Our neighbour (in the flat below) has asked we stop talking at 9:45pm at night?

[DoingTheMumThing101]

We live in a shared townhouse and the couple downstairs have asked that my partner & I stop talking at 9:45 pm in the evening because they can hear us? We have only been living here for 1 week and get the kids to bed early, we are then woken up by them below speaking at 6am. AIBU?

I might be wrong but I thought their post was very drippy with sarcasm. They were being funny using sarcasm.

I hope I am not wrong.

The reason I don't live in a flat. Don't want other people's noise.
The neighbours need to move to a detached place rather than police their neighbours.

Tell them you will, as long as they don't talk until 7/8am because they wake you up at 6am all the time.

Are they telling you they can hear you having sex maybe but trying not to spell it out?

Sound a right pair of nutter's can't you see what they are doing. Because you are new they have jumped right on it like they are the experienced ones and are trying to put you on the back burner right away and be in control it's a form of bullying I have seen experts at it in my workplace, don't be bullied ! Because your new you probably want to please which is normal but as long as your not drilling and shouting and playing loud music then stand your ground, this is one of the reasons I could not live with someone under or above me but I suppose not everyone has a choice.

I live in a semi- detached and sometimes hear my neighbour speaking in a very load voice on the phone to someone (only hear her voice) shortly after we've gone to bed after 10pm, but I wouldn't dream of asking her not to talk, I wouldn't be so rude as to try to impose a restriction on when she can and can't talk just because of my bedtime routine, she'd probably tell me where to get off, rightly so!

Agree to stop talking at 9.45pm only if they agree to stop talking before 9.45am so they don't disturb you while you're all sleeping. Jokes aside, they're being ridiculous. If they mention it again just say 'sorry that's not possible' don't get in to a conversation or give any excuses why.

🤣🤣🤣 they have a good sense of humour

Absolutely bonkers!

Do you have carpet? Thats the best insulator. Some peoole fo have realty loud voices. I do!

Have you tried to impose the same tules on them? That is nuts. My neighbour is an old lady and I hear her moving about/closing doors etc gone midnight, but it is npt my business. Nor would I ask her to change.

My mum used to complain (to us, she wasn't mad) that the neighbour's toilet was really, really loud.
And this was coming from someone who lived in a house next to a railway line.
but she was right - it was like a bloody aeroplane landing!

I was watching my 2 year old granddaughter charging up and down our living room last night thinking thank god I don’t live in a flat….. the downstairs neighbours would be chapping the ceiling. Sounds like the noise insulation is terrible but you are doing nothing antisocial so they are being unreasonable. We have a lot of barky dogs round here, out in the garden at all sorts of unsociable hours but I’ve found running a fan while I’m sleeping totally tunes it all out. Maybe they could try that.

Stop talking and instead have really really loud sex every night instead

I used to live underneath an alcoholic, angry professional violinist. Now that was noisy at any time of night or day, I would hear angry violin playing for hours and then drunken solo rants and a bottle smash or two. Anyone complaining about people talkikg needs a rod taken out of their arse

I'd love to hear angry violin playing but just once

@Noglitterallowed

Good idea give them something to get really worked up about have real noisy sex instead, L.o.l 🤣

You can real fun going with that idea
serves them right too..

100% that’s what I’d do or anything noisy other than talking🤦‍♀️

It was so bizarre and becuase he was a professional who played in an orchestra for his day job it was actually excellent playing until he atarted getting angry, he would stamp around while doing it too. 😂

The requeat itself is crazy but also 9.45 is a weirdly specific time. Like not 9.30 or 10?

If you're renting, it may be an idea to get the landlord or local authority to do a sound test and get basic insulation. Or put down underlay and a big deep pile rug; there are loads of cheap ones on value sites like Brand Alley. Living below other people's noise is awful. I used to and though I was friendly with my neighbours, you can easily end up imagining it's being done out of lack of consideration. Talking to them to try to find a shared sound proofing solution is the only way through.

You could offer to stop speaking at 945 if they wont speak before 730 in the morning, mutually assured destruction, they wake you you keep them up that night.

LOL the nerve of some people!

Jeezo. Nope I wouldn’t be having that. Especially since they’re waking you at 6. Tell them to bolt.

Ignore them, if they mention it again tell them they need to not talk until 8am