Male Nursery Staff

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My child is in Nursery after my return to work. They nursery chain have been hiring make staff recently. My child's nursery has 3 male staff.

My daughter's nappy was changed by a male member of staff. For my own personal reasons I feel upset about this but not sure if I can even say or do anything. I just don't like it.

They wear gloves

I think PP is right, and the only way to avoid this is to look after your child yourself, or pay a nanny. Neither may be financially viable - i think we as a society need to make it so that families can choose a SAHP and still afford to live. You shouldn't be in a position where you're scared for your child but have no option.

No-one said it wouldn't happen, just that with proper safeguarding it's preventable. As a parent, we should be more concerned about safeguarding processes than the sex of the workers. I could easily find lots of female abusers of early years age children, would that disprove that women are safe?

Look at the figures for abuse in elderly care, how many of them are female? Again, what protects vulnerable people isn't the sex mix of the staff, it's the policies and procedures in place, and how both the leaders of the service ensure that they are followed, and how every staff member is vigilant.

Without them, kids are at risk from women and men, and removing men may make your kids safer, but they will not be completely safe unless the practice ensures it, in which case the sex of staff is irrelevant.

I feel really sorry for the posters who believe men have no place there and automatically assume something sinister about a male changing children's nappies. It really does suggest a lot about that persons mind and it's a shame they live life feeling that way

As someone who puts her dd to private nursery... when you put your child to nursery you have to trust that EVERY person is background checked and safe around children. Females included.

What's all this, we should?

Parents can observe that sex is the most striking variable in determining patterns of criminality and in seeking out vulnerable victims. And then they can decide if that changes their own risk mitigating strategies.

I'm sorry but it's strange.
Not a chance.

I was abused as a child by a man who I know went on to work in a nursery (and a choir with young children, and also coaching children’s sports…sense a pattern there?!). I reported it to the police, but nothing seemed to come of it (I’m guessing as it was historic).

So no, I would not be happy with this. Perhaps it’s unfair, but I don’t care about fairness when it comes to my child’s safety.

I would have loved a few male staff when my son was at nursery.
You’re ridiculous.

You know these kids have Dads? Granddads? Uncles??

I wouldn’t be happy. Yes, women can be abusers but the vast majority are male. Statistically, if a child has male carers they’re at a higher risk of being sexually abused.

you do realised RELATED males are the biggest cause of sexual abuse?
as for no male midwives 😶
i’d rather male midwives and nursery staff than someone like you looking after kids with this attitude.

I don't think nursery is for you. They haven't done anything wrong. If you're not comfortable with it that's on you.

Op I'm with you on this, I'd feel unhappy too. I think you need to take your child away and find a female staff only nursery.

Your ignorance is startling. This simply isn’t true and is a dangerous and naive view.

I was abused as a child by a man who I know went on to work in a nursery (and a choir with young children, and also coaching children’s sports…sense a pattern

I’m sorry that happened to you. Paedophiles actively seek out access to children. It’s not a coincidence that they end up with jobs/ volunteer positions that allow them to get close to children. That’s why I’d be wary of male nursery staff.

Vanessa George.

Miss quote sorry

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@Prawncow exactly. I’m sure it’s unfair on some lovely men, but I don’t care.

What a disgraceful comment.

My son works in a nursery . He has faced this type of prejudice . It’s a shame that some people are so pathetically narrow minded
Equality is supposed to work both ways - but only when it suits some posters !

@LambertndButler

The other examples you give aren’t changing nappies. Related males are much less of a risk than unrelated males. This is basic stuff.
So basic that you got it wrong. By far most cases of sexual abuse in within the family unit. THIS IS BASIC STUFF

Wtf....

It’s not about equality it’s about stats and risk. There’s a reason that we’re reluctant to let boys use the men’s bathroom on their own. There’s a reason that mothers going back generations have told their children, if you’re lost, look for a lady.

No that was one of the last ones that made the news and that was because she was female.

Definitely not the last worker to offend against a child sadly.