Would this upset you or am I being silly?

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Whilst cooking dinner I told my aunt a cooking tip. Perhaps everyone knows about it, and it seriously is a tiny thing, but something that works well in a recipe. I'm probably the last to know!

My husband leaned over and smirked at my aunty and uncle and said "for my next tip, I'll be teaching you all to suck eggs".

Everyone thought it was hilarious and laughed loudly.

I know its a just little thing but I felt upset and stupid. Face went red and hot. My husband said there's nothing wrong work what he said.

Am I overreacting? I can laugh at myself normally and do. I dont know why this upset me, DH doesnt normally poke fun at me in front of others - which is what it felt like. I'm being silly right?

I'm a chef but I only found out recently that you can make flatbread wraps with cottage cheese and they are keto friendly as well as gluten free.

I don't get it?

What a batshit bizarre over-reaction to a complete non event.

You sound like the president of the 'professionally offended' club.

Well I didn't know it OP- so knickers to him !!

I think it was nasty of him to make a joke at your expense when you said nothing out of the ordinary, and nasty of everyone to laugh.

I think the best thing in these situations is to say something in the moment though.

If it’s so bloody obvious why has Jamie Oliver posted a recipe for basically this online?

https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/bread-recipes/easy-flatbreads/

Or all these other people if you search “Greek yogurt flatbread

https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&sca_esv=f65ab4fb82876b19&hl=en-gb&sxsrf=ACQVn0_WU8MktUlagjySfILi1WHs3kiE9g:1713797091699&q=greek+yogurt+flatbread&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjmoPjWh9aFAxXjWUEAHaZAAB0Q7xYoAHoECAQQAg&biw=414&bih=713&dpr=2

OP I think it sounds a bit embarrassing, but sometimes a harmless remark rolls off a person, and another day, depending on how sensitive you're feeling, it sticks. I would try not to dwell on it too much. I don't think this thread is particularly helpful (in terms of some of the responses you're getting).

Something does feel off here, OP. Your husband’s ‘joke’ does strike me as cruel. Are you sure he doesn’t have a history of this? Might there have been previous ’jokes’ he’s made at your expense that hurt but that you tried to brush off?

I’d guess that most people cross the line sometimes when joking around. The thing to do is apologise (sounds like he has) but also learn from it and resolve not to do it again (which he hasn’t).

If it hurts, it hurts. He’s in the wrong, not you.

Thank you @Wornoutlady for your kind words

Wouldn’t have thought your husbands comment was funny enough to warrant laughing loudly at regardless of what you’d said.

Thank you @MadAntonia there hasn't been any I'm aware of. That's why it felt a bit off. This bit rang true "If it hurts, it hurts. He’s in the wrong, not you."

I agree. It sounds like he had nothing useful to contribute to the conversation so made an unfunny joke at OP's expense in order to get a laugh. You've told him it pissed you off so I'd just pay attention to whether he does it again or is more mindful in future.

I didn't know that either and would have been grateful to be told.

I think your overreacting tbh it was just a small joke nothing mean by it.

But it is MN men are not to say or do anything and when they do its wrong they shouldent even breathe So he`s being abusive and you should leave asap.
And make it clear he is not to joke or laugh without asking you first.

Well, I didn't know that, so thank you for sharing! Your husband sounds unpleasant.

Aren’t you yourself over-reacting a bit?

We all say the wrong thing sometimes OP . Try not to dwell on it anymore … unless he’s In The habit of making you feel rubbish

Stay classy pensione

Yeah I think this wins the OTT award.

It really depends what the dynamic is between you but in itself it’s just a silly harmless bit of banter. Some couples thrive on roasting each other and some don’t 🤷‍♀️

I was thinking that.

Was it that it seemed as if they were all laughing at you?

HAHAHA, bloody hell! Either you're on a massive wind-up or you have extreme drama issues. 😂😂

I don’t think what he said is the problem, as much as his reaction when you said it had upset you. You said it upset you, and he basically said he didn’t care, he thought it was funny, and he would say it again. Even if I truly believed something was funny, I wouldn’t say it if someone told me it upset them.

🤣🤣🤣

Think i would just keep an eye, he might have just misjudged this one but if he makes a habit of shitty jokes at your expense there's something else going on.

Take a lover!
Alternatively, practise saying ‘did your trumpeter die, dear?’ to be used next time he sounds remotely pleased with himself.

I don’t think most British people know how to make flatbreads. Are his family from somewhere where everyone knows how to make flatbreads?