didn't want to, was worried about losing it, repeatedly said no. He insisted and I gave in. Somehow the camera didn't make it home - no idea if it was nicked or if one of us left it somewhere. At the time he owed my dad some money that he'd lent us for a holiday and the ex then refused to pay my dad back his money because i was apparently responsible for losing the bloody camera. This guy was an absolute arsehole and would find any reason not to pay his own way in life.

I've had this done to me by a cousin who knew I was ok financially. I lent her £80 and she said she would repay it in "two or three weeks time" so after 2 months and no sign of it I asked her to please repay the loan. She barely concealed her annoyance and went off to the cash machine. An hour later she walked back into my home and placed the cash on my worktop then walked out again without saying a word.

Errr did I do something wrong there? 😕😜😁

It's definitely a "chip on their shoulder" mentality. Some people really are very money driven and its the first thing they think about.

My husbands brother and wife hav 'borrowed' money from us and have no intention of paying us back. They've gone on holidays,had an inheritance and done building work but have still not paid us back a penny. I'd like to tell the, to fuck off but my husband has an elderly Mum who would be devastated by any resulting upset.
They were really stuck for money when they asked to borrow the money and pretended to be grateful to us. They just don't care about paying it back and I'm sure a lot of that is to do with the fact we are well off.

Would anyone be will to admit they have borrowed money of someone wealthier and decided they don't won't to pay them back?