Clothing in the gym

[Sapiens]

I have seen this going around - do you agree with him?

I think I do, I really don't understand the current trend of ridiculously small shorts shoved right into arse cracks and bandeau bras for working out.

I go to the gym 2/3 times a week and feel no need to dress like this.

Or, are they just 'dressing for themselves?'

He sounds like he goes to the gym to get a hard on. Nothing he's written would make me care about a single word he says, or cause me to criticise women. A MAN HAS SPOKEN doesnt float my boat.

Yes in the gym I see some women wearing really skimpy gear- and thats only very occasionally. I might think wow thats a but much but the next moment, the thought is gone. Im in the gym to work out. Thats all. & if I felt uncomfortable at a gym for some reason, I'd switch gyms. Simple. All men look at women, but to have to write about it as he has is giving incel weirdo vibes

Yes I think you did need an explanation

Then you were utterly, laughably, risibly, embarrassingly, blindingly, unbelievably, can't-understand-why-people-sit-down-in-the-gym wrong and I agree that you need to be ignored.

I’m not a man fgs

Control his behaviour of course. But there's nothing perverted about an adult male feeling something in response to a scantily class human female. Men are usually very visually responsive in contrast to women who are more interested in emotions. I suspect your partner is lying if he genuinely claims to not notice a scantily clad sweaty woman in close proximity. Either that or he's quite unusual.

Those scrunch bum shorts and leggings are ridiculous (there was a thread about them the other week).

I see women in very little and just think are they not cold! I'm there in leggings and a hoodie and no one needs to see my middle aged belly so definitely no crop tops or just my bra 😂.

Sigh.

We all notice people. We all find people attractive. We don’t all continue to stare. Not all men think sexual thoughts about women they see in public places to the point of getting an erection.

My partner doesn’t claim to not notice. Why are you making things up? How odd.

He notices women like I notice men. Neither of us stare like creepy bastards because we are not creepy bastards and don’t wish to make other people feel uncomfortable.

It’s not difficult to act like a decent human even when in the company of attractive people who aren’t wearing much. If you don’t, you’re part of the problem.

Well he’s a knob. Yes some of the bras I don’t get how they support but they can wear whatever they like. I do run in my leggings and sports bra as it’s so hot in there and I do 5k but I out my t shirt on after but if I want to stay like that I should be able to! There’s a guy in my gym though who wears a set of leggings and tight long sleeve top. He has a few in different matching colours. I feel a bit uncomfortable with the view but even then that is my problem not his

Funnily enough, I'm a bisexual woman, very attracted to women. I have never once in my life found myself in an environment where a woman wearing more revealing clothes has made me uncomfortable becuase she looks hot, or becuase she doesn't look hot. I can look at a woman in any clothing and think "damn" and then continue with my own life without any issue.

So what is it about men that makes them so obsessed with what we wear? And makes them so angry about how we look and how we make them feel? Because it's not simply the attraction.

You can wear whatever you want and if it makes people uncomfortable or makes them want to assault you then that's a them problem.

Glad to see mumsnet have deleted some posts.

The difference between you and a man is testosterone. I’ll await my deletion for stating facts. And I’ll await someone accusing me of being a man.

If you're not a man, what makes you more qualified to talk about testosterone than the rest of us?
If you are indeed a woman, then you're not the only who has met men.

um… you weren’t talking about testosterone were you? It’s not in the post of yours that I quoted. It was me who mentioned it in response to your post.

IMO women who are bothered by this are jealous. I see women who wear skimpy things and think wow she looks hot! (I’m a straight woman btw) Men who can’t control themselves and worry they’ll be aroused… well you need to get some self control! It’s ok to find someone attractive and think ‘she looks nice’ but move on…

You might be glad, but I don’t think deleting my posts helps this serious issue.

Contrary to what you have decided, I am a woman and I have 2 teens, one of whom is a girl who uses a gym on her own - she’s 16. And I don’t allow her to wear tight bra tops to the gym. And she doesn’t want to either, as she is quite well aware from school of how some males are capable of behaving. One of her friends was almost raped at 13 by her own boyfriend but she had the strength to push him off. I’m not suggesting this was as a result of the girl’s clothing.

deleting my posts is counterproductive.

accusing me of being a man, I suppose, is so that you don’t have to actually engage with what I’ve said.

When I see women dressed like that I think Damn! That woman looks great! She worked hard for that body. 💝

I've been sexualized my whole life. It doesn't matter what I'm wearing. I'm thin with big boobs and a butt.

If someone is going to sexualize women they don't know, they will do it any ways. Wearing a potato sack won't make a difference.

So much victim blaming.

Keep reporting, everyone.

Remember, if we wanted misogyny and victim blaming we could use other websites. This is mumsnet, predominantly female so women’s voices can be heard, a place where we aren’t blamed for everything.

You might be glad, but I don’t think deleting my posts helps this serious issue.

Wrong as usual. Posts like that rapey bullshit are the issue.

You have called me a menace to society. If that’s not a personal attack, I don’t know what is.

im a middle aged mum, been on this (echo chamber) website for years. I don’t exhibit lechy behaviour - I’ve been married to my husband for 25 years. I have no sexual interest in anyone else on the planet, male or female.

nothing I wrote breaks talk guidelines, but I’ve been accused of being a man, a perv, a client of someone’s.

shutting down comments that I’ve made is dangerous to women.

Exactly. Just keep reporting him and ignore him. He’ll get bored or be banned.

Quite. I've been sexually harassed, groped, pestered and objectified while wearing perfectly normal clothes by any reasonable standards. The idea that all I have to do is not wear bum scrunch leggings, which have existed for about five minutes, would be funny if it weren't so ignorant, sexist and misogynistic.

Posts were deleted because they broke talk guidelines. 😅

I haven't reported any posts actually, but I wish I had.

Why are you calling me a man?
and rapey

you want me banned because I think the OP’s screenshot represents a serious and common issue ??????
ok

It was a generic "you" and I thought that was plain in the context, since I was very clear I was talking about people who can't control themselves when they see padded leggings. If you recognise yourself in there, which you appear to have just confirmed, then yes, if the shoe fits...