Male Nursery Staff

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My child is in Nursery after my return to work. They nursery chain have been hiring make staff recently. My child's nursery has 3 male staff.

My daughter's nappy was changed by a male member of staff. For my own personal reasons I feel upset about this but not sure if I can even say or do anything. I just don't like it.

Do you keep dad away from nappies and baths too just in case? Are male gynaecologists or breast surgeons just in the role for a quick thrill?

You've got that completely wrong. Many more children are abused by family members than strangers. Maybe you should get the basics right.

I bet half the people on here who are against men working in nurseries, are the same people who comment that boys behave badly because of a lack of male role models 🙄.

I worked in a nursery, and our only male member of staff was amazing. He was arguably better than all of us because he had to prove himself due to the fact he's not a woman.

If I were the sort of person who was prejudiced enough to be worried about men being around my daughter in an educational space, I'd probably be more worried about secondary school or sixth form when skirts get shorter, there's less supervision and staff are actually allowed to have their phones on them etc. Not a nursery that will have CCTV in every room and corridor, and strict safeguarding policies such as no phones on the floor.

Not that I am worried. Because I'm not ridiculous, or prejudiced.

Then you know some lazy gits that have been allowed to get away with not being a parent.

Disgusting attitude. Does your partner agree? Or is it just you that think men are sex pests.

You don’t think male doctors have been caught abusing their female patients???

Statistically @LambertndButler is right, the kids are safer if there aren't men around. That's undeniable. The question is whether the benefits of "male role models" is worth the increased risk of abuse, and that's for individual parents to decide. The issue of fairness to men and boys is irrelevant really. Childcare is about children's safety, not career opportunities for male adults who already dominate most of the labour market.

Was she still in nappies at 10 years old then? Can't see the relevance

My daughters nursery is all female workers, I think I’d actually welcome a male member of staff. All the staff are brilliant but it would be nice to see a male staff member. My son was at the same nursery with same staff, and was apprehensive going to school and having a male teacher as he thought teachers = women

Well said.

Bullshit

How old would you apply this, bearing in mind reception is still part of early years, and are part of a normal school?

I disagree that men should not be working in early years care/education.

Intimate care, including nappy changes, should ideally be done with at least 2 members of staff imo though. This, however, means more staffing which will mean more funding - this will need to come from either an increase in fees and/or an increase in government funding.

98% of paedophiles are men, so I don't think it's the same.

Why is every man suddenly a phedodile
women can also be yet you dont suspect them .

And they shouldn’t.

The other examples you give aren’t changing nappies. Related males are much less of a risk than unrelated males. This is basic stuff.

This isn't true.

In a primary school some intimate car is required. This may be changing nappies for some children, it may be doing a full clothes change if wet/dirty, etc.

Children are generally more at risk from related males, sadly.

If the nursery doesn't meet.your requirements, for whatever reason, then move her.

But don't ask the nursery to stop.male.staff.chnaging the nappies. It'll put unfair work on other members of staff.

My daughters nursery had cameras in the baby changing area, I was quite relieved about that as a first time nervous mum.

I really struggle with this. In a society where women are routinely heckled, harassed, sent dick pics and sexually assaulted by men. Where every single day there are stories in the news about men who have raped, killed and stalked women. Where 98% of people who have committed a sexual crime are men. When so many women on here and other sites have shared stories of doctors, teachers, gynaecologists and other male professionals assaulting them. Why is it women are accused of being ‘disgusting’ and thinking ‘all men are sex pests’ when, by the time we become mothers we are shaped by experience and become naturally wary? Even if that seems unfair on the rest of men?

There is a lot of ‘poor men’ sentiment on here. I feel more sorry that women have been socialised to be so wary of men through bitter experience.

How would you feel about a woman holding your boys penis and scrotum ? There's actually much more intimate touching cleaning a boy properly

unfortunately, I agree. it's just not worth the risk is it

And tomorrow when they take on a man?

And if the female member of staff were a lesbian? Should she have to declare that if she is changing female children's nappies? Oh I bet not.

It's not about equality it's about safeguarding 🤷‍♀️ I'm sure your son's lovely but I wouldn't put my child in his nursery.