Would this upset you or am I being silly?

[ChangeyMacChangeName]

Whilst cooking dinner I told my aunt a cooking tip. Perhaps everyone knows about it, and it seriously is a tiny thing, but something that works well in a recipe. I'm probably the last to know!

My husband leaned over and smirked at my aunty and uncle and said "for my next tip, I'll be teaching you all to suck eggs".

Everyone thought it was hilarious and laughed loudly.

I know its a just little thing but I felt upset and stupid. Face went red and hot. My husband said there's nothing wrong work what he said.

Am I overreacting? I can laugh at myself normally and do. I dont know why this upset me, DH doesnt normally poke fun at me in front of others - which is what it felt like. I'm being silly right?

I can laugh at myself normally and do.

So what happened then?

I think it's funny and I can't think of anyone I know who wouldn't at least just smile and roll their eyes, even if they didn't laugh.

you litterally called her partner a cunt and a twat! and made the judgemental comment that was clearly very sexist...

maybe her partner and his family are all fully qualified chefs! you've cheered my day up

He unintentionally embarrassed you does he do it often ? A joke is only funny if everyone laughs you took it the wrong way and that's OK you don't have to laugh along, just don't let it hang over you.

The thing is you said he said it in aa jokey voice and they laughed.

It wasn't said in a sarcastic manner and they weren't then embarrassed for you or looked horrified at what he said.

So on that basis perhaps you are being a bit sensitive rather than silly.

If you were just trying to be helpful, and it was clear that’s what you were doing (as opposed to being patronising) then he was being very harsh and I would feel just as embarrassed and uncomfortable as you did. He needs to understand that.

(I had no idea re yoghurt, as I’ve never made a flatbread)

Charming. No surprise that you’re ageist.

You can also use that yoghurt and flour recipe to make small dough balls and cook in air fryer.
(Make a little hole in the top of the egg shell , and a pinprick in the bottom , to suck egg.)

I didn't know about yoghurt in flat bread either.

Maybe don't bother making snarky comments if you've not read the OP's posts properly?
(The OP was the one cooking, using her trusted recipe, not the Aunt...)

I was cooking. We all were chatting about food.

Christ, I thought you were going to say something like you recommended adding a knob of butter to the pan or that you should chop up an onion before cooking it.

I didn't know that you add Greek yoghurt to flour to make a decent flatbread. Surely there's plenty of folk who don't know that?

Husband's comment was a bit weird. I'd have laughed because he made himself look like a bit of a cock.

I'm actually surprised by the number of people on the thread who don't know that's a good way to make flatbread.

Well, a lot depends on tone of voice.
However, if I were the aunt, I might have tried to diffuse the situation by saying either “Oh yes, I do that, it’s great isn’t it?” or “Oh, I didn’t know that, I must give it a try!”

I don't know, it just felt.... different. He just came to me and said sorry, he didn't mean to upset me and then said he would say it again however..

@ChangeyMacChangeName ah, ok. Sorry. In that case it's harsh. But I still wouldn't be too offended. A lot of older people can't bear to be given 'advice' about cooking. My mum being one of them, lol.

I'll have to try this, sounds yum!

I didn't know you could make flatbreads with Greek yoghurt either and am now going to try it out myself.

So thank you for the tip!

(I did know the Oxo one though)

I'm sure you were just chatting and passing time.

Your husband's intention regarding what he said is key. Did he say it to rescue a situation, break a silence, be funny and it landed badly or to mock you? My impression is that you took it as mocking you and his choice of words suggests that was the case.

Do it to him back another time, see how he likes it. My guess is that he won't like it and he'll argue it's totally different scenario.

He's a knob

No, he doesn't do this normally. It just felt a bit like people needing to tear a strip off someone to put them in their place. I wasn't trying to be superior, my aunt and I frequently chat about recipies and meals. The fact they all laughed made my face go hot and red and I felt embarrassed. We joke with eachother and have a great relationship, thus I found it a bit, well, weird I guess.

If I had said something and someone told me it upset them, I wouldn't then say 'well I still find it funny and would say it again".

He is just miffed that you don't find him "hilarious' if it was a misguided joke then I'd forget about it, fwiw I wouldn't have found it funny either it was unnecessary to pitch in with sarcasm.

Another one about to try this out, thanks OP.

The only way I could justify your DH comment is if he told you the tip in the first place and you've been going around passing it off as your own to your (and his) entire family.
Next time though, I'd ask DH for a demo on how to suck eggs and you "always get it wrong".

Aunt and uncle would have told him off if they had thought he was being mean so the fact they laughed shows you it was simply a joke.

Need you ask what I think? I'm about to self-appoint myself Chief witch in the 'Leave him Brigade'. Pack your bags.

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