To think it’s rude not to wave your guests goodbye?

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I was brought up to always wave guests goodbye at the door and only shut the front door once they had driven off. This was the norm when I was growing up, everyone did it. If they were not parked near your house you’d walk to their car and wave them off there.

The amount of people who do not do this anymore surprises me. I always feel it’s rude but maybe I am out of touch?

If you don’t wave your guests off, why not? (besides having to close the door incase your toddler runs out, this I completely understand!)

Am I old fashioned? Is this not a thing anymore?

The modern-old fashioned way to indicate that you don't want to be waved off would be to say "Don't be letting all your heat out while we faff around with the sat-nav; we'll see ourselves off"

My DM stands out in all weathers and waves until she can’t see my car anymore, bless her! I’ve told her not to stand out in the cold but she still does! I’m 54 and she’s in her 70s 😆

Well why don’t you organise your route home/dinner before you leave instead of chipping away at another endearing memory your kids have of their grandparents.

In the summer i have no issue with it. In the winter, when my heating bill is ££££ I'm not standing in the cold and doing it. It isn't rude - one goodbye is enough!

Something grandparents would do?

My house help never does this. I don't think. Never checked to be honest.

It's also a bit rude to stay on someone's drive while doing these things.

Who says I'm parked on their drive?

Yanbu
I've always thought it's the right, nice and friendly thing to do.

People shutting the door as soon as they can is extremely impolite imo.

If it's cold, I say, 'I'll wave from the window' and will do just that.

Am amazed how many people can't seem to go anywhere without sat nav.

I don't want to be rushed off just because someone insists on coming and waving at me as I drive down the road.

I want to be able to sort my things, answer a few messages if needed, sort my music, make sure my phone is plugged in properly as the USB cable is a bit dodgy etc.

It's not that all those things take ages, it's that I don't want to be rushed. I also hate when people watch me drive as I feel really self conscious and always end up stalling or doing something stupid.

Also do you guys do this EVERY time you have someone round? Like someone just round for a coffee, or after a play date? My friends would think I was truly mad 😄 what about tradesmen? 😄 at what point does not waving become not rude?

We see guests to the front door, kiss them, say goodbye and help or keep an eye on gates, etc., as they drive off.

Another hater here. It makes me feel rushed and like I can’t sort out music, sat nav etc.

Plus if i’m parked in a tight space or whatever i’d much rather be able to manoeuvre slowly out without you standing there grinning and waving 😂

This exactly!!

@LordPercyPercy you have to hang out the window and wave while the car is still visible. You're there for aaaages if you live in a high rise, best make a cup of tea and take a snack to the window with you

It's just to make sure your guests are finally leaving and driving off, so you can actually relax in your own home.

this is a reminder of lovelier times, great stuff. People are miseries now with their tech and “busy” lives.

Totally

It's not being miserable to want to set off at your own pace without feeling like someone's breathing down the back of your neck.

Even in the days before tech, I hated it when family would stand and stare at us while we sorted the car. It just feels all awkward and unnecessary.

And if the guests are parked at the wrong side of the block for your flat, make sure you take a little chair so you can sit at a communal window to do your waving 😂

I have lovely memories of my now long-gone grandparents waving until our car turned the corner. But we didn't have satnav and sang in the car then. I still wave off friends and but not the plumber.

I don't think it comes under the umbrella of "good manners". It's an etiquette thing.

Etiquette being expectations that particular groups of people have about how you should behave in certain situations. More often than not used to look down on or demean others if they don't conform to these behaviour.

Good manners would be not make others feel uncomfortable by continuing to watch them after it's evident they aren't just driving off. Though it's also good manners if you are going to faff around answering messages, planning routes and wrangling children to say to your waiting and watching host to go back in because I'll be a while sorting myself, thank you it was lovely and goodbye.

I do it for a bit but if my guests are sitting in the car for 5 minutes, faffing around, then I go in! I'm sure they don't want me standing there watching them either!

I rethink your way is weird and it makes me uncomfortable when I’m reversing out etc.

Perfectly normal in my book 😊

Walking up any sleeping babies on your way.