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To still bath with Dd now she’s 7

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Cadela · 28/04/2024 20:35

I’ve just been on the phone to my friend after putting Dd to bed. Was just chatting about our days and said Dd and I had had a bath together this afternoon (usual Sunday routine, showers during the week) and she was horrified.

Am I mad in thinking this is completely fine? I’ve said to Dd do you want to have a bath first and not with me and she has always said no but I’m second guessing myself now.

It’s just us here so we’re a very naked family, Dd sits with me whilst I get dressed and obviously I still help her get dressed when she needs it but now I’m overthinking.

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BurbageBrook · 29/04/2024 12:41

Not weird at all IMO. Pre puberty it's fine I think.

BurbageBrook · 29/04/2024 12:44

Ok the poster with the DH bathing with an 11yo girl... sorry but that is completely wrong 🤢

Trinity65 · 29/04/2024 12:48

Re the poster who mentioned a "Daddy bath"

I find it a bit Iffy like a lot of PPs but did the poster mean Daddy was in there too, or just that He likes a deep bath with lots of water so the kids went in alone in a fully filled "Daddy Bath" ?

Freakinfraser · 29/04/2024 12:56

Trinity65 · 29/04/2024 12:48

Re the poster who mentioned a "Daddy bath"

I find it a bit Iffy like a lot of PPs but did the poster mean Daddy was in there too, or just that He likes a deep bath with lots of water so the kids went in alone in a fully filled "Daddy Bath" ?

She specially said they all squish in together.

PeachBlossom1234 · 29/04/2024 12:57

Me and my DD are the same, just the two of us and she loves our baths together - I have stopped it happening as much recently (mainly because now she's a bit bigger I can do chores while she's in the bath) but she will ask me to get in with her every single time.....I think it's fine, don't worry

RedBananas12 · 29/04/2024 13:03

Mumaway · 28/04/2024 21:02

My DDs love 'daddy bath' where they all squash in together and have it filled right to the top. They ask for it regularly. I hate baths, and I especially hate baths with other people, so there's no mummy bath. We're just about to move to a house with a massive retro corner bath, so I imagine they'll love that. They're 9 and 11. It will stop when they don't want it anymore, which I can't imagine is too far away.

9 and 11 year old bathing with Dad. I really don't think there is anything normal about that.

I don't understand the need to bathe with kids?

Tourmalines · 29/04/2024 13:11

Trinity65 · 29/04/2024 12:48

Re the poster who mentioned a "Daddy bath"

I find it a bit Iffy like a lot of PPs but did the poster mean Daddy was in there too, or just that He likes a deep bath with lots of water so the kids went in alone in a fully filled "Daddy Bath" ?

It’s quite obvious what she meant, especially in response to ops question which is about bathing with kids . Daddy squashes in with the girls . Totally wrong .

Trinity65 · 29/04/2024 13:35

Tourmalines · 29/04/2024 13:11

It’s quite obvious what she meant, especially in response to ops question which is about bathing with kids . Daddy squashes in with the girls . Totally wrong .

Well it was not "obvious" to Me, hence I asked !!

Trinity65 · 29/04/2024 13:36

Freakinfraser · 29/04/2024 12:56

She specially said they all squish in together.

I missed that bit

Thanks for answering in a decent manner .

CammyChameleon · 29/04/2024 13:39

I wouldn't care at all if I were your friend, must say though, are you tiny or is your bath really nice and big? I can't imagine finding it relaxing to be in my bathtub with my five year old!

Tourmalines · 29/04/2024 13:46

Trinity65 · 29/04/2024 13:35

Well it was not "obvious" to Me, hence I asked !!

😬

liveforsummer · 29/04/2024 17:24

It's fine - it wouldn't be for me for a multitude of reasons and I'm not sure why you need to help a 7 year old dress (assuming no asn) by it's all entirely up to you. Just make sure you're giving her plenty opportunity to stop. The DG having baths with his 9 and 11 yo though- wtf!!! If my 11 year old came home and told me she'd shared a bath with her dad at the weekend (separated) I'd be stopping contact and consulting SS

NPET · 07/08/2024 12:37

I think it depends on your "norm". Obviously a boy or man shouldn't see or bathe with a girl of any age, but the "all girls together" rule can apply at any age - provided she's happy about it.

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