How often are you complimented on your looks

[Gerbil12]

In particular by people you've just met. Have been out with a very attractive friend tonight who has had men fawning over her/complimenting her whilst I was just ignored as usual. I'm probably a 5 but I don't think my physical appearance has ever been complimented by a stranger. Feeling a bit crap. Does this happen to other people?

I get complimented on my hair pretty much every time I leave the house.

I'm no spring chicken 😁 so will take it as it comes!

Thank you @Miloandfreddy but unfortunately I really am.
Massive nose, thin lips, flat chested. Extremely thin hair. I could go on and on.

Never.

Not really by strangers, colleagues may say ‘you look nice today’.

In my 20’s it wasn’t uncommon for me to receive a compliment or two 💁🏼‍♀️ but since having kids, they get all the ‘oh, aren’t you cute.. look at your eyes’ type comments.

My kids sometimes say that I haven’t got ‘those purple patches under my eyes’ - does that pass as a compliment? It really feels like one 😂

Sometimes. & its not just men, which is nice.

Fancy describing yourself as a '5' tho. What 'league' is that from?! You're too hung up on your friend's looks. Have other things to do instead of just going out with her, watching for men talking to her and then comparing yourself.

A woman doesn't have to be beautiful to attract a man, or only beautiful women would have a partner. & thats very obviously not the case in life. I bet this '5' thing is something an incel type dickhead has said online. It does no good reading and buying into all that nonsense either.

I get comments about my hair a few times a week. Nothing else. I don’t really think my hair looks great so I get a bit bemused by it and it makes me feel self conscious

Rarely!

Not often now, but very often when I used to hang out in gay clubs in my 20s, aeons ago. Gay men in particular would make a big fuss about me, tell me I was beautiful, lovely, and so on.

Was quite sweet really. I miss that scene, it was so friendly. All shut down and moved to Brighton now, I am told (and I live abroad so even if they were still there I wouldn't be hanging out there!).

A lot , from men and women

In my teens, twenties and early thirties it happened very regularly. It's always so awkward.

Then I got ill and got fat and only my dc and my dp tell me I'm beautiful now. I much prefer it tbh.

I get stopped multiple times a day and complimented on my dog though. I love that.

Every time I go out socially from men. Now and again from other women.

I sometimes get told I’m pretty. I’m fat though so I assume they’re trying to console me. I still get chatted up occasionally. Usually when I’m dancing as I’m smiley, happy, and unselfconscious when I’m in the music zone. I’m pushing 50.

Yes I do have this quite often but honestly I had a horrible time dating for a long time and was so unhappy these compliments never made me happy. I'm now happily married :) I do find I never know how to respond to compliments though

My son will fairly often say something about my beautiful bald shiny head but he's being rude and it's nothing of the sort. Still love him.

All the time as a child I was my mums little doll to show off 🙄 and often when a younger adult

my friends daughters I will always remark on how clever, smart, kind they are before their looks

I had this happen a fair few times between my late teens and early thirties but it’s fair to say almost every single instance was unwelcome and honestly pervy/letchy.

It’s happened from work colleagues and senior bosses and randoms when out with friends or alone travelling to and from work.

I remember once evening mid week waiting for the tube home after work and a man on the opposite platform started catcalling me, first complementing me on my shoes (bright red stilettos, so admittedly quite eye catching) and then trying to engage in conversation (name, where I’ve been, where I’m going etc). I tried to ignore by fixating on reading emails on my blackberry (yes this was more than 15 years ago!) and he disappeared……only to pop up on the platform next to me, telling me I should stay, talk to him and go get a drink. Thankfully my tube had just pulled up so I was able to make a hasty exit.

Thankfully I’m now older and married so I’m not the target audience for these types of men anymore.

Never. But that's mainly because I'm fugly.

I do, by men and women. It used to drive my best friend mad. I find it really reassuring that it still happens since I’ve had kids. I’ll be really sad the day it stops 🙈😂

Do you mean looks as in pretty or attractive or body shape/figure?

The former - rarely. I'm ok, but nothing head turning.
The latter - more often. I am tall and slim and do a lot of exercise. People will say they can tell I'm fit.

All day,every day. It's a cross I have to bear.

often, I don’t like it as I don’t think I am that superficial but a few stick out, the ones that are creepy. Walking around hand in hand with my partner and having a random man come up quite abruptly to us and tell my partner ‘your wife is beautiful’ no smile, no emotion just a very straightforward manner which freaked us both out to be fair.

it was sunny the other day and I decided to put on a nice dress and a little make up, popped over to my neighbours house and got told something similar by her. I always get flustered and feel uncomfortable

Thoughts and prayers 🙏

My youngest son DS6 is the only person who has commented on my looks in the past ten years. But he thinks I'm so beautiful that it "gives him tears in his heart" so I can live with that 🤣

Rarely, has happened a handful of times in the past but that's it.

In my teens, twenties and thirties, very frequently. Now mid fifties - never. I have to say I much prefer being ignored. I love the invisability that age has brought. I can relax, knowing no ones looking anymore.I've been in a relationship since 21. Maybe I'd feel differently if single. I doubt it though.