To think there's never an excuse for not offering to take your shoes off in someone's home?

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If you're a guest ( not working, I.e in a profession where you go into someone's house ) aibu to think there is never, ever an excuse to not at least offer to take your shoes off in someone's home? My mind is always blown when someone comes to mine and leaves them on,

Yabu - I keep my shoes on
Yanbu - I take them off

I know

Wrong.
I regularly clean my floors.
We inherited a perfectly good light coloured carpet when we moved in.

I don't ask people to remove shoes. It's just something everyone does round here anyway, but if someone chooses to keep them on that's fine by me unless they are wet and muddy.

I wear slippers in the house because they are more comfortable than shoes.

Because we're not Japanese nor brought up in that culture?!!

do as they do?
Like capital punishment/state executions? Being the only G7 country to not recognise same sex unions in any form, and deeming them against the constitution?
Oh yeah, very civilised and respectful.

Let's live in a country where my best friends' marriage isn't recognised as legally valid, but hey, at least my carpets are 0.01% cleaner....

but the cat and puppy surely never go outside and step in any dirt, mud, shit?
And if they did, I'm sure they thoroughly clean their own paws with water and bleach before stepping back into the house. Surely?

Oh yeah, I imagine footballers wives-type houses are pretty big on the no shoes.

This has really shocked me!

I have to do regular home visits and always offer to take my shoes off, it's the way I was taught.

I was also under the impression that was the polite thing to do when visiting someone's home? In a professional capacity of otherwise.

Germs and dirt particles aren't only on shoes. Also, many people have pets who are constantly in and out of the house.

I used to do a job that required us to visit people in their homes. Some clients had OCD and insisted on shoes being taken off.

Following an incident where someone got a needle stuck in their foot, we were all issued with shoe covers and the H&S policy for home visiting was revised to reflect this.

Then a colleague slipped on carpet in their shoe covers and was off for weeks with a bruised coccyx. H&S was revised again, and we had to meet any "shoes off" clients in community settings after that.

I've never trusted shoe covers since!

So you are against people walking microscopic traces of dog shit that they apparently picked up on their shoes, but you are fine with actual dog and cat bumholes wiping across your carpet?

Proof that this is not about "cleanliness" or a "health hazard".

I was also under the impression that was the polite thing to do when visiting someone's home?

It is, but a lot of rude, self entitled people don't seem to think so.

It's not that important?

I didn't come from a shoes-off family, so it's not second nature to me. If people ask me to take my shoes off, then of course I will, but I'm not volunteering to do it.
I've been house viewing the past couple of months, and haven't taken my shoes off once, and no one has asked.

Just waved off some visitors who stayed with us for two days. The husband walked around in bare feet on our hard floors the whole time.

You really are stuck in the "my cultural norms are universal" mindset, you know. What's considered polite in your area/class isn't even applicable through the whole country, let alone other countries.

It isn’t if the homeowner asks you not to. It’s taken literally years to get one particular visitor to our house to take on board that we don’t want their shoes cluttering up our tiny hall. This is a shoes on house, it’s rude and self entitled to remove them here.

I’m the same, but I take my slippers or house shoes if it is wet underfoot ( or if I know someone is precious about it) and change when I get there.

Some posters on this thread are batshit. As long as you haven't been out across a muddy field then shoes on, I really don't care. And Op, there really is more to life than an immaculate house.

Also microscopic traces of anything can’t do you any harm. They are microscopic.

I don’t need to spend any time “sorting my house out”, thank you. I just don’t have a massive stick up my crack.

We are a shoes off household and I would generally offer but there’s absolutely no need for the melodrama and fastidiousness of claiming it is “rude” not to take shoes off.

Its very much an individual choice and plenty of people don’t do this.

I also think flapping about hygiene is totally ridiculous. No one ever became ill from dirt brought in on someone’s shoes. And if you have white carpets then more fool you.

I have never been to a home where I was asked to take my shoes off. It's never happened. If I've come in soaking from horrendous rain or had to walk through mud, of course I would but that goes without saying.

Once, I came home with a friend after a long day , had new runners on my feet that happened to be hurting me so as soon as I got into my hall I took my shoes off, friend panicked and said "oh is it shoes off house?" I told her no, I just had sore feet.

She then said "oh ok I thought for a second this was one of those weird houses that makes you take your shoes off" 🤣

We're in Ireland, not sure if that makes a difference but I've never been expected or asked to do it anywhere here.

And if you have white carpets then more fool you.

I was thinking the same thing🤣

Same, most impractical colour one could choose.

Offices, kindergartens and children's bedrooms are well used and germy places, the first 2 are usually shoes on areas, the children's bedrooms are most likely covered in food particles, boogies and all gross things kids have on their hands.

The carpets tested are a good argument to therefore remove your shoes to lower the probability of such viruses entering your home, I'm sure if the test were done on no shoes households the numbers would be much lower.

With saying all of that, I don't spend good money in nice carpets for lazy entitled gits to walk in with their muddy outdoor shoes on. No one is forced to come to my house, if they don't like removing their shoes in the carpeted parts of my house that is fine, they can go home.

Hoovering lines into your carpet? Oh OP this is loopy.