To still bath with Dd now she’s 7

[Cadela]

I’ve just been on the phone to my friend after putting Dd to bed. Was just chatting about our days and said Dd and I had had a bath together this afternoon (usual Sunday routine, showers during the week) and she was horrified.

Am I mad in thinking this is completely fine? I’ve said to Dd do you want to have a bath first and not with me and she has always said no but I’m second guessing myself now.

It’s just us here so we’re a very naked family, Dd sits with me whilst I get dressed and obviously I still help her get dressed when she needs it but now I’m overthinking.

7 is fine if she's ok with it I would say. Its not for me and I haven't bathed with mine since they were tiny babies. I might shower with them if it was convenient. Mind you I hate baths anyway

Don't worry. Different families do different things. There is no overriding 'rule', just as long as everyone is comfortable and happy with the situation.

My friend's family were naked around each other always, even as teens. Different families have different norms. Don't think they were bathing together as teens though:-D I think it's fine as long as DD is OK with it. How do you both fit though?!

I don’t think this is weird at all. I’m sure she’d say if she didn’t want to

I guess the way families feel about nakedness in their households differs, but it's not for me. I prob stopped any nakedness in front of my kids by the time they were 2, and wouldn't ever bathe with them. That's just me though.

My 8yo regularly gets in the shower with me or DH. Totally her choice, I would prefer to have it to myself 😂

I believe privacy should be granted to children as a given rather than something they have to ask for. It isn’t that I am suggesting you are a danger or anything horrid like that. It’s more that it blurs the boundaries of what’s acceptable for the future.

Our kids are early primary and whilst nakedness is okay out here - we do grant the older one privacy - even if Dc doesn’t seek it. This is because just as it is our job as parents to help them have healthy body image, it is also our job to instil lessons about boundaries and privacy and role model such things.

I don't mind the nakedness, but sitting in same bath I don't get. Feels maybe like babying the kid?

Our bath isn't really big enough for 2 (or my 7yr old ds is huge 😂) but we're a "naked" friendly family and all 3ds quite happily climb into bed with me and DH, ask to get in the shower with us etc.

We do have conversations about body privacy and that they can choose not to get dressed/shower/be naked around us/each other but none of them are bothered so far (7, 6 and 3 ds)

Funnily I don't think a mom is that big a deal but honestly I'd be uncomfortable with a dad bathing with a 7/8 year old for some reason .

I have to sneak off for a bath or do it when the dc are in bed. Ds7 and ds4 literally strip off in delight if they find me in the bath. I don’t see anything wrong with it if she’s happy to get in and it’s her choice.

My 8 year boy regularly baths with me and showers with his Dad. It’s perfectly normal.

Mine do this too, if they see me in the bath, the delight on their faces! I know this is not going to last too much longer!

I didn't do baths as I don't enjoy them but I'm sure my DDs jumped in the shower with me until at least 8.
When they started to close the door to get changed or didn't want to change in front of us obviously we stopped. We encourage knocking on doors before we enter bedrooms.
Sometimes they will come in when I'm getting changed or showering but mostly they knock and I will say I'm getting dressed and they don't come in as they don't want to see me naked.
It's fine as long as your DD is happy with it.

If people treated bodies as natural and not something to be hid from their children, growing up would be much easier. Same as countries that teach sex Ed younger have lower teenage birth.

I think my DS would've happily shared a bath with me at that age but didn't do it as I like to relax with bubbles and a face mask/ conditioning treatment and he would've splashed everywhere and filled bath with toys. Not relaxing

My DDs love 'daddy bath' where they all squash in together and have it filled right to the top. They ask for it regularly. I hate baths, and I especially hate baths with other people, so there's no mummy bath. We're just about to move to a house with a massive retro corner bath, so I imagine they'll love that. They're 9 and 11. It will stop when they don't want it anymore, which I can't imagine is too far away.

My youngest would climb in with her dad without being invited (we didn't have a lock at that point) but I wasn't helping them dress by that age, they could dress themselves by the time they went to school.

I don't understand how this is fun at all. I love a proper hot bath which I know my DS wouldn't tolerate. I don't want to have to play endless made up games when I'm trying to relax too.

Plus he thinks it's hilarious to fart in the bath...

Dd is highly schooled on who is allowed to see her naked - ie no one but me and my parents as they’re the only ones that look after her outside of school. Her school is v good about PANTS as well.

I give Dd her privacy whenever she requests it, but it’s just been me and her all her life and honestly she just doesn’t. It’s just us, I’ve been naked around her her whole life it’s v normal.

Just my friend today making me second guessing everything.

Dd is a sucker for a hot-ish bath, and we lay opposite each other and chat about our week and what is going to go on next week. I’ve done it with her since she was tiny. My favourite part of the week!

Personally, I think 7 is too old to still be taking a bath or shower with mum or dad. I wouldn't think you were up to anything weird or make comment on it, but I would think it odd.

My Dd is 10, doesn't share a bath with me but sits in the bathroom to talk to me while I'm in the tub, asks me to come talk to her while she is in. We talk about privacy but she's comfortable with us and I see no issue at all. Why should there be any issue if you are both happy with it? My mum was meant to be in the room while I gave birth but I had to have a c section so she couldn't but I wanted my mum with me as well as my husband. It's just a body, my mum birthed me, I birthed my dd, our bodies are inextricably linked x

I think it's fine at any age as long as she actively wants to. I imagine sometime in the next few years she won't want to anymore.