Pissed off at friends birthday plans

[Alarmingghhh]

It's a big birthday and she wants to rent out a space in a poshish bar, I had heard all about it, sounded good, I told her was available to come etc.

Well she's just sent us all our invites and she is charging a fee basically to cover the cost of reserving space. You do get something for the price aka your "ticket" includes 2 drinks, but I just think its really cheeky?! She has savings so it's like use your savings or else lower your expectation?!

If she is tight fisted CF then you need to be absolutely sure on the TRUE cost of the event.

Is it Option 1)

15 quid each regardless of how many people show up? Ie if only 10 people come no bother.

OR

Option 2) is it a fixed cost say 300 quid and she needs 20 people to turn up and pay 15 quid each?

If she is a CF and it is option 2 you run the risk of going and not enough people are there so you are asked for 30 quid etc.

You and friends have form for paying for her dog so she may expect the number that turn up with just agree to foot the rental bill....

Good luck. She seems hard work and life is too short to waste on CFs and people who bring negativity to your life.

Two glasses of wine in any fairly ordinary bar in London would be more than £15 anyway?
So essentially it's just to ensure each guest spends the minimum, ie 2 drinks. That's probably the rule set by the bar. You're not really paying much else in real terms? Presuming there will be snacks? Would you rather you went to an unreserved area of another bar where it'll be really crowded and you'd still end up buying a couple drinks anyway?
I think it sounds fair enough. Though obviously if it's outside of your budget just politely decline. If she really does have plenty of money maybe she'll just tell you to come along and she'll cover your fee.

Will you drink the wine? I don’t see a problem assuming you’d buy drinks anyway. You don’t seem to like her much so maybe don’t go!

Clearly not in London for that price!

It’s just the venue making sure she has the numbers and it is worthwhile reserving her the space. It will also help her know if people are serious about coming. 15 quid for 2 drinks really isn’t that bad

But how many people fund parties these days?

If you go out in a group to celebrate, surely you pay for yourself?

Had to? Gun to your head?

£15 for two drinks at a posh bar is ok, I don't see what the problem is, you would be buying more than two drinks anyway.

when she texted you to say someone else had had a go at her - THAT was your opportunity to say, well I didn't want to be the first to say it, but it is does leave a bit of a bad taste in the mouth being asked to fund your choice of birthday venue.

It never ceases to amaze me how people who seem to find reasonable use of the word "no" IRL have zero issue with taking a pop at anyone who disagrees with them on here.

Oh, and the numbers who have "friends" they seem to actively dislike.

And the more you post, the less they do 😃

I'm so glad my friends are normal. It sounds so exhausting being like this.

Oh my god! Cheeky! Imagine charging people to go to your party! Bin that one.

This. No wonder she continues to pull stunts like this. I would too if the people around me were daft enough to continue to sub me 😁.
You are getting the usual 'you sound like you don't like her very much' nonsense replies OP when people with normal social lives, friendships etc know that this isn't something you do. If I want a specific venue for any occasion then I pay for it.
Still, if the people around me would keep on coughing up then I'd try it on too. So many people too scared to say anything to anyone. Don't get it at all.

Ha, agree.

Yes you pay for your own drinks, of your choice, but you aren’t charged a fee for turning up. Buying your own drinks when there is not the same as having to pay her £15 in advance to go

Or just decline the invite without making a sarcy/snippity response.

Or end the friendship if OP dislikes her as much as is comin g across

I don't drink wine but wouldn't begrudge £15 to join a birthday do with a friend in a specially hired venue

£15 for 2 drinks sounds okay. But £15 for 2 wine glasses does not.

One assumes that actually it's pre-poured and circulated on a tray? So you may get 2 or if early 3-4. Arrive late and get none!

Really? I pay that here easily in the south east, much more for a large glass of wine, depends on the venue.

I also don’t assume it’s pre poured, often these places give little tokens out for your drinks.

How very helpful all the "so just don't go" comments are. The OP knows that's an option but doubtless feels it's a bit arm-twisting for cash.

I would expect the party girl to pay to hire the venue and then have people pay for their own drinks.

If it was an event that sold tickets to the public, that's different.

Op you’re coming across very strangely. People are not traumatised by your predicament

@Alarmingghhh - Honestly. This doesn't sound like any kind of CF to me to be honest. £15 for 2 glasses of wine sounds like what you would pay in many bars/restaurants.

I would suspect that if she gets people to pay for 2 glasses of wine when replying, she will have less people dropping out at the last minute. Doesn't sound like she is trying to get the money for the rent of the place or anything like that at £15 for 2 drinks

It's not the OP who said she was traumatised. Might want to re-read the post you are commenting on?

@Lampslights I more meant £15 for wine is not worth it as I don't drink wine.

And it's not clear if you can even pick your own wine or it's just "here is your warm glass" from a pre sone tray.

I agree 2 large glasses of wine is costly, it's more not knowing quite what 2 glasses means here.