To think this dress isn’t too sexy to wear to a wedding?

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SIL wedding in October, attending as a guest. Is this dress too sexy? Too bridesmaid-y?

I always go for bodycon dresses as that’s what I feel most comfortable in, I am size 10/12 and an hourglass body shape so not sure what else would suit my body type really, I find a lot of other dresses make me look huge/frumpy.

You would look fabulous in a lot of these dresses if you wanted something a little more toned down

I personally think these longer length dresses are more what I’d choose to adapt the body con look for a wedding.

But I’m now wondering if some of these threads are essentially designed to fish for compliments and we aren’t supposed to be honest. I recently pointed out that a bright pink stretch jersey jumpsuit on an eight months pregnant woman might run the risk of channelling Miss Piggy off the Muppets ( which I thought was a gently humorous caution against a very real risk) and the poster got properly wound up. 🤣So I won’t say more than endorsing the suggestions of this particular poster above !

It's a bit meh. I personally prefer more colour and elegance for a wedding, but it is absolutely fine if it's what you want to wear. Brown bodycon doesn't scream wedding guest to me.

I think you can do a lot better than both the dresses that you have posted on here. They are both clingy and look like the material is of dubious quality. I also think those styles are rather dated now. Other posters have given links to dresses that are still fitted in shape, but modern in style. I would suggest ordering up a variety of dresses and trying them all on. You have time to find a much nicer dress than either of those.

I think the Green is gorgeous and not dated at all. I got married last year and most of the younger guests wore fitted.

I always wear a more body con style aswell with my figure. But I don't think a little sexy is bad at a wedding!

The green is very dated.
I agree, @sonjadog - fitted and with that kind of shape, rather than the bandage look.

What is considered dated or not seems to be very subjective.

I prefer to consider what is stylish and what suits the wearer.

I don't think bodycon is stylish. That's subjective as well.
However. It's a style she wants to wear, so some of the suggestions are useful.

October is ages away. If I were you I'd do a massive ASOS order of loads of different shapes to try. Bodycon is a bit drab nowadays, there's loads of different figure hugging, slinky dresses around recently. Bit classier and up to date. Bodycon is more night out, dinner, party wear these days.

Yes I think it will look lovely and like your idea of styling with blazer

Imo the bodycon style isn’t wedding appropriate. Something less clingy would be more suitable wedding attire.

Bodycon with a blazer or bolero, whilst appropriate, is very 2012.

Both dresses are a very dated look, which may or may not matter to you.

The first dress is awful, the colour is just horrible and it's not suitable at all for a wedding if you are a day guest. Out of all the dresses I prefer the green one but its a very dated look. Maybe take it as an opportunity to get out and try some different styles on and get out of your comfort zone. There are many different styles of dress that would suit your figure.

It's fine for a wedding. And as it's in October, presumably you'll have a little jacket or shawl over it anyway. It's definitely too sexy for church (if that's what they're doing) without a cover-up.

Just go carefully with accessories, classic and very minimal. Otherwise you might run the risk of going slightly over into "fancy bar hostess", rather than wedding guest.

Ah, I see you posted other options.
The long-sleeve green is the nicest. Far nicer colour-wise than the murky beige one posted first.

I’m not going to agree the comments here that they are awful OP but the latter comment echoes my thoughts that if you have had a baby and are feeling a bit “ who am I?” figurewise and in your new role ( we all evolve; that’s not a death sentence for the old you!) it also occurred to me that perhaps you are ready to be a bit adventurous with some new looks. There are lots of lovely floaty styles now that can be cinched in to give you definition but will also carry you to children’s parties, park play dates, family barbecues etc as well as weddings or lunch with the girls. As you run about with little ones, having some easy styles appropriate for all those sorts of things without having to stop and think too much will be really helpful in just getting out of the house! Why don’t you try them for done outings that aren’t too important and you may find yourself getting really comfortable with that look. Or you might not. But I sense just by the fact you are posting that something in you feels you have moved on from the days when you’d have chosen that look.

The long-sleeved green dress is the nicest. Just make sure it's going to be comfortable all day!

Cover up for the ceremony and uncover for the reception!

@nervousweddingguest

I just don’t think it’s true that men have as difficult a time buying outfits for weddings. There are so many more aspects that women have to consider: weddings in different seasons, certain colours that can’t be worn, whether some of it is in a church/temple/synagogue, weddings abroad, weddings for friends from different cultures etc etc. And those considerations mean you can’t just have one dress to be worn to all weddings.

Through all of that, a man just needs a decent suit. And for those with jobs where they wear one, they can even wear it for work too. Yes when initially buying a suit they have to consider button placement, trouser width/length, shoulder cut etc but for many that is only a one off consideration. My DH has 3 suits, all tailor made (which took a little effort of course) but has then been wearing them for work and weddings for about 10 years.

I’m only saying this because you suggested to the OP that it wouldn’t be easier for men. I disagree.

Even if I had the figure for it I wouldn't wear that dress for a wedding ceremony and reception. And certainly not for a SIL's wedding.
I think something a bit more traditional for the day would be better, and then maybe change into this dress for the evening do.

Have your considered a-line aka fitted and flared dresses or wrap dresses as they also look amazing on an hourglass figure.
Some examples from Jolie Moi, they have some lovely wedding guest dresses in both pattern and solid colour plus with the sale on there are some real bargins.

It's a nice dress and you'll look lovely in it! And please don't ruin it with a 'jacket'. What on earth is going on that some women have to stick a miserable jacket over the top of everything. It doesn't need a jacket!

I'm thinking it's because the wedding is in October.

No, sorry.

Too much flesh on show and too revealing.

TBH I can't imagine who would wear that anywhere unless they have a perfect, model figure and it's some glitzy evening dinner where everyone is similarly attired.