How often are you complimented on your looks

[Gerbil12]

In particular by people you've just met. Have been out with a very attractive friend tonight who has had men fawning over her/complimenting her whilst I was just ignored as usual. I'm probably a 5 but I don't think my physical appearance has ever been complimented by a stranger. Feeling a bit crap. Does this happen to other people?

These are really lovely. They sound genuine.

All the time. It’s a running joke in my family! Especially as I’m now 50!

Back in my early 20s, I couldn't get peace when on a night out with friends. I was never short of attention. Now that I'm mid 30s and married with children, I never ever get a second look 🤣🤣 I enjoy the peace but at times I think ageing must have hit me hard lol!

have N cup breasts, used to be a P

I had to look this up. So Katie Price is (was?) an H cup (also had to look that up). P must be quite uncomfortable and a strain on your back.

I don’t get complimented on my looks at all but my smile, all the time! It’s not a typically pretty smile but it’s a big one! Kind of Carol Channing meets Julia Roberts with loads of wrinkles. It’s not going to get me any dates but people feel comfortable with me really quickly and I’m really grateful for that. Often people tell me my smile has made their day, which is the highest compliment because I’ve had strings of shitty days and therefore truly know the value and power of warmth and acceptance through a smile.

My husband says I’m beautiful. My son does too (he’s 8 btw)

no one else ever does. And I honestly don’t care

Easy question and easy answer: Zilch.

Did quite a lot when I was younger but not so much now I’m post 40. Instead I’ve made it my mission to compliment women whenever I can and weirdly that makes me feel better than receiving compliments ever did.

When I was a child my mother would tell me that I'd be almost pretty if I'd lose weight, I think that counts. I am at peace with having been born with a very unfortunate face, my husband and family love me so it's all good. I imagine it might be slightly disconcerting to be told that you're superficially attractive by a stranger? Some people would be uncomfortable I suppose.

I was a model 10-15 years ago in my 20s you i got compliments often back in the day. Now less often, i’m size 14 now. But people still compliments how stylish i am and i smell good. Often people stop and complimenting me about how good my smell is. Not so much how pretty i am anymore sadly. But my husband always said so everytime i dressed up. So i think its good for me.

My adult daughter is very attractive and walking along the street with her is quite interesting as people look her way. She is delightfully unspoilt by this as although she has such beautiful eyes she is actually short sighted so can’t see people checking her out.
There is indeed a dark side to this and has been pestered on public transport by randoms quite a lot. Also, she is sometimes frustrated by other women constantly commenting on her looks, like she has no other attributes, which she definitely has.

In my teens I was 'hot'. Disappeared more or less in my twenties and early to mid 30s. Have two kids including a baby and I have been told (more from women) that I ooze sex appeal and am sexy. Been told recently by a random stranger that my confidence made me intriguing. If out and about, I do get checked out a fair bit. It's a nice ego boost when I'm feeling tired and worn out. Also, always get compliments almost daily when I was commuting about how I smell.

I think confidence does have something to do with it. Now, I'm a but overweight, tits shot to hell and back, huge ass and thighs more wobbles and stretch marks than I can count but I don't give a fuck anymore. I dress and get made up for myself and no one else.

A few years ago, a woman at a work event said to me “I have to tell you - I’m not a lesbian, so don’t think that, but you are exceptionally beautiful. How do you even go out of the house? Don’t people just stare at you the entire time?”

In many ways it was lovely to hear that. But I don’t think anyone has been quite as enthusiastic since 😆 I think most people have an individual level of appeal, and sometimes you just happen on the person to whom it appeals more than most.

Never. The best it gets is being told I look well - 🤣.

Even that's a few years ago.

I tell a lie - was once told I was beautiful by an elderly Nepalese lady. Think it was a cultural thing.

Not by a stranger probably because I do go fuck yourselves eyes and scare them away. I did get complimented on my style tonight and have a few times (although mostly look like a bag lady who is lost in the woods, it’s a look). I think it’s easy to say that you think that someone is pretty, you don’t need to mean it.

I don’t like compliments about how I look, it’s uncomfortable. Compliment my children, my brain, my work, my home because these are things that I’m proud of.

Never for my face - I spent my long-distant teens being told how ugly I was, needless to say by boys that looked like dead cane toads - but in the last year or so I've had lots of compliments from random women and women I know on my hair. It's all down to the purple shampoo, lol, but I'll take it. 😄

Oh yes! The adult daughter. She is forever getting dirty arseholes comment on her looks. She is stunning but she’s also strong, fierce, clever and funny. She can stand up for herself but it’s so hard not to react when someone is perving on your (adult) baby.

Im ugly so no surprise it’s only been once in my life. That was over 10 years ago when I was early 40s by an older woman, it actually made me tear up cause I was newly single after my ex cheated on me, so it was very moving for me.

all my life it’s been my friends and my college boyfriend that got all the attention 😂

I had a man once tell me I could be a plus-size model. Nice backhanded compliment 😂"You're fat, love, but you've got a pretty face."

It's interesting that so much is placed on women's looks isn't it.

Historically it was the only way to get any power or money - be attractive and marry a powerful man.

It's funny that despite there now being other ways to have power, control and influence we still put so much importance on women having to be beautiful.

Funnily enough twice in my life I've had complete strangers walk up to me and say "just had to say, you're beautiful!" - and both those times I was in the foullest mood of my life - like searing anger after a huge argument at home. Probably looked like I was about to commit murder in my facial expression!

I'm very average looking and naturally quite smiley, with a chubby face when I smile.

So maybe very extreme pouting is the key?

Quite a bit. Not so much as when I was younger, but I used to get chased down the street back then. These days it tends to be a lot more respectful.

I've certainly lost count of all the times I've been complimented. I find it a bit annoying - I much more value comments about my personality wayyy more. But I'm not above being a bit shallow sometimes.

hi OP, please try not to feel too hurt by this, there’s so much more to you than approval from others, particularly if that approval comes in the form of sexualisation by men. try and reframe your way of thinking about beauty standards in general, it breaks my heart to see a woman who im sure has so many wonderful, interesting and unique qualities reduce herself to a numerical value that can only be based on sexist societal ideals. you are not a ‘5’, you’re a human being, and there is so much more to you, and to your friend, than can be judged by your appearances and specifically your attractiveness to men. big hugs OP 🩷

No but I’ve actually never been clubbing or hit the bar scene and now I’m in my 40s and not keen to start.