Would this upset you or am I being silly?

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Whilst cooking dinner I told my aunt a cooking tip. Perhaps everyone knows about it, and it seriously is a tiny thing, but something that works well in a recipe. I'm probably the last to know!

My husband leaned over and smirked at my aunty and uncle and said "for my next tip, I'll be teaching you all to suck eggs".

Everyone thought it was hilarious and laughed loudly.

I know its a just little thing but I felt upset and stupid. Face went red and hot. My husband said there's nothing wrong work what he said.

Am I overreacting? I can laugh at myself normally and do. I dont know why this upset me, DH doesnt normally poke fun at me in front of others - which is what it felt like. I'm being silly right?

I didn't know that about flatbreads, and I'm a decent cook.

He thinks you are an ignorant person who doesn't know it, and that it's funny to point it out.

Unless you misheard or misunderstood?

If you have a good relationship with your aunt, maybe ask her to explain the joke to you and why she laughed.

PS I've only used Greek yogurt in scones. That sounds like a good tip.

It was a very strange comment for your husband to make. Putting Greek yoghurt in flatbreads is nowhere near the "teaching granny to suck eggs" thing. Plus you were all having a relaxed chat about cooking - whilst you were doing the bloody cooking!

Your aunt (and whoever else was there) laughed out of politeness. I doubt they wet their pants laughing, I expect it was just a polite titter? I mean, the remark wasn't exactly hilarious. So don't worry about that.

I think you're husband was either trying to show off and he totally misjudged it or he has some kind of an axe to grind and he was making a deliberately snarky comment that only you would pick up on. My mother was an expert at humiliating me under the radar so I recognise the signs.

Either way he should apologise because he hurt you, not dig his heals in like a 13 year old.

I genuinely did not know this! So thank you for the tip 😊

OK well that's not obvious but it depends on the context.....is your aunt a particularly good cook? Is this something she was likely to know?

Initially I would say this was normal family micky taking...its banter and lots of men (and a fair few women) do it. It's something that sometimes my OH takes too far but overall I think the fact he does it helps my kids deal with it when people outside the family do it.

But in this case I would say its only funny if you were teaching your aunt and uncle something they already knew? But this has only become common in the last couple of years thanks to social media and lock down.

So I think he was trying to make himself seem clever ....which is irritating but nothing to get upset about.

I only recently learned this too and wish the person who told me had told me sooner!

Your husband was probably just joking around, me and my DP are always taking the piss out of each other, I wouldn't dwell on it.

I wouldn’t take a blind bit of notice

Good lord this isn’t serious is it? It was a lighthearted comment! It’s the type of thing I’d say about my DP as he has a tendency to mansplain. He would have roared with laughter if I’d said it about him to someone! I‘m sure it wasn’t meant nastily and you just need to move on from it.

I see the tip you gave. I didn’t know that actually. I would have found that helpful! I think he was just making a clumsy joke. I might have felt a little miffed if it was me (like it’s not that obvious actually!) and I may have even said “well I didn’t know that” (unless they’re Greek! And then of course his comment was fair enough!)

FWIW, I'm 50, and I've been cooking since I was eight... I only found this out about 5 years ago, so I don't think 'everyone knows' ...
I'd be hurt, too - I'd not pursue it if he doesn't see he was wrong, but I'd definitely remember it if he said something similar again! Also, my uncle would probably have laughed at DH's joke, but wouldn't have the faintest idea how to make a flatbread OR suck an egg!

I didn't know that either, what quantities etc do you use?

I can see why you're upset, it's a bit dickish of him. If he's that clever maybe he can do the cooking from now on?

In some ways I can't think that what he said even makes sense-unless using GY in flatbread is along the lines of using eggs for an omelette!

It wasn't kind, or clever or funny.

Ick.

I'm Greek and I didn't know about adding yoghurt to flatbreads. Thanks for the tip.

I wouldn’t have even registered this, let alone be upset by it. But then we are a sarcastic/piss-takey family.

I didn't know that, though I enjoy cooking. Mind you, I never make flatbreads, even though I'm married to a Greek, and when I googled flatbread recipes, the first few didn't mention yoghurt, so I've no idea why it's so funny to your DH and uncle and aunt? I think they were all quite rude, you were only trying to be helpful!

The irony of this post.

He sounds like he was trying to be clever OP, methinks he misjudged. I only learnt how to make bagels a few months ago (similar to flatbread) and i have told anyone interested in cooking since!
People often laugh when someone says something nobbish so it doesn't make things awkward so I wouldn't worry about that. You've told him you didn't find it funny so move on. On the off chance he was being mean then don't give him the pleasure of staying upset.

Tell me you have underlying issues with men without telling me., 🙄

I understand why it stung a little. If you felt upset/hurt/humiliated that's all that matters - no one else's opinion is important here. Simply, ask/tell him not to repeat these sniping comments in front of people. If he respects you he won't do it again.

Its a weird remark as that's not something everyone knows. Perhaps he was referencing you telling older people something? Whether I was upset or not would depend on whether he had form for trying to put me down. If not I'd just put it down to a one off weird comment.

I didn't know this about flatbreads, and going by the thread , many of us don't , so presumably only your DH and aunt and uncle think they do😅. Don't worry about it any more .

I did know it, but only because I saw Jamie Oliver do it on one of his programmes a year or so back. Before then I had never heard of it.

I add black mustard seeds too btw.

I would have been upset

i think his comment was patronising and belittling

Well, don’t know how big a deal it is really, but I don’t think what he said, butting in with an incredibly ancient cliche, is very funny. I think it’s odd he feels so pleased with himself. Does he do this sort of thing when he feels left out. Maybe they laughed to indulge him.

Sorry but some of these responses are far more over the top and disproportionate than yours or his was! We all grow up in different families/ways of being/in-jokes and this probably has relevance to why you and DH view this differently. Definitely still important to discuss to avoid one of you being upset in future, which your DH should also care about. I wouldn’t make this a huge thing though as it’s sounds pretty isolated. I live overseas and it’s been eye opening what is normal to others etc. and learning where to adapt myself as well as being clear with what is not acceptable for me has been key.

I think his comment was unkind and unnecessary and you were right to pull him up on it.

As an aside, brush the flat breads with garlic butter whilst warm and before serving 😋. They also make great pizza bases if you are in a hurry.